If not now, then when...? (The Midlife Experiment)

Nervous system regulation has become one of those phrases we hear everywhere, yet so few of us actually understand what it means. In this week's episode, Aimee Isaacs joins me to unpack what nervous system regulation really is, why so many women in midlife feel stuck in survival mode, and how our hormonal changes can make everything feel even more intense. We also explore why perimenopause can...

Can you believe the first half of 2026 is done!? I love me some affirmations. I love writing them in my journal and saying them out loud... But sometimes I tend to do them haphazardly. This month I'm committing to doing them every day. How about you?  In case you needed a reminder, you have the power to change the trajectory of your life. This week's episode is a reset of sorts. Press play...

Welcome to Season 3! In today's yummy voice-note-style episode I share what's been coming up for me as I step into my next evolution. I talk about the messy middle of becoming, the parts of the journey we don't always share online, and why I'm done with the performative highlight reel that is social media. This season is about real conversations, real challenges, and creating a space where we can...

Full Moon Blessings and happy May! This episode lands on the Full Moon in Scorpio, so if things have been feeling intense, you're not imagining it. As we close out Season 2, I'm going a little deeper into why you may be getting on your own way, and how to move through it. Because it's definitely not lack of trying but possibly your need for approval that's keeping you in the same l...

In this week's episode I really want to know how you're doing. Can you believe we’re 4 months into the year already!? Remember that promise you made to yourself at the beginning of this year? Have you started acting on it or is it still living in your head?  This is not about wishing things could be different but actually changing things by taking action. And it doesn't have to be huge...

Most of us have been at war with our bodies for years. And while the body positivity movement invites us to love our bodies as they are, that can feel like such a big leap, especially in midlife, when everything is changing in ways nobody fully warned us about. In this episode, on this new moon day, I'm asking the question, "what if, instead of going straight to love, we started with frie...

I did something brave this week. In this episode, I share what happened when I said yes to an opportunity, even though it didn't look the way I wanted it to. Even though I was scared. If you've been asking for change, this is your reminder that it won't always arrive in a comfortable package. And you won’t always feel ready. Be courageous anyway! Coz if not now, then when…? And if you...

Today I’m in conversation with Ingrid Irma Jones​ , writer, storyteller, and ​m​y Afrikaans teacher at high school​, which makes this conversation even more special. We dive into the identity shifts that come with midlife​,​ the roles we outgrow, the ones we lose, and the quiet question many women find themselves asking, ' who am I now?' We speak about grief, loneliness, and the uncertaint...

So many of us were taught how to be ​"good girls​". You know, don​'t be too much​, don​'t be too loud​, keep the peace​, and so on, and so on... And somewhere along the way, we learnt to abandon parts of ourselves in order to be liked, accepted, and safe. In this episode, ​I share my own journey as a recovering good girl​, the patterns I​'m unlearning, the ways I​’ve held myself back, and what get...

In part two of my conversation with GP and womxn's health specialist  ⁠⁠ Dr. Fumi Kokoali ⁠⁠ , we turn toward a conversation that I believe isn't being had enough, menopause and womxn of colour. We speak about how menopause shows up differently, cultural expectations, silence, shame, and why this conversation matters more than ever, especially here in South Africa. Because the more we talk about i...

Menopause is a natural part of midlife, yet so many womxn feel confused, overwhelmed, or completely unprepared when the transition begins. In this episode, I'm joined by GP and womxn's health specialist  Dr. Fumi Kokoali  for an honest conversation about what's really happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause. We talk about the symptoms many womxn don't realise are connected to me...

In this episode I share why the podcast is now called If not now, then when?, a question that has quietly become my theme for the year and a mantra that keeps nudging me toward the life, voice, and work that's asking to come through. This conversation is about evolution. About listening to the inner whisper that says it's time. And about getting TF out of your own way so you can step into...

We're smack-bang in the middle of Eclipse season and Mercury is retrograde... On that note, my business turns 9 on 3/3. Nine! And I'm definitely not the same womxn I was when I started.   In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 intentional shifts I'm making this year to support my next evolution, without hustling harder. I speak about: – Separating my identity from my business​ ​ – Getting real support...

