How’s Your Sex Life?

Why is finding someone I’m attracted to so hard? Are we ready to adopt? I want him to be a better kisser!    This week, the one and only Bob the Drag Queen answers your questions with Myisha for our season finale! The two talk about the importance of exploring your attraction and how to ask for the perfect kiss. Plus, Bob shares how a Grindr hook up turned into an instant conn...

I want to leave my partner, but I feel guilty! When will I know I’m over my breakup? How do I find monogamous relationships as a gay man?  Luke Franchina is the internet’s favorite bestie. This week, he joins Myisha to talk about knowing when to leave a relationship and healing from a breakup. Plus, Luke shares what he learned about himself through his divorce.   Resources me...

How do I leave my cheating partner? Will I ever find love? Is there intimacy in non-monogamy?  Brandon Kyle Goodman returns to the show to help us get through this messy election week and to talk about their new podcast, Tell Me Something Messy. Myisha and Brandon get into why research is your friend in non-monogamy and how sexual liberation isn’t linear. Plus, Brandon shares what non-m...

How do I talk dirty? Are people actually having safe oral sex? How can I explore dating and sexuality in my 60s? Dr. Carol Queen is an author, sex-positive activist, and the staff sexologist at Good Vibes. This week she joins Myisha to take on your questions about dirty talk, anilingus, and exploring dating and sexuality in your 60s. Plus, hear which of your dating horror stories left us truly mor...

Does listening to music during sex actually change the experience? I’m meeting my bestie’s boyfriend for the first time! Should I give up on dating?  Dylan Tupper Rupert explores the world of the Sunset Strip's most legendary rock n’ roll groupies in the newest season of KCRW’s  Lost Notes . She joins Myisha to talk sex playlists and why she says f*** the dating s...

Am I just another scary straight guy? How do I find pleasure in a world that feels devastating? I’m yearning for intimacy! adrienne maree brown is an author and activist. Their latest book Loving Corrections is about the importance of holding people and systems accountable to create honest relationships. adrienne joins Myisha to talk about why men shouldn’t solely rely on other men for...

My partner isn’t interested in sex. My husband’s political views turn me off! How do I explain to my family that I’m nonbinary?  Tuck Woodstock explores the vast diversity of trans experiences on his podcast Gender Reveal. He joins Myisha to talk about navigating a conversation around sex when your partner is asexual. Plus, Tuck shares all the times his crushes have fizzled...

Have you ever been catfished on a date, ghosted, or worse? This month we want to hear your dating horror stories. Drop us an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org and we might feature it on the show. We’ll keep you anonymous.  

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them? Do I tell the guy I’m seeing that I had an OnlyFans? Is it time to leave my relationship? Jordan Gonsalves hosts  But We Loved , a podcast that dives into queer history through conversations with LGBTQ+ elders. Jordan joins Myisha to talk about crushes on friends and toxic relationships. Plus, Jordan shares his dating horror story. Need...

I love kinky sex, but I need a break! Is faking an orgasm evil or generous? How do I get my libido back?  Author Brontez Purnell writes about sex and queerness. His book ‘ 100 Boyfriends ’ was awarded the 2022 Lambda Literary Award in Gay Fiction. Brontez joins Myisha to talk kinky sex in midlife and if it’s ever okay to fake an orgasm. Plus, Brontez shares what he doesn&rsq...

Why can’t people accept that you can be romantic and casual? I adore my partner, but our bedroom is dead… help! Should I tell my crush I like them or play it cool?   Dylan McKeever uses humor to talk about trans identity and queerness in her work. She joins Myisha to talk situationships and why non-monogamy isn’t for everyone. Plus, Dylan shares the best lesson she&rsq...

My ex-friend is hooking up with my brother-in-law! Will I regret having sex with only one person my whole life? Is it okay to get back in touch with an old flame? Matteo Lane and Nick Smith are comedians, frenemies, and hosts of the I Never Liked You Podcast. They join Myisha to talk about redefining monogamy and revisiting an old hookup. Plus, Matteo and Nick share their funniest sex mishaps.&nbs...

