I'm Uncomfortable

We kick off Season 6 by diving into the often nerve-wracking world of first dates. Our listeners shared some of their worst first date experiences, from texting the wrong address to suffering through an entire dinner.  But fear not, we also discuss tips and tricks for having the best first date possible. From making sure you can find your date to showing yourself some compassion, we share som...

What do you do when you're trying to say "no" but they keep reaching out to you? At first, you don't say "no" because you want to spare their feelings, or you try to be nice and offer an explanation, you even apologize when you don't have to and in the end you get endless texts or DMs that make you uncomfortable. In this episode, we: share a time when we've tried to say no and haven't been respect...

From baking sheets to books to sweaters and even ipods, how do you deal with giving an ex their stuff back? We're here to discuss how to approach the stuff swap and share stories that run the range from petty to enlightening. Vanessa shares her "shove it in a bag and drop it off in the dead of night" method vs Melissa's mature two-day discussion with a well-planned exchange of items. There's no ri...

Ever wonder why some people seem so comfortable in relationships, why you avoid them or have been frustrated with how anxious you get? Apparently, each of us has an "attachment style" - secure, anxious, and avoidant - that describes how we form relationships. Which style are you ? 

We're diving deep into why some people seem to have it all and others have nothing at all. In other words, the difference between a scarcity mindset and how to shift into more abundance thinking. Take the quiz with us at https://www.idrlabs.com/abundance-mindset/test.php

AKA "How to tell your boss to go f*** themselves" - we get into it about why boundaries are so hard to set, what setting them can sound like, and what to do when a boundary has been breached. 

Being more mindful and thankful is just three easy steps away! We're going beyond just saying "thank you" this month and exploring a few easy ways you can infuse your life with more gratitude. 

Have you ever felt like an old soul and then found out it's because you've been reincarnated many times? Maybe you've felt stuck or jaded only to realize it's because your aura needs to be cleansed. In this Halloween special episode, we get our tarot cards read for the first time - listen to find out where tarot cards came from and why we may never do it again.

Want to be ridiculously happy? Look no further! Jokes aside, we discuss how little choices can lead to contentment, the discomfort of accepting we've been chasing a future that the Bible likely set out for us, and how to choose enlargement when faced with the question "Will this make me happy?" Article: "Oliver Burkeman's last column: the eight secrets to a (fairly) fulfilled life" (theguardian)&n...

Sometimes social media is amazing! Other times it makes you feel unworthy, annoyed, frustrated or broke. Want to step away but not delete your account in case you can never remember your password again? In this episode, we share tips from us and our listeners on how to manage the time you spend on social media and the way it makes you feel.

What are the benefits of muting/blocking people? What makes it hard to do it? When it comes to this issue, your personal safety and mental health should be the most important thing. This may be just the form of self-care you need.

Ever feel stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts and/or feelings? Well, you aren't alone because Melissa has too! In this episode, Melissa discusses feeling like a liar when she navigates waves of negativity and how she fakes it till she makes it out to the other side.  ---Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/imuncomfortablepod/support

If you've ever been nervous about solo travel, this episode is for you! Vanessa shares about how anxious she initially was, what her experience was like, what she learned, and what it means to come home to yourself.

To wrap up this season, we wanted to take some time to revisit the stress and anxiety of the past because SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED since we last discussed our mental health. We're ready to share what has worked – or not worked – in dealing with the anxiety we were and are experiencing as well as the struggles we still find ourselves facing because understanding and taking care of your mental health tr...

When filling up at Costco costs over $100, you can't find honey under $10, and a box of chamomile tea is over $3...wtf inflation. We try to explain what inflation is - to ourselves - and share what we've done as a response so far. 

Does weighing yourself make you uncomfortable? We discuss what being in "perfect shape" means and talk about the last time we weighed ourselves. Can you guess which one of us made a weight tracker? We get deep into how we all have different relationships with our scales and how to combat negative thoughts that may arise when you look at the number.

Navigating a promotion, moving on to a different opportunity, or exploring a completely new industry to get into…it's all UNCOMFORTABLE! In this episode we discuss:  What about transitioning jobs is uncomfortable Is this the most uncomfortable we've ever been in our jobs What we learned while job hunting Tidbits of advice for others going through any sort of transition in their careers

Have you ever fainted at the gym? Did you discover you have wide hips because of a personal trainer? Which works better for you - the bright lights and printed directions of the Stairmaster at the gym, or a dark heated room with someone yelling motivationally at you?  We even discuss how to go from hating running to liking that prickly sweaty feeling once the jog sets in.

Wouldn't Jakie Chan be cool as a dad? In this episode, we dig into questions like if anything about AAPI month makes us uncomfortable, who our AAPI role models were as kids, our relationship with our "asian-ness", and how our identity affects who we are.

NO can be a complete sentence...so why is it sometimes so hard to say? Guilt, a sense of obligation, not wanting to disappoint others - we dive into what makes saying no so difficult and how we've gotten better at it.

If you've ever felt awkward going to a movie alone or sitting in a rose garden solo while couples take engagement photos, this one's for you. We try taking ourselves on a date - from flowers to cute first date locations, we learn a lot about how uncomfortable and amazing taking yourself out can be.

Turning 30 may or may not be as scary for you as it was for Rachel on Friends, but one thing is for sure - there's a LOT you've probably learned along the way. Join us for a discussion on aging, why we're looking forward to a new decade, and what we value about our 20's.

Which dating app is the best to use? How do you come across as super freaking interesting? Which kind of pic is best? We have no clue.  But if you're looking for a really honest "idk wtf is going on" kind of convo about dating, you're welcome to be uncomfortable with us.

Want to learn how to apologize - and mean it? Saying "I'm sorry" is never enough for an actual apology - and actually apologizing requires a lot of humility, empathy, and vulnerability. We explore the last time we meaningfully apologized, learn the 7 steps towards a sincere apology, and discuss the impact apologies (or a lack thereof) have had on us. 

Mary Jane joins us in this special episode as we share lore about how 4/20 came to be + our first times, worst times, misconceptions about and comfort level around marijuana