How'd I Get Here Podcast

School is mandatory but is it really effective in what and how they teach us. We often learn math that we're never going to use in the real world or history that is skewed to the American point of view. The school system programs us to obtain knowledge and pass tests but does it really prepare us for the real world? We should learn more about taxes, finances, self awareness & emotions and...

Not all good leaders are liked but all of them are respected. As entrepreneurs we have to have a creative way to lead. We have to create a vision that not only we believe in but one that we can also get other people to believe in as well. Not only that but we have to find liked minded individuals who share common beliefs but have different strengths to form a successful team. Disagreements are hea...

It's easy to lose sight of the importance of your physical and mental health. You often forget that your mind, body & spirit are all connected. When one waivers the other 2 do as well. Seamoss is one way to help boost and strengthen those components of life. However it starts with a strong sense of self and confidence. Mike Johnson Co-Owner of Mothers Moss is no stranger to obstacles in li...

Discipline is the biggest form of self love and self care. But it is also one of the hardest forms of love to obtain. When you make a commitment, discipline is doing what you said you would do long after the mood you said it in has changed. We all have "body goals" and say there's a lifestyle we wish to live. But how many of us can stick to that lifestyle. We sat down with Manny from...

The life of an entrepreneur is not for the weak. Everyone has goals and dreams but not the courage to pursue them. That bravery and leap of faith is the first step of being an entrepreneur. To have self belief that whatever you can achieve and want to achieve is already yours. You have to be willing to sacrifice. Sacrifice time away from friends, family and even other things you want. I guess that...

Success can be relative. It’s a standard we set for ourselves but what is the true definition of success? We can be our toughest critics but that doesn’t mean success is obtained. Just because we didn’t reach our goal, does that mean success wasn’t met? We have to enjoy the small victories and be present throughout a journey. That’s how you appreciate success. Your path may change but your purpose...

It’s not often you see a black ghost hunter. The two don’t in fact go together. We’ve all seen too many movies. But our guy Frank Thomas White is breaking stereotypes and berries by being one of if not the first black ghost hunter from Connecticut. We talk about how he stays true to himself while building a brand and provides great content for his followers. Sometimes the brand and the person are...

Sometimes it's hard to face reality and really accept what is right in front of us. We create false realities because it is easier to live there than accept the obstacles and troubles of our everyday lives. Sometimes relationships, work, family and our own dreams and goals can make us hide from our own reality. But you have to take it on head first. We cannot compare what others have to what w...

Emotional intelligence is defined as "the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions" while also being aware and accepting the emotions and feelings of others. However does that mean you have to feel and take on the feelings of others? Emotions are a heavy weight to carry yet a lone take on those of another person. However to know yourself is to know your emotions a...

We all have certain triggers but don’t know where they stem from. Often our childhood trauma contributes to who we are as adults but we don’t know why. We hide from the trauma or compartmentalize our issues. It’s easier to hide from those ghosts instead of face them. As adults we must accept our past and learn to forgive. Sometimes we’re forgiving ourselves and sometimes we’re forgiving others. We...

Often times we look outside for the blame of our problems. However when it comes to colorism we have nowhere else to look but inward, at our own culture and people. Colorism is "prejudice or discrimination against individuals with a dark skin tone, typically among people of the same ethnic or racial group." But why do we kill ourselves? Or in this context why do we put our own people dow...

You ever been in a situation and ask yourself how’d I get here? You ever end up ruining something good subconsciously but maybe that was what was meant to be or good for you? Self sabotage is a real thing. Sometimes we are not ready to face reality and sometimes we are not ready to move on so we ruin things to make it ok. Which in fact isn’t ok. We have to face things head on. That brings on a new...

Sometimes we set boundaries and people can't handle it. But boundaries are pathway to peace. When you are a "hustlepreneur" you don't have time for distractions and sometimes those boundaries are necessary. Sometimes people you love are a distraction or are your biggest cage to your ambition and those boundaries are necessary. You can choose to be vocal about your moves or success, or move in sile...

What exactly are societal expectations and why do they exist? Often we think of them as the “supposed to be life”. What society says we are supposed to do. Just go to college find a partner and job, get married and carry on with life. But millennials and every generation to come after them is not settling for this lifestyle. We jump from job to job and relationship to relationship and older genera...

Why is self representation so important? Is it as simple as how we're perceived and how we carry ourselves or is it more. And what dictates how we do those things. Often times people look at perception as a first impression, but we can all agree first impression can all be deceiving. Furthermore, you should impress your thoughts, expectations and feelings on a person based off how they look. This...

Double standards are everywhere. They're in the workplace, in relationships and in everyday ordinary life. But why? We have expectations of what society expects. However sometimes expectations breed unrealistic expectations of people. These standards are not fair or realistic and we tend to put people down because of them. These unfair expectations set rules and restrictions on people that shouldn...

We all have a killer instinct in us. We all have that drive to win and succeed. But where does that determination come from. The thought of losing scares us but is the fear of losing greater than the desire to win? Do you compare yourself to your competition, thus resulting in low self-esteem or even more confidence? Your competitive nature will determine how you perform. Sometimes for the better...

We all have a little bit of pettiness in us but we don't always know why. Is pettiness a trauma response? Are we just clapping back out of spite or bitterness? What is it that causes us to be petty? You're sitting down with 2 self proclaimed kings of pettiness but we go about it in different ways. We take a dive into the negative and positive aspects of pettiness and also the time and energy it ta...

What exactly is cuffin season? Or big n**** season like Spencer likes to call it? Is it synonymous with dating or are they 2 different things? Very often we get into situation ships or entanglements during the cold months of the year that either lead to relationships or a mutual parting. That is what cuffin season looks like. However it is way more in depth and complicated than that. Of course not...

Sometimes it’s hard to focus when so much is going on. Your mind could be here there  and everywhere. But you have to try & keep control of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Throw a break up or a loss of a job in the mix and that could stir the mind even more. In this weeks episode we dive into relationships and more. When is the appropriate time to start dating after a break up? Are...

Freedom isn't free. It might cost you your mental, your peace and many other things that you need to sacrifice. But freedom doesn't just cost a price. There's also financial freedom, spiritual, mental and more. How you get there and how you find it is up to you. Often times you have to put yourself first and get rid of situations that might hurt. But long term happiness is more important than temp...

Many times people confuse astrology and horoscopes. When in reality they don't realize horoscopes fall under the umbrella that is astrology. Astrology is more than just the study of the stars and planets, but also how they dictate who we become and the path that is set for us. Astrology has a connection to religion and is a part of our everyday lives. A strong sense of self and awareness goes a lo...

We all say we have boundaries but how do we set them? And by setting boundaries are you putting yourself in a box? What do your boundaries say about your trauma and what happens when you’re triggered? We can’t handicap ourselves by not protecting ourselves without boundaries however at some point we must heal and lower our guard and boundaries. Tap into this weeks episode to hear our take on this...

Often we rely on other to build us up but is that necessarily their job or fair? We look towards people for reassurance but assurance has to happen before we can be reassured. We have to feel love, success and fulfillment within ourselves before we can feel it from other people. We must grow & be strong on our own accord before we turn to other or even try to do the same for others. If not we...

We often look at Hartford, CT as a pitstop between Boston & New York with not much to offer. But you couldn't be more wrong if that is truly your opinion of our city. We have our own sense of fashion, an art scene, professional sports teams and way more to offer but it's all often overlooked. WHY? Is it because of the steady rise in gentrification or the lack of support from city officials? Is...