I’m sick of dating apps but it’s hard to meet people in person! How do I talk to my partner about his porn habits without sounding like a prude? And when do I pose the infamous: ‘what are we?’  Tomás Mier, Rolling Stone journalist and pop culture content creator, talks Only Fans and queer dating with Myisha. Plus, he shares his own dating standards including whe...

I’m new to dating other women! Is it ok to look for traits my ex had in future partners? How do I deal with an ex who keeps sending me mixed signals?    Amber Whittington, aka AmbersCloset , is a content creator and LGBTQ+ activist. This week, she joins Myisha to talk about being true to yourself as a baby gay. Plus, Amber shares how an ex helped her through her grief. &n...

Is my sex vanilla just because I don’t want a threesome? My ‘no strings attached’ sex life is not as fulfilling as I thought. I don’t want to be a sex doll! How do I navigate external validation and what I really want? Tracy Clark-Flory explores desire in her book Want Me and weekly newsletter. This week, she joins Myisha in tackling personal versus external desires. Plus,...

I don’t see my friends unless I organize the hangout and I’m over it! How can I rebuild my connection to my long-distance bestie? My friend thinks I betrayed them, help!  This week we’re answering your friendship dilemmas with Ann Friedman, co-author of  Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close . Plus, Ann shares ways to support your friends who are in lousy relatio...

Author and activist Virgie Tovar is back with her own questions about sex dreams, perimenopause, and masturbating in the sun. Plus, Virgie shares how she got over her sexual hang ups. Visit the podcast feed for part one of our conversation with Virgie about dating cis men, fatphobia, and unrequited crushes.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@k...

How do I get over someone I never dated? I date cis men and fatphobia is our unwelcome third wheel.  Virgie Tovar (author, activist, and weight-based discrimination expert) gives advice in the first of this two part episode! We talk about the pain of unrequited crushes and setting boundaries as a plus-size dater. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@k...

I want to be more than friends with benefits! How do I keep things romantic with my spouse? Is pegging in my future?  KCRW DJ Rocio ‘Wyldeflower’ Contreras dishes advice. We talk about when to walk away from being friends with benefits, the importance of setting aside one-on-one time with your spouse, and one listener’s pegging guilt. Plus, Ro shares why she appreciated her...

Is there such a thing as too much masturbation? How can I talk to my partner about reigniting our intimacy? My husband’s sex drive is gone and he doesn’t want to talk about it! Cindy Gallop, founder of  Make Love Not Porn , gives advice. We talk about the panic people feel when it comes to masturbation, how intimacy is about more than having sex, and how sex changes as you get old...

Today we’re sharing an episode from our friends at  Dear Prudence , Slate’s advice podcast. In this episode, host Jenée Desmond-Harris is joined by Dan Savage, host of the Savage Lovecast. The two get into how to tell your sibling you think they’re in an emotionally abusive marriage, how to share with your parents you’re omnisexual, and how to approach a serious...

What dating app should I use? How do I talk to my partner about using sex toys together? How can I explore my sexuality as someone who had no sex ed?  Anna Lee, co-founder and CEO of Lioness, takes a break from engineering smart vibrators to dish advice. We talk about why you should see sex toys as collaborators, not competitors and how to move past sexual mishaps. Plus, Anna shares how her c...

I’m scared to date women my age! Is zodiac compatibility real? My partner isn’t into astrology like I am, are we a bad match? Astrologer Isa Nakazawa weighs in.  

Can women initiate sex? I’m thinking of breaking my celibacy, but men scare me. How do I set boundaries with my parents about my sex life?

How can I get my husband to do foreplay? I’m tired of my wife turning me down for sex. Is squirting real? Sex educator Emily Nagoski answers your questions.