In Bed with Koaty & Sumner

What if queer travel could be more than parties and pool floats? In this week’s In Bed with Koaty & Sumner, we’re literally in bed with Randle Roper, CEO and co-founder of VACAYA — the world’s first large-scale LGBTQ+ vacation company built on radical inclusivity. 🌈 From all-gay cruises to resort takeovers in Puerto Vallarta, Randle shares how VACAYA is creating safe, affirming, and wildly fu...

What happens when your ex keeps sending you money, your boyfriend disappears into afterparties, or your “open” relationship starts feeling more like an Olympic event in emotional regulation? This week, we’re diving into five confessions that live at the messy, magnetic intersection of ego, intimacy, and queer identity. In this episode of Blayne It On Us, Sumner and Koaty unpack stories that hit a...

This week on we have a full episode of Blayne It On Us, where we read your confessions on are and give our take on it. We had lots of submissions this time, and we picked 4.  We’re diving deep into the messy, magnetic, and totally relatable world of jealousy and open love. From silent resentment to throuple drama, we are breaking down listener confessions that prove one thing — even the most healt...

What does it mean to come out, build a community, and launch a porn career at 21 in 2025? In this episode, we sit down with James Ash, one of the newest young voices in queer adult entertainment, to talk about growing up in London, moving to Australia, and what Gen Z is doing differently in porn. We compare our own coming out journeys to his, swap stories about queer culture shocks, and dive into...

In this raw and hopeful episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne dive into the reality of friendships shifting in your 30s. From recognizing when friends no longer fit the life you’re building, to spotting signs it’s time to move on, they explore grief, growth, and gaining clarity. With a mix of humor and honesty, they share personal stories, couple banter, and practical advice for letting go gracefully —...

It’s football season, and in this episode of In Bed with Koaty & Sumner we talk about what the game means for our relationship. 🏈 Koaty grew up surrounded by football—at home, at Penn State, and while living in Philadelphia—while Sumner wasn’t really exposed to it much at all. Over time, he’s become a fan through Koaty’s love for the sport. We share how trying the things your partner loves ca...

Koaty and Sumner Blayne are taking In Bed With Koaty and Sumner overseas—podcasting from a bed in Japan while Koaty’s on a work trip. After a quick life update, we debut our brand-new segment, Blayne It On Us, where listeners send anonymous confessions and questions about relationships, sex, friendship, money, and other gay topics. We respond with unfiltered humor, raw honesty, and our trademark m...

This week, we’re diving deep—literally and emotionally. Koaty and Sumner open up about how adult toys transformed our sex life and brought us closer as a couple. From our first unrealistic dildo to designing our very own double penetration mold with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, this episode is all about pleasure, trust, and play. We’re talking: Why toys aren’t a last resort—they’re the gateway to emotional...

In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector. Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers wi...

This week, we’re in bed with the one and only Dr. Chris Donaghue—sex therapist, author, and queer truth-teller behind the book  Rebel Love . We dive deep into the messy beauty of queer intimacy, ethical sex, and rewriting every outdated rule we’ve been told about love and relationships. From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radic...

We’re joined by therapist and author Tom Bruett, whose book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men has genuinely impacted our relationship. In this honest and vulnerable conversation, we dive deep into the two stages that rocked us the most: Differentiation and Exploration. We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you wa...

In this vulnerable and validating episode, Koaty shares the emotional journey behind cutting off his father—and the years of narcissistic behavior, gaslighting, and betrayal that led up to it. We explore how hard it can be to draw boundaries with a parent, especially when manipulation is masked as love. From financial deception to emotional abuse, we break down the signs of a narcissistic parent,...

From church pews to OnlyFans views. In this episode, Sumner opens up about growing up Mormon—from blessing sacrament trays as a teenager to being interrogated by bishops about masturbation (yep, really). Koaty plays Mormon Mythbusters and finds out just how weird—and wildly repressive—Sumner’s childhood really was. We get into sex shame, secret Mormon wife culture, sacred underwear, and how leavin...

