Hush Your Mind: Empowered Boundaries for Soulful Relationships

How do you cope with death and grief? How do you deal with the changes after a loved one’s death? I used to fear not being able to cope with the death of loved ones. Eventually, I realized how futile it was to avoid the truth and began embracing this mysterious taboo called death. Reflecting on my mortality has been a liberating exercise that helps me cherish my relationships, connect with love an...

We all embark on our own unique spiritual journey... Some people experience a sudden divine awakening. Others have always known there’s more to life. Like many people, my unsatisfying life caused intense suffering, which pushed me to seek relief. Some of these potent shifts have been joyful, but also confusing and even awful—far from popular images of enlightenment. Listen to this episode to learn...

Many of us stress about money, no matter how much we have in our bank accounts. It keeps us from fully enjoying life and receiving the abundance that’s always present. Our early experiences heavily influence our current thoughts and feelings about money, how much we earn and how we spend. And in a society that equates success with a certain monetary amount, our self-worth can take a hit. But it do...

Get yourself a cup of tea and gather around… I'm going to tell you the story of how I became a lightworker! Though I tell many personal anecdotes on my blog and podcast, I thought it'd be fun to revisit and dive more deeply into my journey. I hope you get a better sense of where I'm coming from and why I'm passionate about supporting women with boundaries and relationships. Discover how I ended up...

Tracy joins me for a live EFT Tapping session to soothe her inner critic and develop self-love. In this heartfelt session, we explore how Tracy’s inner critic recently showed up during a paddle tennis match. We identified and processed guilt about speaking her truth and making others feel bad, negative self-talk about her worthiness and resistance to loving and accepting herself despite 35 years o...

People often tell me they’re open to other ways of healing trauma than traditional talk therapy. EMDR and EFT Tapping are two popular options, both backed by science. So how does one choose? I’m grateful that my colleague Jennifer “Taz” Vazquez—my first guest expert ever—agreed to share her wisdom with us today! Listen to this episode to learn what inspired Taz to become an EMDR and EFT Tapping Pr...

We all want fulfilling connections. But do you sometimes wonder, "Why do I create drama in relationships?" My partner and I used to joke with each other that it's been a while since we had a fight. It was a miracle when we managed to find some peace in our once-toxic relationship. But then, something strange would happen… No sooner had we uttered the joke, a heated argument spewed that evening or...

Research shows that making art can heal trauma, lowers stress and activates the reward center of the brain (so we feel good). I loved to draw as a child. Somewhere along the way though, making art became another way to seek approval. My parents oohed and ahhed when I replicated a portrait by hand. As an adult, I tried to reignite that innocent spark to create, but my inner critic attacked every pa...

Being in a relationship with an angry partner can feel overwhelming, to say the least. There may be a constant negative atmosphere that damages the safety and trust in your relationship. Feeling sad, lonely, scared or frustrated is completely valid. In this episode, discover my personal breakthrough about anger that helped my husband and I to recover from codependency. Then, follow along to my gui...

When I wanted to manifest a new home, I made a vision board, visualized and focused on the positive. I quickly ran out of steam, feeling inadequate and hopeless. EFT Tapping helped me manifest some incredible things, so I dug in further and stumbled upon some surprising insight. It turns out there wasn't anything wrong with me. And that manifestation is about much more than making a shopping list...

I recently picked up Peter Wohlleben’s book, The Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate—Discoveries from a Secret World . After reading only several pages, my view of trees radically changed and I couldn’t help but contemplate the wisdom of these silent giants. We’re all doing our best in these chaotic times. Perhaps trees can teach us how to feel more at peace with ourselves a...

Follow along to this guided EFT Tapping session and script to release guilt from setting boundaries and honoring your needs. With all the pressure to make the holidays special, it can be easy to put others’ needs first, at the expense of our own well-being. Learn 3 simple tips to navigate the holiday season (or anytime of the year!), then tap along with me to release any guilt about saying yes to...

Perfectionism is actually a coping mechanism. As a child, I learned that when I didn’t get good grades, my parents criticized me. When I didn’t wear nice clothes, kids made fun of me. When I expressed my anger, I didn’t get what I wanted. So, I unconsciously resorted to perfectionism. I forced myself to be what other people wanted. And it worked for years—until I realized that I never felt good en...

