Initiated Survivor

In this bittersweet farewell episode of Initiated Survivor, I reflect on the incredible journey this podcast has been and my gratitude for this amazing chapter in my life. Though the podcast is ending, my commitment to working with survivors continues through therapy, workshops, and professional trainings. I want to give a special thanks to all the courageous survivors and supporters who've contri...

I have a wonderful conversation with Michelle Hirschman of Hirschman Clinical Services on the topic of vicarious trauma among helping professionals. Michelle shares her extensive experience working with a team of mobile coaches who assist clients with chronic mental health issues, eating disorders, and substance abuse. We discuss the importance of recognizing signs of burnout and the unique suppor...

This episode, I welcome back Meghan Goode, a fellow therapist and survivor, to discuss the intricate overlap between professional lives and personal traumas as therapists. We explore the concept of the 'wounded healer' and emphasize the importance of continuous self-care and therapy for professionals exposed to trauma. Meghan shares her journey, highlighting how her own traumatic experiences fuele...

In this episode, I have Kelly Johnson, a writer, public speaker, and community engagement professional back on the podcast to discuss the concept of the 'palatable victim' within sexual violence narratives. We talk about societal and cultural expectations that define a 'palatable' victim, contrasting these with the reality faced by many survivors. We also highlight the struggles survivors face in...

This episode, I welcome back Justine Cross, a BDSM consultant and dominatrix, and Rena Martine, an intimacy coach and former deputy district attorney to the podcast. Justine and Rena share their expertise in creating safe, shame-free spaces for trauma survivors to explore their sexuality. We explore the concepts of trauma-informed sexual practices, importance of consent, and taking gradual steps i...

In this episode, I talk about vicarious trauma and its similarities to burnout. I will cover what vicarious trauma is, symptoms, and real-life examples of vicarious trauma in helping professionals. I’ll also share the importance of recognizing and addressing vicarious trauma to prevent the development of chronic PTSD. I’ll discuss systemic factors contributing to vicarious trauma and the impact on...

In this episode, we’re shifting from gender-based violence to the unique challenges faced by all healthcare professionals — from psychologists and therapists to emergency responders. Addressing the high risk of burnout and compassion fatigue, I’m explaining how these professionals are uniquely vulnerable due to their roles. Burnout is characterized by chronic, unresolved stress leading to signific...

Welcome back to Part Three of Ask a Psychologist Anything! In this episode, I address the frequently asked question: 'How do I get my loved one to go to therapy?' While many people wish for their loved ones to go to therapy, the key takeaway is that you can't force anyone to go. I’ll talk about how therapy is not the only path to healing, alternative support methods, the importance of...

In this episode, I talk about the value and role of emotional support animals (ESAs) in mental health and trauma recovery. I’ll cover what ESAs are, the differences between ESAs and service animals, and the benefits of having an ESA, such as improved mental health, increased social interaction, and better routine management. I’ll also answer some common questions, like how to get an ESA, the types...

On this episode of Initiated Survivor, my friend and empowerment coach, April Arielli, shares her inspiring story of overcoming trauma and finding her calling as a life, relationship, and career coach. From surviving a harrowing experience to finding healing through yoga and skydiving, April's journey is a testament to resilience and reclaiming one's power. April shares how she empowers others to...

This episode, I have special guest Brialynn Massie on the podcast to discuss the creation of their upcoming film 'I Need You To Stay'. The film aims to tackle the Hollywood stigma and misconceptions surrounding BPD through the story of its protagonist, Kira, who is in remission from BPD. We touch on themes such as the systemic issues of misogyny and white supremacy in the diagnosis and treatment o...

In this episode of Initiated Survivor, I’ll discuss the vital role of social support and community in the process of recovering from trauma. I will talk about the innate human need for connection, and how isolation exacerbates feelings of insecurity and depression, while the sense of belonging fosters healing and a sense of safety. I will share practical ways those in recovery can find and integra...

