Hush Your Mind: Empowered Boundaries for Soulful Relationships

Some newcomers to EFT Tapping assume that healing should feel like a blissful meditation. They ask me: “Why do we tap on the negative first in EFT? Shouldn’t I feel relaxed right away? Isn’t it better to focus on positive statements?” Yet addressing the "negative" stuff—like disempowering thoughts and painful emotions—is essential to EFT's high efficacy rate. Without an understanding of what to ex...

Many of us learned to repress our anger to avoid getting criticized, rejected or abandoned in childhood. Yet this powerful emotion offers us much wisdom if we’re willing to listen. Anger often masks other emotions, unmet needs and our vulnerability. In this episode, discover the painful lessons my husband and I learned about anger in our once toxic relationship. How can we deal with anger from a s...

Experiencing a breakup can be traumatic. Like the death of a loved one, breakups can cause overwhelming and enduring grief. The heartbreak feels excruciating, yet we sense the world needs us to hasten the recovery process. The occasional or frequent waves of agony that interrupt our day are unbearable. How can we start to gather the shattered bits of ourselves? May these 3 gentle tips to heal from...

Do you feel not good enough? Perhaps you work hard, but it’s never enough. You feel like a hamster sprinting in its wheel. Although you’re exhausted, it seems impossible to stop. You might be thinking, “What’s wrong with me?” We don’t have perfectionistic tendencies for no reason. Listen to this episode to discover 4 reasons why you may feel not good enough. Blog article: https://hushyourmind.com/...

What does the yin yang symbol have to do with relationships? Believe it or not, contemplating the meaning of this symbol has helped me accept myself, cultivate understanding in my relationships and even transform my once toxic marriage. In this episode, discover a few spiritual lessons that guided me to create fulfilling relationships. You’ll learn about the importance of embracing your emotions,...

Years ago, I learned a word that made me shed tears of joy and sadness: codependency. This 12-letter word summed up my relationship woes. Constantly walking on eggshells. Beating myself up. People-pleasing. Nothing was wrong with me. I had learned these behaviors in childhood to make do with conditional love. Codependency refers to an imbalanced relationship pattern, where one person feels respons...

Someone recently asked me, “Do you have any advice on how to stop being triggered in relationships?” Whenever her partner invites her to an outing, her body tenses up and the words, “Yes, I’d love to go!”, spurt out of her mouth before she realizes what’s happening. The emotional trigger—her partner’s invitation—sparks anxiety within 2 seconds, creating a cascade of actions: ignoring her own needs...

Repeating positive affirmations like "I’m a money magnet" don’t work unless we deeply believe them. Our negative emotions, limiting beliefs and expectations around money are mostly unconscious. If we don’t release them, we’ll feel stressed, guilty or fearful when we deal with money—even if we're financially well off. EFT Tapping helps us de-stress and release this baggage, so that we can stay open...

I began my spiritual inner work because I was desperate—desperate to be free of emotional pain, frustrating relationships and mind chatter. So, I turned inwards and faced my icky feelings and memories. Little by little, I reclaimed my power, healed old wounds and made wiser choices. My enthusiasm sometimes pushed me to do too much inner work. In our society of “not good enough”, it’s easy to get s...

It’s a common misconception: Conflicts are bad. They feel icky. Arguments end poorly. But what if conflicts can improve your relationships? Perhaps conflicts signal a deep unmet need, like feeling valued? Maybe disputes can bring about mutual respect and tolerance? What if they were opportunities to bond with loved ones? Ultimately, you can use conflicts to propel your inner growth and strengthen...

We tend to stigmatize alone time, but many spiritual teachers praise the merits of solitude. Studies show that it relieves stress, increases memory retention and boosts creativity. When we don’t have a strong sense of worth, we might deny our truth and let people walk all over us. Because we all want to be loved and respected. Spending time alone helps us discover who we are, see how much others i...

Would you say that you had a “normal” childhood? Perhaps there was always food on the table and a roof over your head. All your material needs were met. But something is off... Deep down, a part of you wonders why you feel disconnected and unhappy. Why is there so much self-doubt? Here’s something you might not have considered before: Growing up without enough emotional support has dire consequenc...