You might’ve heard of Brené Brown from her viral TED talk. She’s a researcher who analyzes how people can live joyful and meaningful lives. After enjoying her TED talk, I had to write a review and summary of her book, The Gifts of Imperfection . How do you live life on your terms and juggle others’ expectations? We might be used to sacrificing one for the other. We all worry about what others thin...

I recently had Covid and strep throat, which stopped me in my tracks. I hadn’t been sick for years and resembled a sloth… My priorities became: slow down, sip on water and breathe . I embraced the part of me that felt the need to be productive. In my vulnerable state, I felt repressed emotions boiling up, like the fear of abandonment and missing out. This made me ponder: Why do we keep hustling wh...

Have you tried keeping a gratitude journal? I used to write down 10 things I’m grateful for everyday. It felt good to practice gratitude. Yet the fuzzy sensation often wore off, especially when life felt tough. I’d force myself to be grateful, even when I wasn’t. Guilt would sneak up behind me. And I’d wonder what was wrong with me. Eventually, I learned that practicing gratitude doesn’t have to b...

A popular spiritual teacher recently posted, "Forgiveness is the only way to heal." But is it really? Many people want to forgive, but don’t know how. They feel like it’s a necessary step to release the past. As a stubborn Taurus, I’ve resisted forgiving others for small remarks and monumental wrongdoings. I concluded, "If I hold on to what happened, I’ll avoid getting hurt again." So I held on fo...

Psychotherapist Beverly Engel says that emotional abuse is one of the prime factors in creating dysfunctional relationships and one of the major causes for separation or divorce. Yet emotional abuse isn’t always easy to spot. If we’re used to prioritizing others’ needs, we might not realize when abuse happens. Our empathy, upbringing and trauma can blind us to red flags. Sometimes, we abuse our pa...

One of the biggest challenges when we want to overcome people-pleasing is releasing our self-doubt and embracing our deepest desires. We might say, "I’m working hard to create my business, but my family doesn’t support me." Or, "I’m creating an easy and abundant life, but my friends get jealous." It’s not easy to honor our truth, especially if we grew up in a family that often dismissed our needs...

Many of us have accidentally shut off our intuition. As small children, we learned our caretakers know better. For some, listening to their intuition was unsafe. They may have been criticized or neglected for speaking their truths. But our intuition is an essential part of who we are. It guides us to the right decisions, reveals our spiritual gifts and improves our lives. Discover the 4 intuitive...

Many of us struggle with being visible. We may have learned long ago that it wasn’t safe to speak up, share our perspective or get our needs met. Yet a part of us yearns to be seen. It’s human. We all yearn to be valued and appreciated. And to feel at home within ourselves, no matter where we tread. For the first time ever, I’ve invited my guest Christina on my podcast for a live EFT Tapping sessi...

Having extreme standards can take a toll on our health. I’ve had my fair share of health concerns linked to perfectionism. When I consulted my doctor for chronic fatigue and mysterious body aches, he just sent me away with pain killers. Despite my frustration, I was determined to find a more wholesome form of relief. Though I’m not a doctor, I’ve unearthed some insight and tips that have done wond...

Perhaps you spent hours mulling over what to say, when and how. You finally find the courage to communicate your boundary in a kind yet firm way—whew, done! Your heart is pounding. But, uh-oh… the person got defensive. They’re angry and upset. Now what? In this episode, learn how to deal with someone who disrespects your boundaries and reclaim your power. Blog article: https://hushyourmind.com/wha...

Have you ever seen the yin yang symbol? It may seem like it has nothing to do with perfectionism. But after years of study and experimentation, I’ve extracted 5 valuable lessons that helped me gain more confidence and joy. Listen to this episode to learn how the yin yang symbol can inspire you to appreciate failure, be kinder to yourself and embrace who you are. Blog article: https://hushyourmind....

Have you heard of the inner critic? It’s that voice in your head that says: “You’re dumb. You can’t do it. You’re not good enough.” It’s depressing to listen to your inner critic. No matter how much you try, it seems like you can never do anything right. Enter: feeling crappy, anxious and burnt out. Believe it or not, our inner critic wants us to be happy. Listen to this episode to learn where you...