IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

"Send Ben a text" Your Model vs Your Teen's Model The Self-Coaching Model is at play in your life, your teen's life, and everyone's life.  Your model can even have the same circumstance as your teen's model.  In fact, I've seen teens simply adopt their parent's models, and have identical models.  So here's the most important thing to understand when it...

"Send Ben a text" What Are Traditions?   What are YOUR Traditions? Why Do You Keep Your Traditions? Create Impactful Traditions Powerful Traditions in My Life  If You Want to Create an Impactful Tradition  Do it! Commit to it.  Feel free to share why you're doing it, of just keep it to yourself.  Traditions are a powerful force in humanity.  Harness that power and be intentional wit...

"Send Ben a text" What's the Best Gift You Give Your Teen? This time of year, parents around the world are wondering what to give their teens.  They want the perfect gift. One that their teen will like and actually use.  Parents are looking for that gift that's stylish enough that their teen will like it, but timeless enough that it will last.  The truth is, the perfect gift fo...

"Send Ben a text" Your Teen WANTS You To Connect with Them This might come as a shock to you, but your teen WANTS you to connect with them.  I know what you might be thinking, "Not MY teen. They want nothing to do with me." I know, it probably seems that way, but I promise you, your teen wants connection.  Your teen wants to belong.  They want to be praised and appreciated.  Th...

"Send Ben a text" This is an unplanned, unscripted, interview! Make sure you listen to this episode because I won't do it justice here in the show notes.  Emily Wardrop is an awesome friend and amazing life coach for parents. I really enjoyed this conversation with her, and I'm sure you will too.  On the Same Team On this podcast we talk about being on the same team rather than...

"Send Ben a text" Your Stories Are Making You Unhappy One of the things I've noticed recently is that there are a lot of unhappy parents and teens out there.  This is something that I've been coaching on regularly for the past several months.  And, to be honest, this is something that I've been struggling with in my own life recently.  Then recently I heard my coach say, ....

"Send Ben a text" This is an unplanned, unscripted, interview! Make sure you listen to this episode because I won't do it justice here in the show notes.  Arthur C. Woods is an awesome friend and amazing life coach for teens. I really enjoyed this conversation with him.  Stages of Growth! Discovery: Discovering who you are and who you want to be. Defining: Defining and deciding who...

"Send Ben a text" I'm Grateful for YOU! I wanted to take a minute and express my gratitude for you! I'm grateful for you and your efforts as a parent.  I'm grateful for your time, for your attention, and for your desire to grow.  Thank you for your support!  The Power Of Gratitude Recently I've been doing a lot of coaching on emotions.  Here's what I've lear...

"Send Ben a text" Why Do Parents Stop Growing? Recently I was talking to a dad and he said something to the effect of, "Why do we quit growing as parents and adults?" He went on to say that as a parent, he feels like he's supposed to know everything and be perfect and that working on his own personal growth would make him look silly, like he doesn't know everything an...

"Send Ben a text" When we bring awareness to our emotions we can better understand them. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.  Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confide...

"Send Ben a text" Slow Progress is Still Progress Progress is a Process Progress is Personal/Individual Progress Has a Purpose Join My BE The Change Challenge! Let's go back to the basics! Join my BE The Change Challenge on Facebook.  Listen to my first 5 episodes and share your progress on Facebook.  YES! I WANT TO JOIN THE CHALLENGE! Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the...

"Send Ben a text" Humans Overcomplicate Things If you're like most people, you're probably guilty of overcomplicating things.  This is in our human nature.  Your Subconscious Mind Loves Simplicity Your subconscious is craving simplicity.  We think we want complicated, and all the bells and whistles, but what we really want is simplicity. Over-Complication Leads to Overwhelm  La...

"Send Ben a text" Why Don't People Change? Everyone wants to change!  But, very few people actually create the change that they are looking for.  Why is that? Why don't people change; or, why don't people create the change that they are looking for? Today we're going to explore 2 things.  What keeps people from change, in general? . . . And, . . .  What's keeping...

"Send Ben a text" FREE Taming Your Emotional Monsters Training SOON! We're hosting a free Family Home Evening style training on Monday, October 10th, @ 6:00 pm MDT.  Is Fear Holding You Back? Tips for How To Face Your Fears Identify and Acknowledge Your Fear Get to know what you're afraid of. Understand it. Acknowledge that you are afraid and that it’s okay. Mentally Go There I...

"Send Ben a text" Tips for How To Stop Over-Thinking and Reprogramming Your Mind The Fist Step is awareness.  The Second Step is to manage your attention. The Third Step is to make things simple.  The Fourth Step is to practice ways of BEING. And the Fifth and Final Step is to trust yourself.  The Firmly Founded Family theme for October is:  Facing Your Fears! On Monday, October 10th, 20...

"Send Ben a text" Negotiation is Important Sometimes I say things that go completely against the grain.  This might be one of those things that might be different from what you've learned.  But I'm going to say it.  Negotiation with your teen IS IMPORTANT! After years of working with teens. one thing I've learned is that if you try to control too much of their life, they w...

"Send Ben a text" On today's episode I discuss how most parents are working from the "Doing" model and how we can "BE" the parents of our dreams if we live in the "BEING" model instead. Check out the show notes at FirmlyFoundedParent.com/118 Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free....

"Send Ben a text" Are you interested in joining a service trip to Mexico? Don't know where to start? In this episode I talk with Stacia Chavez a seasoned expert on doing just that. visit achf.org for more information on how to donate or volunteer. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and ey...

"Send Ben a text" Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.  Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-...

"Send Ben a text" Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.  Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-...

"Send Ben a text" On this episode I talk with Allison about the Best Mom Ever virtual summit she is hosting. It is all about helping parents create the relationship they dream of with their teenagers. We're not trying to improve parents. Parents are doing their best. Doing your best is good enough. We want to help parents embrace Growth instead of being fixed as a parent. Brené Brow...

"Send Ben a text" Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen.  Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parent-...

"Send Ben a text" Powerful Communication Principles Seek to first understand, then to be understood. Listen Validate Seek to understand their model What are their circumstances? How do they think? How are they feeling? What are their actions? What are the results they're creating and what results do they want to create? Understand your own model. Show that you either understand, or...

"Send Ben a text" STOP Parenting By Other's Rules! Okay, this is something that's come up in some of my recent 1:1 coaching session, and I wanted to bring this to your attention so you can hopefully STOP Parenting By Other's Rules.  I've seen parents trying to parent according to the rules of their teens, their spouse or ex-spouse, or even their parents or in-laws. Th...

"Send Ben a text" Amanda Walker is AWESOME! Amanda is a member of the Firmly Founded Family, expert on the nervous system, and a parenting life coach.  I don't really structure my podcasts guest episodes.  This episode is not different.  The show notes are going to be limited. So, if you want all the good stuff, you're going to have to listen.  Connect with Amanda here: https:/...