I'm Uncomfortable

The 5 Year Plan...a lot can change in five years. Or nothing can change. It's mostly up to you. The idea of creating one can be daunting, and the idea of not having one can leave you feeling behind or unprepared. How do you balance both? At what point are you "done"? When do you rest and enjoy the self improvement and how do you know it's even time? Don't worry. We've bee...

How many times do you pick up your phone during the day? Where is it when you sleep? Is your phone the first thing you reach for when you wake up? The answers to some of these surprised us (in good ways and not...) If you're like us you might be surprised to find you need (according to the quiz) a complete digital detox...here's how to find out, and how you can unplug in ways that feel eas...

What do you say when you're not okay after someone apologizes, and how much time is too much time before giving someone space means you aren't friends? There's nothing worse than feeling like you don't know where you stand after you or the other person apologizes, and we dish on all the times we've both given and accepted apologizes and how it changed things (both for the bette...

Hyperindependent? Same. We’re unpacking how struggling to ask for help is tied to trust and control and what it really means to let people in without losing yourself in the process. For many of us, it’s often less about strength and more about survival. We explore the reasons it’s so hard to let people show up for us, and what it might take to let someone else step up for a change. Follow us on in...

Anxiety’s here — might as well make her useful! We’re talking about how to actually listen to the racing thoughts and spirals instead of avoiding them (which, spoiler alert, makes the anxiety worse). From overthinking to overachieving, tune in for honest confessions and a few “wait… that’s actually me” moments. Because maybe thriving isn’t about being calm — it’s about learning from the chaos. Fol...

Are you the planner? The one who follows up with people? The one who cares how the party turns out? The one who is emotionally exhausted from feeling like nobody cares as much as they do? This may be for you. It's easy to take it personally when a friend is visiting your area...and doesn't visit you. Or when you send out a venmo request and they don't reply for 10 days. The truth is, o...

If someone warned you about the person you're dating, how seriously would you take it? And if you found out a friend's partner was cheating on them or generally being slimy...would you say anything? We share stories from listeners who have gone through exactly that and recall our favorite Jersey Shore plot line #lettergate because in this situation, is it worth it to open your mouth (or wr...

There's a sense of grief that comes with realizing that someone doesn't belong in your life, or that you don't belong in theirs. If you've ever felt uncomfortable going back to your hometown, maybe even like you're in a weirdly small invisible box, you're not alone. Feeling like you've outgrown a relationship or a place or even a role in your life feels like...loss. At...

Casual hookups aren't for everyone. Dating isn't for everyone. But now do you know what you're even ok with? We've had some deeply uncomfortable times where we weren't even sure rock bottom was the bottom. That discomfort can lead to the most amazing change. But, how do you let it? We get into how to sit in the discomfort and even better, how to embrace it. There are tough conv...

There's a reason pose reels and tiktoks exist - a lot of us don't know what to do with our hands. Even more uncomfortable? Shooting a campaign for Ulta or taking off (most of) your clothes for a boudoir shoot. Getting in front of the camera isn't easy for a lot of us. The reality is, nobody is scrutinizing your pics as hard as you are, but it's still uncomfortable even though a lot of our lives ar...

We're consciously choosing chaos this season - why would both of us return to jobs and industries that previously burnt us out or stressed us out? Listen to learn how we went into our job search consciously with boundaries and priorities. We talk about pay expectations, the myth about work life balance, and how to go in with clear expectations about your time and how you're treated. Follow...

Dealing with toxic parents is one of the most uncomfortable and complicated things ever. You love them, but… the manipulation, guilt trips, boundary stomping, and emotional rollercoasters may be a level of unhealthy that's turning your relationship toxic. Maybe they guilt-trip you - even for small things like buying yourself a sweet treat. Maybe they can’t respect your boundaries - like calling yo...

