"I am Enough" with Scott Fried: Lectures on Hope & Healing

In 1987, receiving an HIV diagnosis felt like a definitive death sentence, as the pandemic was surging and life-saving medications like AZT were not yet available. After my own diagnosis that year, I carried the heavy burden of sharing this news with my parents during a time of immense fear and uncertainty. Twenty years later, I gathered my friends and family in New York City to mark a major anniv...

Twenty years after my HIV diagnosis in 1987, I invited my friends and family to a major anniversary celebration in New York City. During that event, I shared the story of my HIV journey through storytelling and song. Now, decades later, reflecting back on that evening, I am sharing this recording in the hopes that we can all celebrate our personal milestones together.

This episode is about a communication technique I developed called BIRVAM. It is a six-step process involving reflective listening and supportive responses, which is particularly effective when you want to be helpful but are unsure of what to say. While the steps can be used in any order, the most critical component is "V" for Validation. Validating statements are healing statements. Whe...

How can we maintain a meaningful presence for young people, even when we may not have the answers to their most challenging questions? Drawing on the tools outlined in my book, "How to Raise an Elegant Teen: The ABCs of Gen Z Parenting," I offer practical strategies to help parents, grandparents and guardians navigate the complexities of supporting todays' teens through life's...

The lessons derived from the Civil Rights movement in the American south are highly relevant in context to today's political climate. Originally delivered at a Shabbat service in 2025, this talk outlines some of the movement's significant achievements. I examine key historical milestones, beginning with Rosa Parks' arrest in 1955 and the subsequent emergence of the Rev. Dr. Martin L...

This talk, originally entitled, "Things I Learn from People on Airplanes," explores the many different ways we can learn about the world from the places we visit to the people we meet along the way.  It was recorded in the 2000s at the Conference on World Affairs on the campus of the University of Colorado. 

This episode provides a concise overview of the latest advancements in HIV/AIDS prevention. I offer this info to help bridge the current educational gap in comprehensive sexual health education, from middle school through medical school. This talk covers HIV transmission and highlights current and emerging preventative strategies, including Viral Load (VL), Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U), Pr...

This talk, recorded in 2020 during a Zoom session at the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, explores how we can extend mercy to others and grant ourselves permission to live without self-reproach. The inspiration came from a Penn State student who, after hearing me speak, tweeted the words: "Never leave a conversation until love walks in the room." It was also shaped by the insights my...

This episode is my response to a question from a teenager with a broken heart. She asked me how to be more comfortable looking at herself in the mirror. "I want to be pretty," she stated, "and I want to like what I see."  It was recorded at St. Mark's Church in NYC in 2004, celebrating the launch of my 2nd book, "My Invisible Kingdom: Letters from the Secret Lives of...

In this episode, I channel the wisdom and compassion of the mothers who experienced the profound loss of their children to AIDS during the early part of the epidemic. I explore what these mothers might say to today's generation of young adults who are now facing an HIV diagnosis.  Recorded on World AIDS Day in 2012, during a Shabbat service in New York City, I believe the insights shared rema...

This episode explores what it means to be enough. The concept came from a student who once said, "When I dig deep inside myself, I find there's a wholeness that restores me.” It was recorded during a zoom session at the very start of the Covid 19 pandemic. And remember this: who you are at this very moment is worthy of love.