Intelligent Intoxication

There is a small chain of fun and comfortable bookstores in Seattle called Third Place Books in which community members are invited to “browse, linger, lounge, relax, read, eat, laugh, play, talk, listen, and just watch the world go by”. “Sociologist Ray Oldenberg suggests that each of us needs three places: first is the home; second is the workplace or school; and beyond lies the place where peop...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

When we push ourselves to get results that feel “too much” or we’re forcing outcomes “too fast” or “too soon”, we may wind up with a dysregulated nervous system.    I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice pushing or forcing because you’re “right” and ending up dysregulated and stressed? How does your body tell you that you’re nearing or have surpassed your capacity? How commit...

This week, I made the decision to not renew my I.C.F. coaching certification and I really like my reasons for not doing so.  I invite you to consider these questions: When have you looked outside yourself for external approval or permission? What were you believing about yourself when you did so? Who do you allow to “qualify” your gifts and talents? If you didn’t need validation or approval going...

Anger is not a problem - it is a helpful, useful emotion that can instigate positive action. Anger only becomes problematic when we react to our anger or direct it at others.  I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to feel your anger? How often do you react to anger and direct it toward others? When do you notice becoming immobilized or shut down in anger? What can anger tea...

Is it really true that we can only really know who we are in juxtaposition to others? I invite you to consider these questions: When does it serve you to compare yourself to others? When doesn’t it? When does it serve you to compete with others? When doesn’t it? When do you compare your gifts and talents to the strengths of others? When do you compare your passionate talents to the interests of ot...

When we believe that “one size SHOULD fit all”, we unconsciously believe that there’s no room for being or doing things “differently”.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you expect yourself to think or feel the way others do? When do you expect others to think or feel the way that you do? When are you resistant to ask for what you really need? When do you feel like you don’t have a...

Tattling is not the same thing as “informing”. In fact, “cancel culture” is just another type of “tattling”.  When we inform, our intention is to provide someone with information in order to EMPOWER them or someone else.  When we tattle (cancel), our intention is to BLAME them or someone else, thereby ensuring that someone is: punished publicly shamed overpowered humiliated inferior When we tattle...

“Starting where we are” means to allow the present moment to be your baseline - the starting point from which you can measure your continuous progress.  I invite you to consider these questions: What’s your “baseline” starting point in regard to your: health? life satisfaction and enjoyment? energy level? passion or excitement?   I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary h...

We must be willing to celebrate our progress. We tend to look at how much we still have to do, yet we must equally measure our progress and celebrate it fully.  I invite you to consider these questions: What progress have you made: today? this week? this month? this year? What prevents you from celebrating your progress?   I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary happy ho...

There’s a difference between being introverted and being socially anxious.  Introverted people tend to: recharge from within enjoy solitary pursuits relax and unwind alone A person who struggles with social anxiety may experience: worry about doing something embarrassing in public avoid interacting with people get fixated on potential “screw-ups” in social settings feel frustrated and lonely becau...

Because we’re human beings with human brains and bodies, we are going to get triggered at times when we’re in a social setting or scrolling on social media.  We tend to get triggered when we compare ourselves to others in regard to: appearance/attractiveness/clothing wealth/income education/intelligence gifts/talents/strengths social status/relationship status success/achievements career/job child...

As a classroom teacher, I’d have my math students complete the “three most difficult problems” first. My reasoning was this - if they could successfully solve the most difficult problems, there was zero need for them to do any of the other problems.  In your professional or personal life, what tasks are your most difficult? Get in the habit of doing these tasks first in order to “buy back” time or...

When we don’t get “equal air time” or feel seen or heard, we may feel excluded, rejected, or left out.  I invite you to consider these questions: When someone else gets “more time” than you do, how do you tend to respond? Do you tend to: fight for equal air time? run away from the situation because it feels too stressful? shut down and feel incapable of speaking up? tip into people-pleasing in an...

We can “have our own backs” before, during, and after triggering or stressful situations.  Before you enter the stressful/triggering situation/environment, try this: tell yourself the truth: “I don’t want to go.” take control of the decision to go: “I’m deciding to go.” decide the minimum amount of time you’re willing to be there: “I’m willing to be there for 20 minutes or until I… “ While you’re...

In education, a LEARNING CONTRACT is an agreement between a student and a teacher regarding what the student is responsible for learning and completing.  We, too, have “learning contracts” in our relationships. When you feel an energetic charge (positive or negative) with another person, you share a “learning contract”.  I invite you to consider these questions: With whom do you share a learning c...

When we keep things that we don’t love or use, we are sacrificing valuable space to store these items.  We unconsciously keep and store more than possessions. We also receive: opinions advice comments compliments criticisms obligations expectations “shoulds” I invite you to consider these questions: Which possessions are you tired of keeping or storing? Which opinions, advice, comments, compliment...

Here’s my working definition of “bright lines”:  “Anything that is clear and - not murky or questionable.” In her books Bright Line Eating and Rezoom, author Susan Pierce Thompson teaches a “bright line” approach to ending food addiction: no sugar no flour measure the quantity of food you eat establish consistent meal times “Bright lines are boundaries that you just don’t cross, no matter what. An...

Every Monday, I tackle any “unfinished business”. Here’s my working definition of “unfinished business”:  “Any task, project, or commitment that’s been considered or started yet not finished, completed, or closed.” I invite you to consider these questions: What have you started yet not finished or completed? Do you still want to complete it? Do you have the same sustainable energy to complete it?...