Still dodging being a teen mom at 33...but are we changing our minds? Having kids is a big choice and as we get older the pressure to have children can be overwhelming. We debate the societal pressures around having kids, how the relationship you're in (or aren't in) can affect you wanting them, if you really need a partner to do it, and why some men have no answer about why they even want kids. F...

Saying NO doesn't mean you don't have the guts to do something or that you're insecure. Saying NO may actually be the most courageous thing you do. In this episode we get into how to handle scary decisions around job transitions and leaving opportunities that don't serve you. If you want to design a life you love, you need to understand what brings you joy...and what doesn't. M...

If you find yourself choosing the wrong partner over and over again, this may be a sign. We get into why manifesting isn't what you think it is (and the science behind it), how to recognize the signs of healthy relationships, and explore if opposing attachment styles can actually work. Awarded relationship coach since 2014, Viky has been working to help people stop attracting the wrong partner...

Don't settle for less than who you authentically are...even though there may not be a word for it. Angela Lin joins us to share the importance of language in communication and the barriers that end up with our personalities "lost in translation". Inspired by the struggles she faced to communicate uncomfortable topics to her parents such as mental health or passion for career, Angela...

Don't date. Slow the F down. Ask for help! If you could sit down with your younger self, what would you say? Would you even listen? We asked you what advice you'd give to younger you and we’re spilling the hard truths - game-changing lessons, regrets, and just things we wish we knew earlier. From relationships to career moves to self-worth, we’re getting real about the advice we’d give our...

Daddy who? In this episode it's all about that mother relationship. Sibling order and gender dynamics may affect how you function in your family and we share how to navigate those family "obligations". As always, we focus on the challenges of setting boundaries and how we've done it over the years. We share our growth, mistakes, and experiences, all in a better effort to understa...

Be completely honest - no sugarcoating, no holding back. With accusations of being fake and the uncovering of a history of trauma, The 3 Letter Project made us laugh, cry, and question our relationships and what we know about ourselves. In this episode, we ask three people in our lives to write each of us a letter: A Letter to Me From You, A Letter of Truth, or A Letter for When I Need It.

Ever feel like you're handling everything —from remembering upcoming events to restocking toilet paper—while your partner coasts through life blissfully unbothered? This week we're exposing the truth about invisible labor with self proclaimed recovering man child Zach Watson, an expert on the emotional, mental, and logistical work that no one talks about . Zach breaks down why so many of u...

If you've ever heard the words, "It's not you, it's me" - they were right. It is them. And we're getting into why that matters. Vanessa reveals how an unexpected new years eve text triggered a moment of self reflection and shares how the early-therapy version of herself would have reacted. Melissa gets into how the concept of "its them" shows up in her family. W...

Regardless of if you wish them well or nothing but flat tires and misfortune, running into an ex can be uncomfortable and awkward AF. In this episode we get into the hilariously cringey reality of encountering past flames in the wild. From awkward wedding run-ins (please don't be related) to full-on avoidance tactics (including a strategic street crossing), we break down why these moments feel so...

"Not every year is going to be the most amazing year, and that’s okay". Scrap the vision boards! We're kicking this year off by reflecting on the highlights and low moments of 2024. From having babies to getting fired unexpectedly - we asked you to share your own highs/lows and ya'll had a LOT to share. In this Season 10 premier we share stories from all of you and reflect on our...

If you want a soft life, entrepreneurship may not be for you. In this episode we sit down with Valeria Emanuel, co-founder of Rif Care and Season 1 star of Side Hustlers, to chat all things period and entrepreneurship. Valeria shares the experience that brought her to founding Rif Care and the often sexist environment she has faced as a female entrepreneur with a child. We chat about her appearanc...

Ever wonder what happens before we press record or what we obsess over in podcast post production? In this special episode, we take a moment to look back on this season’s most impactful moments. From inspiring stories like Louisa’s leap from scientist to fashion entrepreneur, Linda’s bold career shift from six figures to Chief Steamer, and Val starting her own period product company - this season...