Our sexuality plays an important role in our relationships, self-worth and joy. When we don’t embrace our sexuality, it disconnects us from ourselves and our partner. Owning my sensuality has been a magnificent spiritual journey to reclaim my power. As a recovering people-pleaser, I’ve come a long way in advocating for my truth in all areas of my life. Changing my relationship to pleasure in gener...

Does your anger, sadness or fear overwhelm you? It’s miserable when we don’t know how to stay calm. We say regrettable things, make bad decisions or fail to take action. Finding the root cause of negative emotions helps us heal past hurts and get unstuck. But for now, perhaps you'd just like quick and easy ways to keep your cool. In this episode, you’ll learn how grounding techniques work. Then yo...

Emotional intimacy plays a key role in loving and supportive relationships. The profound sense of security and trust lets each person be themselves, which then sustains the foundation of the relationship. In this episode, you'll learn the ongoing practice of healing our emotional baggage, navigating the 5 stages of a relationship and expressing our appreciation. My husband and I are grateful for o...

Being an overachiever sounds like an admirable trait. Society encourages productivity and we win others’ praise and approval. Though sometimes, we can’t help but chase results, work too much and beat ourselves up. The need to overachieve often stems from childhood and masks feelings of worthlessness and the fear of failure. Listen to this episode to learn the underlying reasons of overachieving, l...

I often meet people who have tried many healing modalities. These people have experienced hardships and trauma and have spent years looking for a solution. It’s already challenging to manage anxiety and life’s demands, not to mention past wounds that keep rearing their head. The search for an answer can be arduous and frustrating. So, it’s understandable when others ask me, "Why should I try EFT T...

When codependency shows up in romantic relationships, we rely too much on our partner for validation. We people-please, neglect our needs and arrange our life around our partner. In this episode, I share about my personal journey with codependency and how I transformed my dysfunctional marriage. You'll also learn essential tips to recover from codependency, including healing from shame and cultiva...

Discover why it’s difficult to stop prioritizing others and how our past can keep us from speaking up for ourselves. You’ll also be guided during a round of EFT Tapping, a potent stress relief tool that can help us clear the people-pleasing habit and empower ourselves. Blog article: https://hushyourmind.com/stop-people-pleasing-eft-tapping/ Free EFT session / interview: https://www.hushyourmind.co...

Positive affirmations are everywhere. They’re short phrases you repeat to change yourself for the better. For example, "I’m confident", "I’m worthy", "I’m abundant". Have you tried using one? Positive affirmations seem like a brilliant idea: repeat one and.. voilà! All better. So why do they sometimes feel like lies? My frustration with this self-help tool inspired me to discover why they didn’t w...

Once people discover the amazing benefits of EFT Tapping, they often ask me: "How can I use EFT on a daily basis? What do you recommend as a tapping routine?" Having a daily EFT routine is an excellent way to soothe anxiety, calm your mind and stay grounded. Like with any new habit, it can unfortunately be hard to stick to an EFT routine. We tend to get discouraged and beat ourselves up. What’s mo...

Psychologist Carl Jung encouraged us to embrace our "shadow", which refers to shunned aspects of us, like shame or even joy, to make peace with ourselves. In this episode, I’ll be giving you a brief guide to shadow work and 3 essential tips that helped me on my own journey. You’ll learn about my initial, hesitant steps into shadow work and what motivated me to explore my shadow. You’ll also learn...

We’ve all been disappointed by life. Failures have ravaged us. People let us down. Our vision of a better world seems impossible. Why would we trust the universe? In this episode, learn about my personal adventures in trusting the universe, how we can “date” the universe before fully committing, 10 ways the universe communicates with us and the biggest reason why it’s hard to trust the universe. B...

Our society tends to point fingers at the substances or people who are addicted. But the root of addictions doesn’t lie in the substance itself. And people who have addictions already carry so much shame. EFT Tapping has been scientifically proven to be effective for addiction relief. In this episode, you’ll learn about the underlying causes of addiction, my past sugar addiction and examples of EF...

Growing up with overly critical parents has disastrous consequences. As a child, I learned to put my needs aside and appease my overly critical father. Little did I know how it’d poison every aspect of adulthood: my self-esteem, career, love life and even finances. My darkest moments all trace back to this first toxic relationship, so this subject is very close to my heart. May these 5 tips to dea...