Mukundwa

I Said What I Said

Society EN ↓ 138 episodes

I'm Mukundwa and if you've found "I Said What I Said" then you're a spiritual seeker who makes a hobby out of unpacking the human condition, querying why we're here, and decoding life's algorithm. On this podcast I go on a never ending adventure of soul searching and deepening my connection to source and self through easy conversations around spirituality, friendship, pop culture, romantic love, autism, sex and politics. Come frolic interdimensionally with me! Sign up to Patreon for full episodes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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38. Dating while Bitter/Better - desire, energy and resistance (Part 2) 26.08.2019 50:34

Nelisa joins us again to discuss: Is it un/healthy to make your relationships a microcosm of your politics and feminist ideology? We also look at how our relation to gender roles, masculine+feminine energy affect our expectationsCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/GUEST: Nelisa - instagram.com/nelngcoboInstagram: Mukundwa: instagram...

37. Dating while Bitter/Better - Are Woke Men Born or Built? (Part 1) 19.08.2019 1:10:57

To Be Bitter or To Be Better, that is the question!in Part 1 Nelisa joins us to discuss the following: are woke men found in the wild or do we have to educate them into the people we want to date? Is refusal to get deep on the first date a red flag, do we owe it to other women not to cheat with their men, and is asking "what are we?" really viable or effective? Come chat about this episode on our...

36. Dunking on Self Dev: the duality of therapy, diagnoses and western medicine 12.08.2019 1:02:29

Resident zaddy Abolade joins us to explore the duality of therapy. We discuss the empowerment of receiving a diagnosis and the danger of internalising them, and also look at the limitations of western medicine and spirituality in addressing manifestations of existential dreadCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/---GUEST: Abolade - tw...

35. Clocking out: Creating meaning and value beyond Career 05.08.2019 1:07:04

In this episode we discuss how career and moneymaking both help and complicate the pursuit of self. Is money a distraction? Or does the all-consuming activity of working help us make sense of life? Can we create meaning without a career? And is it possible to understand our value outside of productivity? Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/24233302...

34. Mid Year Musings - growth, glow ups and what we're leaving behind 29.07.2019 1:01:37

In this episode we reflect on personal growth in 2019: AHA Moments, growing pains and the personal paths to a better version of ourselvesCome chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/MENTIONS Abraham HicksNazeema (Healer) - https://www.facebook.com/Barefootbutterflyhealing/*Nichiren* BuddhismThe Slight Edge by Jeff Olson - https://amzn.to/2K1...

33. The Friendship Audit - the results of facilitating theoretical conflict 22.07.2019 53:41

This week we talk about *surprise surprise* FRIENDSHIPPPPP. This episode is the culmination of all our friendship episodes as Mukundwa takes her own advice and the results are *SHOCKING*We discuss- Which is kinder, the crippling truth or a lie?- Can we transition vapid, unintentional friendships into meaningful ones?- Can you still be friends with someone if you love them but don't like them?- Wha...

32. The Friendship Grind Part 2: hard decisions, priorities and performativity 15.07.2019 1:01:52

In part 2 we use three listener dilemmas as the lens through which to explore people pleasing and the intricacies of friendship amidst mental health issues Come chat about this episode on our Facebook group! - https://www.facebook.com/groups/242333026713965/InstagramMukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_ Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube: Mukundwa: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4Twitter: Mukundwa: twitter.c...

31. The Friendship Grind Part 1: Transitions, Loyalty, and Complacency 08.07.2019 50:52

In part 1 we discuss friendship transitions and the effort we do/nt make towards curating meaningful relationships. What doses it take to successfully transition a friendship from high school / university into adulthood? Do we want a quality of friendship that we aren’t willing to work for? And is requiring loyalty a cover up for your cowardice? Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www...

30. Do You Boo: Internet Activism, Tangible impact and Retweet Complacency 01.07.2019 1:01:41

Things get heated! Are some forms of activism better than others? Is impact more important than Intent? And who gets to decide whether internet activism is genuine or not? GUEST: Andrew - www.instagram.com/tloukieInstagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube:Mukundwa: tinyurl.com/y4x7klh4Twitter:Mukundwa: twitter.com/mukundwa_ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pri...

29. Envy? I don't Know Her! Comparison and the in\ability to Fulfil our Dreams (Part 2) 24.06.2019 1:07:10

MUKUNDWA IS BRAND NEW. In true Pisces fashion I have done a 180 and don't know what or who envy is. In this episode we reflect on the pillars of envy (perception and symbols of success, especially via social media). We also discuss personal branding on Instagram relying on aspiration and exclusivity, and debate whether every human can fulfil their dreams both within and outside of capitalism. LEAV...

28. Envy and Comparison: I Met My Tethered and She's THRIVING! (Part 1) 17.06.2019 1:00:05

In this episode Mukundwa details her struggles with envy and comparison, and Nyak takes the role of her unpaid therapist: do we get over envy by being+feeling BETTER than the other person? Do some people consciously try to inspire envy in others? Is it realistic to reimagine envy as inspiration? LEAVE A RATING AND REVIEW + CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION ON:Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nya...

