Intimate Interactions

Today, Robin Beach from sexwithrobin.com talks metamours. She’s a sex educator, radio host, former stripper, former dominatrix, and current mom. How do you relate to the partners of your partners? Is it like sibling rivalry? What does it mean if love is unlimited but time isn’t?

As a twice diagnosed ADHD person, I adopt the social model of disability where rather than see a person as disabled for having a different human experience, I view the centering of certain types of people in society and the construction of society around that supposedly ideal person to be the thing that is disabling. ADHD can cause horrific executive dysfunction and can absolutely be a detriment,...

When you’re not talking about sex, how do you negotiate consent? Why is talking about how we make agreements a useful thing to do? Former director of the Consent Academy in Seattle and current marriage and family counsellor Sar Surmick joins us today to chat about this and more. If consent is important to you, let’s talk about it. If it isn’t important to you, it might be worth reflecting on why....

Reinventing oneself is no simple process. Ragehell has done it a few times. Today we chat about self deprecation and self sabotage but also self reassurance, cuddling, group massage, and the supports that often help with reinvention. Ragehell also was highly motivated to reinvent herself each time, and finding a deep sense of why you’re doing it can help a lot. While there are episodes coming up a...

Rage Hell is here to talk to us about facing fears, living your life, practicing comfort with discomfort, embracing awkwardness, supporting each other, and playing roller derby. Lots about roller derby. I’ve been peripherally familiar with roller derby as I have a friend on a national team, but do my best to let Ragehell tell the story here on Intimate Interactions.

Emotional labour and blindness are two important topics when discussing how men find themselves after lifetimes of being subjected to toxic masculinity. Whether we owe our fathers, mothers, or societies isn’t really the point. Given how high suicide rates are among men, the need for more of a nurturance culture for men and breaking the silence around mental illness is great. Today I chat with my c...

William chats today about sleep-walking through life. We discuss his separation from his wife, the need of purpose or meaning in life, confronting fear, how we spend the time of our lives, mindfulness, and ptsd. Content warning for near death experiences, and if relevant to you, two assigned-male-at-birth people talking about toxic masculinity.

What does health and wellness look like if you’re trying to just get your body moving again after a long period of being sedentary? Many of us post COVID-19 vaccination are grappling with the cost of life-saving inactivity? Well, we’re fortunate to have Lisa Tamati back, our Maori ultramarathoner extraordinaire. You don’t have to run the equivalent of the circumference of the Earth more than once...

Today, I continue my conversation with William. If you recall, he’s the cishet man who had a near death experience forcing him to confront addiction and other dysfunctional coping. We chat about intellectualizing feelings as a form of avoiding feeling them, inner child therapy, reconciling with parents, our stories we tell ourselves about our lives, reframing, and the role family plays for us now.

Lisa Tamati, our Maori ultramarathoner friend who has competed in somewhere around 140 marathons, is back to chat with us about doing the impossible. A mistress of mindset, Lisa chats with us about belief - belief ourselves, but also in people who believe in us. With the feats of stamina and endurance she’s achieved in her life, I can think of few better qualified to speak on the topic. Also plent...

Today I reconnect with my friend William. He’s a distant acquaintance with whom I never really forged a connection of substance but now all that’s changing. He’s a heterosexual cis man who recently had a near death experience. This forced him to confront a history of distracting himself from what was important. Whether it was gaming or alcohol then, it’s become therapy now. We discuss therapy, med...

Lisa Tamati is many things. She’s Maori [m-ow-ree] from Aotearoa [ow-tay-uh-row-uh], or as settlers call it, New Zealand. The Maori use the word iwi for band or tribe, meaning bone. It signifies a lineage and ancestral connection, but that metaphor communicates strength and resilience to me across language barriers, and I still see that strength and resilience today in communities continuing to su...

I decided to revise the format of the show two days ago when this was recorded. I'm going to try to include helpful tips or advice when discussing difficult or depressing stuff. I've always been personal development focused, so this feels more in line with my values. The show is also going to get shorter unless the episode commands more time. I'm currently aiming for about a twenty minute runtime...

Post pandemic hope, threesomes, hot tubs, sex parties, touch starvation, and lots more get covered today with my friend Robin Beatch. She mentions Black Noir, a history of Black folx in movies and films. She also hosts Sex with Robin on BFM 109.6 every monday at 10AM PST. If you would like, check her out at sexwithrobin.com. One last thing she mentions is the similarities she experienced between p...

Who doesn’t want to talk about masturbation and first orgasms? Lauren and I tell stories and share about our experiences and relationships to our sexual selves.

Consent is so relative to the culture in which you’re interacting. I almost perceive it as the most important kind of etiquette a culture practices; however how a culture practices consent can look wildly different one to the next. In my opinion, there’s no long linear string of evolution of concepts from touching and grunting through to highly intellectual discussion and negotiation. Instead ther...

After a fall damaged her shoulder and she needed surgery to fix it, Billie has waited eighteen months so far due to various complications. Today we talk about chronic stress, strategies, and symptoms. We also talk about medical testing and explain what POTS is.

Edging describes the process of getting close to your orgasm and then allowing your body to move further away from orgasm for the purpose of climbing back up to orgasm, closer each time. Doing this can increase the intensity of the eventual orgasm. We chat about edging, sensuality, erectile dysfunction, edging exercises, antidepressants, masturbating a penis with a very tight grip, and of course t...

From extreme sex to vanilla sex, what does experimentation look like for you? Vanilla sex here means sex that isn’t kinky in any way, usually referring to penis-in-vagina missionary position. We talk about first BDSM scenes, extreme experiences, and then settling back into what feels more like home for us, the experiences that we continue to feel fed by. Enjoy!

This session we talk about needs for emotionally well, embodied, and connected masculinity and role-models for boys and men. We offer resources and chat about our agreements. On gender, I resonate strongly with both masculine and feminine feels in ways that are often perceived by cis men as different or other or in some way either gay or just not cis or perhaps both. I think of it as nonbinary or...

cw: mob violence, violence against women, witnessing disturbing images as a child Today we were going to talk about fires but ran into a trauma landmine so I figured we'd run the episode anyways and instead try to talk more about landmines. Unfortunately this episode does contain violence against an 18 year old woman and ongoing trauma from seeing disturbing images at 13. Props to Billie's friend...

What does a village look like when you’re raising a child? Does it need to be only two parents? What about uncles or aunts? What about the parents across the street? Today we chat with sex educator and host of the radio show Sex With Robin on BFM 109.6 every Monday at 10AM PST. You can learn more about my friend Robin at sexwithrobin.com

Lauren shares with us openly today about working through trauma to find her sexual self. We talk about relationship to self, trauma, panic attacks, sexual abuse, and the light at the end of the tunnel. Content warning for all the things I just described. Still, if you’re resourced for it, please join Lauren and myself as we tackle these hard subjects with care and kindness.

Permission to exist sexually is something I’ve craved since I was a teenager. Whether you’re queer or not, sometimes it’s really hard to learn how to exist with kindness and compassion for yourself, and without that it can be hard to give it to others. Today we’re talking with Court Vox about how we as a society give or deny permission for sexual exploration. Interestingly, this often hinges aroun...

cw: graphic depictions of needles at the end A former psych nurse and dominatrix talks about the pleasure, pain, risk, and intimacy of needle play. Don’t you love it when moms open up? The mom in question today is sex educator and host of the radio show Sex With Robin on BFM 109.6 every monday at 10AM PST. You can learn more about my friend Robin at sexwithrobin.com