In this episode, I talk about the power of group therapy and community for those recovering from traumatic experiences. I’ll discuss the emotional isolation people often experience in the aftermath of traumatic events, and how this can be exacerbated by societal factors. I’ll share some personal experiences on how participating in group activities, such as restorative yoga classes and virtual work...

In this episode, we delve deep into Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and complex trauma. We discuss the stigma associated with these conditions, their links to past trauma, their effects on personality and social behavior, and how they are often misunderstood. I’ll talk about the traits and symptoms of BPD, the relationship between BPD and complex trauma...

As survivors, we understand the experience of being wronged and the desire to make a positive impact in the world. With so much happening at this moment, it can feel overwhelming. However, one effective tool we have in our fight for a better future is activism. By standing up for our values within our local community, we can create meaningful change. In this episode of 'Initiated Survivor'...

Diet culture permeates every facet of our lives. We have to eat food to live, but when our relationship to food becomes complicated, we can quickly lose control and fall into disordered eating habits due to the societal pressures all around us. In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing the incredible Devon Cole, RD, MS, a registered dietitian specializing in intuitive eating and trauma r...

We are back for another round of Ask a Psychologist Anything. In this episode, I dive into various topics related to trauma, vulnerability management, therapist-client relations, and the balance between triggers and optimism. We discuss the balance between pushing for change and taking care of ourselves, the concept of the window of tolerance, and how it affects our emotional well-being. Join me a...

We've got something special for you on Initiated Survivor for the Holiday Season! Join us as we revisit a past episode called  "Holiday Survival Skills."  I know that the holidays can be a bit overwhelming, especially with all the family dynamics, financial pressures, and cultural stressors. But we've got some practical strategies to help you handle it all. We'll show you how...

In this episode, I had the honor of interviewing Kate Burns, a survivor and poet. We delved deep into her healing journey and the importance of community support. Kate shared her experiences of initially struggling to trust men and the significance of allowing survivors to fully own their feelings without judgment. She also discussed the creation of her emotional emergency care kit and the power o...

Dedeker Winston was last on the podcast to discuss her somatic practitioner training and how somatic experience can help you on your recovery journey. Today, she shares her story of surviving domestic violence in one of her romantic partnerships. Dedeker talks about what it was like leaving an abusive relationship, the challenges and rewards of practicing non-monogamy, and the importance of commun...

In this episode, I delve into the topic of connecting with our inner wildness, specifically through the archetypal figure of the wild woman and the symbolism of wolves. Drawing from my personal experiences and insights gained from the book "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola Estés, I discuss the importance of reclaiming our wildness to heal from trauma and reconnect with...

In this episode of Initiated Survivor, I’m opening up and sharing my personal experience with trauma anniversaries and how I navigated my 10 Year Anniversary of Sexual Assault. I discuss what trauma anniversaries are, how they affect survivors, and share coping strategies for getting through them. One of these key tools that I found helpful was the power of ritual and ceremony in trauma recovery....

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Rena Martine, a women's intimacy expert and ex-sex crimes Deputy District Attorney, about the intersection of trauma and sexuality. We discussed how coaches can work towards a more inclusive and less colonized approach to supporting survivors, as well as the healing potential of BDSM and Kink. Rena shared her insights and expertise on how su...

In this episode, I sit down with Kaleigh Cornelison, an expert working with youth ages 14-24 on issues including relationships, identity, sexual health, and life transitions. We dive into the topic of consent culture and pleasure-based sex education, especially for LGBTQ+ youth. We discuss the challenges and opportunities of teaching consent culture and how to model consent in different situations...

Welcome back to Ask a Psychologist Anything! In Part One, I answered questions about sensory processing disorders, being an ally, and being a support system. In this 2nd installment, we tackle PTSD, coping with triggers, navigating dating as a survivor, and finding a good fit therapist. I offer practical strategies for soothing the body's response to triggers, as well as how to move forward and id...