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Can you really bury Drake? India sits down with Drake superfan Lil for a heated hip hop debate about Drake vs Kendrick Lamar, “Not Like Us,” J. Cole bowing out, Drake’s lawsuit against UMG, and whether Drake still belongs in the greatest rapper conversation. From Iceman and Made of Honor to Drake’s influence as a tastemaker, A&R, and artist who connects with both men and women, this episode br...

Bieberchella wasn’t just a performance. It was proof Justin Bieber survived. In this solo episode, India breaks down Justin Bieber’s Coachella moment, the industry machine that shaped him, the public mishaps people still debate, and why Hailey Bieber may have been the partner he actually needed. This is a pop culture podcast episode for anyone who wants more than surface-level celebrity gossip, be...

Most people are trying to fix their health by adding more.. but what if the real problem is what you’re not eliminating? India sits down with Sandy Martin, author of Biological EDGE , to break down why the wellness industry keeps people stuck in cycles of optimization, stress, and overconsumption, and what it actually takes to feel better. Topics: biohacking • anxiety • nervous system • wellness i...

It’s not getting pregnant that ends your life, but WHO you have a child with that can ruin you. In this solo episode, India defines the current “baby mama epidemic”, and talks about the real issue causing the spread across high-performing women: decision-making, standards, and the hyper independent woman arc . Using pop culture examples like Latto, Rihanna, Ciara, and Naomi Osaka, this episode exp...

Addiction doesn’t look the way you think it does, and it can happen to anyone. Even YOU, bookie. India sits down with Sara Snow, a former meth addict who began using at 14 and spent years cycling through addiction, arrests, and recovery programs before getting sober and rebuilding her life. From teenage drug use to motherhood, entrepreneurship, and sobriety, this episode explores what addiction re...

The $2B wellness industry is built on the idea that one product can fix everything from your anxiety, your stress, your sleep, and even addiction. But that’s just not how real healing works, bookie. India sits down with Morgan Smith, CEO of Kalm With Kava , to unpack what kava actually is, and why it should be used as part of a broader mental health toolkit, not a cure. From anxiety and panic atta...

Domestic violence is so misunderstood. People ask, “Why didn’t they just leave?” when the real question is what made it so hard to leave in the first place. Jennifer Ewald, LCSW, who has extensive experience working with survivors of domestic violence, breaks down what abuse actually looks like beyond physical violence and the subtle power dynamics that silently trap people in harmful relationship...

Only 10% of addicts receive treatment in a given year, and most never seek help voluntarily. That’s where guardianships or conservatorships come in. India speaks with attorney Mark Astor, who works with families across the U.S. to legally intervene when a loved one is struggling with addiction or severe mental illness. From the necessity for involuntary treatment options to how the criminal justic...

Was Tyra Banks really the villain of America’s Next Top Model, or was she shaped by the trauma she experienced as one of the first black Supermodels, capital “S”? India sits down with Chicago model, Gabrielle, to unpack the reality behind the modeling industry and the ongoing ANTM discourse online. They discuss what modeling is actually like behind the scenes, the difference between constructive c...

Is real journalism dying in the age of social media? Let’s break down the difference between journalism and storytelling, and how algorithms reward outrage, validation, and viral narratives over verified facts. We say we want truth and accountability. But what we actually amplify is controversy and content that confirms our identity. From confirmation bias and parasocial relationships to the Johnn...

Nobody is above getting conned by a narcissist, and I had to learn the hard way. In this deeply personal episode, India shares the full story of her engagement, the red flags she explained away, and how love bombing, using therapy to manipulate perception, and quiet control escalated to a boiling point. A raw conversation about discernment, intuition, and leaving before it’s too late. Topics: narc...

Is J. Cole still eligible for “greatest rapper” status after bowing out of the Kendrick Lamar beef, or does hip hop demand competition? India and LA-born artist Jerrelle unpack why rap was built on confrontation, why women are carrying today’s beef culture, and how streaming, industry plants, and virality changed the rules of success. A real conversation about artistry, ego, power, and what hip ho...

Druski’s viral church skit sparked outrage, but not because God was being mocked. Why does satire of megachurch culture feel so threatening, and how does faith earned trust within oppressed communities become weaponized by charismatic leaders? Using psychology, history, and THE BIBLE, India breaks down the difference between mocking God and exposing manipulation. Topics: religious manipulation • m...