"Hey!!! We just got back from Puerto Vallarta, where we were nominated for three awards at the very first International Content Creator Awards (aka the ICCAs)… and we took home Best Podcast! 🏆 In this episode, we’re sharing all the highlights: from the content house vibes to the red carpet feels, and what it meant to be surrounded by so many creators in one space. We also open up about the mental...

Skinny jeans are out. Baggy cargos are in. Harnesses? Always timeless. In this episode, Sumner & Koaty Blayne dive headfirst into the messy, sexy, and sometimes downright busted world of gay men’s fashion. From growing up in skin-tight clubwear to navigating the oversized streetwear takeover, they spill all the tea. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-wi...

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their full journey through circuit party culture—from wild weekends, outfit changes, and hookup chaos to burnout, boundaries, and slowing the hell down. We reflect on how the circuit brought us together, tested our relationship, boosted our OnlyFans, and eventually wore us out. We’re not anti-party—we’re just pro-evolution. Plus: a chaotic gam...

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their evolving relationship with kink, not as experts or full-time fetish freaks, but as a couple learning to be more curious, more communicative, and way less judgmental. We explore how getting older has made us more open to trying things we once avoided, and how shame can sneak into the bedroom even in the most loving relationships. From spl...

In this spicy and thought-provoking episode of In Bed with Koaty and Sumner, we’re diving into the wild world of AI, sexbots, and the future of intimacy. As technology advances, virtual partners and hyper-realistic sex dolls are shaking up relationships—so where do we draw the line? We explore whether AI companions are enhancing or replacing real human connection, debate if having a virtual AI par...

Season 2 of In Bed with Koaty & Sum kicks off with a bang! We’re diving into one of the wildest, most productive weeks Koaty has ever had! For seven days leading up to the GAYVN Awards in Las Vegas, he stayed in a content house with some of the biggest OnlyFans creators—all set up by his agent. His goal? To film 11 collabs. But, of course, things didn’t always go as planned. Sumner, who does d...

In this episode, we dive into the topic of physical intimacy and how it plays a crucial role in our relationship. We open up about how often we need it, the highs and lows of our sex drives, and how we’ve learned to balance and meet each other’s needs. We also get real about the challenges—what happens when one of us feels like it’s not enough or when the dynamic starts to feel one-sided. Join us...

On this episode, the couple dives deep into the art of maximizing your experience as a bottom. From preparation tips and mindset shifts to their favorite techniques for enhancing pleasure, they share honest, uncensored advice based on their own experiences. They also discuss how communication, trust, and self-awareness can elevate your confidence in the bedroom, ensuring every moment feels empower...

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner dive into the complexities of life as a gay couple in the spotlight. They discuss navigating the highs and lows of being a social media duo, their experiences filming threesomes and exploring studio adult content with SeanCody, and the challenges of balancing personal and professional dynamics. Reflecting on their hardest year together, they open up about mental h...

Hey everyone, it’s Koaty and Sumner, and on this episode, we’re getting real (and a little cheeky) about something that affects way more people than you’d think: erectile dysfunction! We’re diving into ED myths, true-or-false games, and some fun facts that you probably haven’t heard before. Whether you’re curious, concerned, or just here for the laughs, we’ve got you covered with a mix of humor an...

We are beyond excited to share that we’ve officially chosen Villa de Amore as the perfect venue for our wedding! In this video, we’re taking you inside our wedding planning process as a gay couple, sharing all the details about why this venue spoke to us and how we’re organizing every step to create our dream LGBTQ+ wedding. If you’re looking for wedding tips or need help managing wedding stress,...

We’re Koaty and Sumner Blayne, a gay couple engaged and building our dream life together. In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most frequently asked questions we get—how do we make an ‘open-ish’ relationship work? For us, the answer is simple: we’re emotionally monogamous but sexually open. We’ve figured out how to maintain deep love and trust while embracing freedom and exploration. Bein...