I Do Me, Boo

Have you ever found yourself spending more energy explaining someone else’s behavior than listening to your own feelings? In this episode, Martina explores the difference between compassion and self-abandonment, and why giving someone the benefit of the doubt can sometimes keep us disconnected from our own experience. We’ll talk about how to stay open and curious without ignoring patterns, rushing...

In this episode, Martina dives into one of the most painful conclusions many women quietly carry: not that something bad happened to them — but that something is fundamentally wrong with them. When we get triggered, jealous, disappointed, rejected, or insecure, many of us don’t just feel emotions — we turn them into identity.  Martina unpacks why that happens, what attachment and nervous system le...

In this episode, Martina dives into the uncomfortable truth of how you hold yourself when someone else is winning, and your life feels like it’s in a void, a pause, or a season of uncertainty. This is not about “be happy for others” advice. It’s about what actually happens inside you when comparison hits your nervous system and you’re trying not to lose yourself in it. Inside the episode:  • watch...

Why does it feel so uncomfortable when someone completely misunderstands you? In this episode, Martina dives into the emotional tension behind being misread, mislabeled, or emotionally reduced by other people — and why we often feel such a strong urge to correct their perception of us. After receiving a message from an old acquaintance that deeply triggered her, Martina explores the psychology of...

In today’s episode, Martina shares a personal moment that turned into a powerful reflection on identity, growth, and something we don’t talk about enough: The people who keep you in your past. After receiving a message from someone who casually described her former self as “depressed and burned out,” Martina found herself unexpectedly irritated. Not because the comment was outright rude—but becaus...

In this episode, Martina shares a deeply personal story about her mom’s visit—and the unexpected emotional aftermath that followed.  What felt like healing at first turned into a powerful realization about triggers, inner child needs, and how much our environment shapes the way we experience relationships.  This is an honest look at what it means to feel something you’ve been craving your whole li...

In this episode, Martina shares a deeply honest and vulnerable look at what it actually feels like to live abroad — beyond the highlight reel. It’s about missing people, yes… but also about something far less talked about: the quiet identity shift that happens when you don’t fully belong anywhere anymore. This episode explores the emotional reality behind an “international life” that often looks m...

In this episode Martina opens up about a season where life doesn’t feel as clear as it used to — where certainty fades, old beliefs stop fitting, and the answers she once had no longer land. She shares what it really looks like to sit in the in-between: questioning everything, thinking more deeply, and resisting the urge to rush into easy conclusions just to feel safe again. From wrestling with he...

What happens when you suddenly see the life you didn’t build? I am hitting an age where you can’t help but reflect on the life you’ve lived, the choices you made, and the dreams you haven’t chased. This can be intense. There’s pride, gratitude, and sometimes a sting of “what if.” Then you meet younger generations, blazing paths you never imagined—living freer, riskier, bolder lives. It can trigger...

In this episode, Martina reflects on a shift that has deeply changed the way she sees authority, expertise, and influence — the pedestal. For years, she unconsciously placed coaches, gurus, and public figures above herself, assuming they knew more, were more evolved, or had access to wisdom she didn’t. But what happens when those pedestals start to collapse? In this conversation, she explores: The...

In this episode, Martina takes you inside a raw, personal story from her corporate life — from the moment her chest tightened as she read “Are you kidding me?” to the conscious decision not to escalate. This conversation goes far beyond email etiquette. It’s about nervous system triggers, childhood wounds resurfacing at work, the myth of “radical authenticity,” and the difference between reacting...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling strangely empty… even though the other person was listening? In this episode, I unpack what it really means to feel seen — and why that experience is so much deeper than someone simply hearing your words. I share a personal story from my own marriage, reflect on what I see in my coaching practice, and talk honestly about the ways we hide parts...

In today's episode, Martina dives into her experiment of living an algorithm-free life.  After a whirlwind trip to New York, she reflects on how social media algorithms have been hijacking her attention, creativity, and critical thinking.  She shares her early wins, challenges, and the surprising clarity that comes from reclaiming your focus — and why this matters not just for her, but for al...