27. Is your sexual pleasure worth prioritising? 10.06.2019 1:03:00

Someone asked me (Mukundwa)what prompted me to stop having sex with subpar men. Nyak and I dissect my answer: we discuss prioritising pleasure, body dissociation and energy transfers. We also argue about sweating during sex and the benefits of missionary vs. cowgirl (after all who deserves these kneecaps?!)LEAVE A RATING AND REVIEW + CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION ON:Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/m...

26. Throw her in the trash? On bending vs. breaking friendships 03.06.2019 1:02:26

In this episode we discuss what friendship breakups actually look like - are they explosive or silent withdrawals? Is it possible to run a friendship like a transaction, and how do we know if it's time to introduce conflict or bin the relationship altogether? LEAVE A RATING AND REVIEW + CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION ON:Instagram:Mukundwa: instagram.com/mukundwa_Nyak: www.instagram.com/nyakweziYouTube:...

25. "Forever After" (and other scams) ft. Retha 27.05.2019 58:44

*FIRSTLY LEAVE A RATING AND REVIEW, I SEE Y'ALL DINING AND DASHING!!!*Is marriage the ghetto? In this episode we explore whether marriage is: - an unpaid internship- beneficial for women- a dumping ground for your daddy issuesWe discuss personal development within relationships, friends demoting friends post-marriage, and the myth of happy ever afterGUEST: Retha - https://twitter.com/Retha101Insta...

24. Cute or Concerning? Social Media Stalking and Transparency 20.05.2019 1:05:05

We all Google our crushes (right?!): do you stop at LinkedIn or go to page 7 of the results? When does due diligence become stalking? Does bae OWE you transparency? Is invasion of privacy wrong if the person never finds out? We discuss the line between due diligence and stalking, and discover that Mukundwa is Joe-from-Netflix adjacent :)JOKES ASIDE: stalking (as well as abuse and lack of boundarie...

23. Social Media flexing and Tapdancing for the D - ft Abolade 13.05.2019 58:04

In this RAUCOUS episode we discuss - social media optics and why we have instagram if it ruins our mental health, we interrogate catfishing on apps, and racial stereotypes that JUMP OUT when datingAbolade: https://twitter.com/Aboladeee Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

22. Suicide, Life And Death Q&A ft. Ushbah (Part 2) 06.05.2019 59:10

We read out comments and questions sent in by listeners as a followup to Part 1, link: https://tinyurl.com/y5q7joo8 . The topics touched upon are searching for meaning and purpose, the fear of old age and mourning via social media. Youper: https://www.youper.aiAbolade: https://twitter.com/AboladeeeUshbah: https://www.instagram.com/ushbiz/PLEASE leave a rating + review!! And send in topic suggestio...

21. Would You Date Yourself? ft. Nunu & Abolade 29.04.2019 1:01:46

Manipulation? Emotionally checking out? Parring off the responsibility of breaking up? In this spicy episode we count down the ways in which we're problematic lovers! SUBSCRIBE, LIKE AND COMMENT - I see you PIGEONS in the analytics not subscribing! Leave a review on iTunes + Spotify

20. Polyamory vs. Romantic Longevity - ft. Nunu 22.04.2019 58:07

Is polyamory conducive to longevity, and is longevity even a goal? Also do Gemini’s have emotions? Nunu:https://www.instagram.com/neon_nu/https://twitter.com/neon_nuName drops:https://soundcloud.com/innerhoeuprising Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

19. Suicide, Life and Death ft. Ushbah (Part 1) 15.04.2019 56:46

TRIGGER WARNING: SuicideUshbah discusses her experience with suicide and mental health, and we discuss apathy and death/life as choicesHolla at Ushbah - https://www.instagram.com/ushbiz/Read her letter to her therapist about suicide: https://tinyurl.com/y3z3toy3 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

18: The Beauty Myth: Shifting beauty trends in women 08.04.2019 50:16

Are you beautiful if no one is there to see it? Are you beautiful if no one agrees? We discuss the function of beauty, its shifting goalposts and gatekeepers, and whether beauty is a physical trait or an experienceBook mentioned: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf - http://tinyurl.com/y4q74auw Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

17. Fast Money & Motivation: is wealth karmic? 01.04.2019 45:18

IS THERE SUCH A THING AS FAST MONEY? Is money a karmic reward for effort, or can we cut corners to richness? We also discuss money as escapism, happiness as an (impossible) destination and the difference between motivation and inspiration Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

16. Dating in Denial: looking for love in all the wrong places 25.03.2019 51:45

In this episode we discuss looking for love in all the wrong places, and the journey of forgiving ourselves for romantic decisions made out of fear and insecurity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15. Ageing Anxiety: On Comparison, Purpose And TeamNoSleep - ft Retha 17.03.2019 57:45

GETTING OLDER! We discuss TeamNoSleep, the tension between purpose and paycheck, and finding independence while still relying on parents Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

14. The Irony Of Conflict Avoidance 12.03.2019 56:59

DO YOU HANG THE TOILET PAPER UNDER OR OVER??!!! We explore the labour of conflict and the burden of conflict avoidance. Comment / DM us topic suggestions! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.