Nobody is retiring off of life insurance, babe. It’s one of the most misunderstood and underexplained financial tools, and we’re here to break it down. India sits down with licensed life insurance broker, Hari, to break down life insurance in plain English . Do kids really need policies? Are the TikTok “cash value hacks” misleading? Is life insurance a scam? Find out here. Topics: life insurance e...

There is no “get fit quick” formula - every generation thinks this diet trend is the one - and every generation pays for it later. India sits down with lifelong registered nurse and plant-based nutrition specialist, Adair, to break down why Ozempic, detox teas, starvation diets, and viral “what I eat in a day” content are not healthy. From GLP-1 drugs and rapid weight loss to emotional eating, bur...

Jackie Suzanne stayed sober through addiction, a near-death fire, and the murder of her son, and then rebuilt her life from rock bottom. In this episode, Jackie shares what it took to survive alcoholism (and other addictions), maintain sobriety through grief, and find meaning after loss. We talk about addiction recovery, losing a child, near-death experiences, spiritual healing, and what it really...

Kim Kardashian is the queen of reinvention.. and whether you love her or hate her, you’ve watched her become a new woman every decade. In this episode, India breaks down the five eras of Kim’s evolution , from the Paris Hilton It-Girl days to today’s ultra-skinny high-fashion shift. This episode explores how Kim uses aesthetic discipline, narrative control, and strategic partnerships to position h...

If you keep choosing the same partner in a different body… your childhood attachment wounds are still dictating your love life. In this episode, India and relationship educator Bryan break down why we repeat painful relationship patterns, how childhood wounds shape our love lives, and what it actually takes to create a secure, healthy partnership. From emotional unavailability and abandonment trau...

You’re not as far from a cult as you think.. and this season proved it. From purity culture to YouTube pastors, Straitway Truth Ministries to autism-mom support groups, I’m breaking down the who, what, when, where, why, and how behind cult-like communities. A quick chat on vulnerability, intuition, financial control, and how everyday people get pulled into high-control systems. Follow @ilybutpodca...

Coach Wade was eight months pregnant when her husband clicked on a YouTube video that changed everything. What started as faith-based “family leadership” content became a decade of control, financial manipulation, and spiritual abuse under Straightway Truth Ministries. India sits down with Coach Wade to unpack how Straightway Truth Ministries preys on athletes and ex-military men, (especially thos...

Can you be Jewish and anti-Zionist at the same time? India and Jewish activist Annie Kaufman unpack what it means to be anti-Zionist, faithful, and still love your community. A raw take on identity, guilt, and the courage to question power. Topics: Jewish community • anti-Zionism • Zionism debate • Jewish activism • social justice podcast Follow @ilybutpodcast on Instagram & TikTok for more.

So many moms of neurodivergent and/or disabled kids are told “community will save you” ...  but what if the same spaces meant to help actually hurt? India sits down with Milan Myers, behavioral analyst-in-training, to talk about how ABA therapy , mom support groups , and “healing” spaces can become breeding grounds for manipulation. Caregivers’ exhaustion, faith, and desperation can make them even...

Why do so many “healing spaces” feel more like cults? We love a good guru, a fearless leader, a savior… until you forget how to make your own decisions. In this episode, movement therapist Cathy (author of Body Wisdom ) gets real about why so many of us outsource our intuition and how it can make us vulnerable to manipulation, toxic “healers,” and cult-like communities.  Topics: Soft girl life, eg...

Preacher's kid turned sexually liberated yoga founder, Sarah Ford, opens up about growing up as an evangelist preacher’s child in Alabama, purity culture, navigating shame, and redefining faith after religious trauma.  Topics: purity culture • cult survival • faith deconstruction • ADHD in women • healing through yoga Follow @ilybutpodcast on Instagram & TikTok for more | Follow Sarah @the...

India sits down with cult survivor turned life coach, AngieBe, to unpack what it’s really like to escape a high-control religion. From believing God caused 9/11 as a punishment to rebuilding intuition and community, this episode explores how faith can be turned to fear and control.  Topics: Religious trauma • Control vs Community • Reconnecting with intuition Season 2 theme: Cults & Community...