Happy Lunar New Year, and Eclipse season! We're officially in The Year of the Fire Horse and this year I'm committed to getting TF out of my own way. I'm stepping into my next evolution and I want you to join me.  Becoming You - the next evolution⁠ , my signature group coaching programme starts on 2 March. It's a safe, supportive space for midlife womxn who are ready to stop getting in their own w...

Season 2 is officially here! And it didn’t happen the way I planned. I’ve been procrastinating launching Season 2 coz life...  But earlier this week I woke up with a nudge. I’ve been receiving such beautiful feedback about the Future-Self meditation I guided inside my recent Vision Board Experience, BEING, and I thought, why not share it here? Why not let this be the first episode of Season 2? So...

In this season 1 finale, I guide you through a gentle reflection ritual to help you close out 2025 with intention. Bring your journal, light a candle, play some music, and create a space that feels nourishing and pleasurable. This is your moment to pause, reflect, shed, and integrate before stepping into the new year. A soft, spacious, voice-note style ritual to honour everything you moved through...

Full moon blessings! This episode is especially for the woman who's shedding her old skin and has no idea who she's becoming but can feel the spark of it under the surface. I share more about my own year of pausing, shedding, recalibrating, supporting others, and sitting in the messy, scared in-between. I know that before a breakthrough there's usually a breakdown, even though it can be uncomforta...

In this episode, I share a quiet reflection that I've been pondering lately - have we stopped dreaming? As I looked back on 2025, I realised how many of my own dreams slipped into the background without me even noticing. And how common this is for so many women in midlife. This episode is an invitation to pause, check in with yourself, and reconnect with the desires you may have pressed pause on....

In this episode, I share a very vulnerable personal story, probably one of the most vulnerable stories I've shared on the podcast to date. As this episode is released on the Women For Change G20 Shutdown here in South Africa (21 November), I felt called to add my voice to the conversation around gender-based violence (GBV) and femicide, which continues to impact women every single day. I also shar...

In this episode of The Midlife Sessions, I'm joined by one of my clients, empowerment coach and author, Bianca Johnson, whose debut book All of These Lines: My Story of Pregnancy, Loss and Hope is a beautiful journey of truth, healing, and courage. For more on the book, and to order your copy visit  https://alloftheselines.com. We talk about what it really takes to bring a story to life, not j...

In this episode, I get real about something we don't talk about enough the loneliness that can sneak up on us in midlife. I share my own reflections on how friendships shift as we grow, why connection still matters more than ever, and how tending to our friendships doesn't have to feel like another to-do. If you've been feeling the quiet ache of missing your people or wondering where t...

In this episode, I talk about something that's been showing up every time I sit down to record this podcast. That uncomfortable tug-of-war between wanting to do the thing that lights you up and still finding it hard to begin. I share a powerful insight from a video my coach, Liane , sent me, and how it completely shifted the way I see resistance. What if resistance isn’t trying to stop us at a...

In this episode, I explain what midlife is from my own experience and perspecive, and, it may not be what you think. I speak about the myths we’ve been sold about midlife, the so-called “invisibility era” (and why it might actually be your superpower), and what I call The Midlife Striptease , the beautiful, messy process of shedding who you’ve been so you can remember who you really are. If you’re...

In this week’s episode, I invite you to take action! You've listened. You've nodded. You've felt that spark, that goosebumpy, heart-thudding aliveness that whispers if not now, then when? But this time, it's different. Coz this isn't about waiting for perfect conditions or feeling "ready." This is about saying YES to the woman you're becoming, even when it's m...

In this powerful and tender conversation, I sit down with Di Atherton , a certified death doula, grief guide, and Reiki Master, to explore the quieter forms of grief we experience in midlife. Midlife brings so many transitions: menopause, changing bodies, children leaving home, ageing parents, shifting roles, and evolving identities. It's a season of endings and beginnings, a series of small d...