One minute you’re in an ordinary moment — the next, you’re dealing with tears, anger, shutdown, or intensity that feels wildly out of proportion. And you’re left wondering: What just happened… and why does this feel so serious? In this episode, Martina unpacks why small moments can trigger massive reactions — and why these moments don’t come from drama, weakness, or emotional immaturity, but from...

In this episode, I’m breaking down why hard conversations don’t just feel uncomfortable — they feel dangerous. Not because you’re dramatic. Not because you lack confidence. But because your nervous system learned, early on, that honesty could cost you connection. If you’ve ever frozen, gone quiet, over-explained, or said “it’s fine” when it wasn’t — this isn’t a mindset issue. It’s biology. We’ll...

We break down why change often feels impossible even for driven, self-aware people, and how the nervous system protects an old identity under pressure. We share a practical method to update that identity with small, safe steps that actually stick. • calling out stale self-help and willpower myths • the brain’s sacred rule to protect predictability • identity as who we are under pressure • body sig...

In this episode, Martina dives deep into the real story behind New Year’s resolutions — why they started, how they got hijacked by marketing, and why January is actually the worst month to try and reinvent yourself. Sharing her personal experience, Martina explains why she shifted her “new year” to August, giving herself the space and time to build habits that truly last — without shame, pressure,...

In this episode, Martina dives into the invisible pressure so many women carry: the mental load, the emotional labor, the endless juggling of work, home, health, appearance, partnership, family, and everyone’s feelings. Whether you have kids or not, whether you work from home or outside the house, the load is real. And for so many women, it never turns off. In a world that tells women “you can hav...

In this episode, Martina digs into the art of speaking your truth in a way that actually lands — not the kind that blows up in your face or keeps you awake at night replaying the moment. She walks you through why honesty feels so complicated, how to tell the difference between the right truth and the wrong moment , and what it really means to be honest without abandoning yourself or overwhelming s...

In today’s episode, Martina pulls back the curtain on the moment every woman knows too well — when you create something, feel a spark… and then your brain ambushes you with doubt. She’s sharing the unfiltered story behind her recent podcast pause: the insecurity spiral, the overthinking, and the exact moment she almost deleted an episode she’d just poured her heart into. She dives into the razor-t...

In this episode, Martina dives into the truth we all need to hear: your job doesn’t have to be your dream . Your work is just a chapter, not the whole story of your life. It’s a tool — a way to pay bills, gain stability, and create space for the life you really want . Martina shares how to make your job fit into your life, instead of fitting your life into your job , and how to let your soul, pass...

In this episode, Martina gets real about envy — yes, that green, uncomfortable feeling you’ve been trained to see as bad. She shares her own story of catching envy creeping in when a friend’s life looked effortless, and how she learned to metabolize it instead of shoving it down or projecting it onto others. Martina offers practical tips to sit with envy, dialogue with it, and turn it into a compa...

In this episode, Martina gets real — raw coffee-in-hand, dogs snoring in the background, and a mic that almost didn’t work. After seven months off the podcast, she dives straight into what’s been sitting heavy on her heart: the quiet grief of a friendship that hasn’t ended, but has changed. She reflects on the bittersweetness of adult friendships — how some people we love deeply just don’t show up...

In today’s episode, Martina dives deep unpacking how suppressing your true emotions can lead to that explosive “other side” — a reaction fueled by pent-up anger rather than empowered, integrated self-loyalty.  Martina shares eye-opening research on how emotional suppression can heighten stress and even affect physical health, and she explains why retaliatory outbursts aren’t the answer. Key Points...

In this episode, Martina is sharing a big life update: she's moving again! But this move isn’t just about packing boxes and changing zip codes — it’s about alignment, manifestation, and what it really means to build a life that feels good and makes sense. Key Points:  ✨ Why she and her husband are leaving California, despite the dreamy beaches and sunshine  ✨ The surprising downside of livi...