How To Love Yourself No Matter What

Difficult relationships are just that ... difficult.  The truth is, we all have difficult relationships.  Even when we decide to stop contact with somebody, we still have a relationship with them, because the truth is, all a relationship is, is your thoughts about another person.  I know it can seem like the only way to improve a relationship with somebody is for them to change, but...

My son was told by a friend that somebody on his basketball team found him annoying.  My response was that, first of all, that was his teammates problem.  Because the truth is, being annoyed is a feeling and that means it's created by what we think.  We can't control what somebody else thinks, and therefore we cannot control how somebody else feels. Feedback like "you are annoying"...

I spent a lot of years of my life (over 40) being ashamed of being an outward verbal processor.  It's a pretty common neurodivergent trait that can oftentimes end up with other people treating you poorly. Here's the thing, even thought a lot of people really don't get it, there ARE a lot of people that DO get it.  Today's episode breaks down what life looks like as a verbal processor, ho...

Step into a world of self-discovery and empowerment with me on today's podcast! Join me as we unravel the layers of your self-concept, exploring what truly shapes your beliefs about yourself and how they impact every aspect of your life.   In this episode, I'll guide you through thought-provoking questions and practical strategies to challenge your existing self-concept and pave the way for p...

If you tell me that you are neurodivergent, I would bet money that you have a lot of lists.  You probably think that those lists are what is keeping you from drowning in forgetting all the things you are supposed to be doing.  But I am going to tell you something that might rock your world: The lists are making things so much worse.  Lists are a way of confirming all of the things y...

What do desperation, hopelessness, failure & winning have to do with each other?  Everything.  They have everything to do with each other. So, why am I delving into these seemingly disparate topics? Well, because they're all interconnected. You can't fully understand one without considering the others. Desperation, hopelessness, failure, winning—they're all part of life's intricate t...

Anxiety.  We all feel it.  It has been labelled as a problem emotion.  It has been labeled as a disordered emotion.  But what if I told you that it's actually an emotion we feel when we are terrified of feeling emotion?  Today I am going to share what anxiety REALLY is.  I am also going to help you break it down into bite size pieces so that you can finally start addr...

Neurodivergent women struggle with sensory processor overload.  But that doesn't mean we have to change or be different to stop overloading.  However we do want to make the overload our responsibility.  Today's episode shares how we can begin with understanding how to give more time and energy to our sensory processor (aka our brain) so that we can create a life we enjoy living (eve...

As young girls, we are socialized to be "nice".  In fact, we spent a vast amount of time focusing on how to stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want, but at the same time we try to do it in such a way that we don't come off as being  bitch.  The truth is, most of us (unwittingly) end up choosing to be unhappy and dissatisfied, rather than appear as "bitchy" in a hard situatio...

Are you settling in your life?  Are you trying to get yourself to be ok with what you think you can get because you don't think what you actually want is possible.  If that is what is happening for you, I want you to know that it is super common in neurodivergent people.  In fact, many of us walk on this path for so long, that we stop wanting all together. Today I want to change tha...

Join me as I interview one of my dearest friends and favorite clients: Tory Reade.  In this episode Tory shares the impact and benefit of the quiet but profound change that coaching has brought to her life.   We cover how Tory was interested in coaching right away, and the reasons why I directed her to therapy instead.  We talk about how she determined when she was ready for coachin...

Welcome to the first podcast episode of 2024! As we dive into this new year, I am beyond excited and filled with clarity about what I have in store for you. This year, my goal is to bring you my absolute best, sharing insights that will truly blow your mind. In today's episode, titled "The Anti-Resolution," I address the common practice of setting New Year's resolutions, something I've grown to di...

On today's episode, we are going to be talking about Crimbo Limbo.  The time between Christmas & New Year's that sometimes feels ... gross. I've struggled with this phenomenon throughout my life, and I suspect I'm not alone. This episode delves into the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face during this time. The mix of high energy celebrations, overindulgence, and socializing...

Hello, and welcome to the podcast! As I record this on December 20th, 2023, the holiday season is in full swing. I've observed a unique vibe this year in my community, and it seems like many others are feeling it too. It's been an unusual year, marked by a lack of snow, turning our Christmas landscape into what I can only describe as a "not-so-brown Christmas." In today's episode, I reflect on the...

Hey there, it's Amanda! I'm thrilled to have you join me in this episode where we're shaking things up and challenging the idea that December is the time to throw in the towel. We're diving deep into a conversation about the common mindset that suggests the year is practically over by mid-December. I want to encourage you to finish strong, showing up for your life in a way that aligns with your go...

Today we dive into the magic of the holiday season. As we approach the holidays, I share insights and strategies to help neurodivergent women navigate this time with ease and find the peace they deserve. I'm excited to announce a 10-day challenge where I'll guide you through a transformative process to make this holiday season truly yours. Join the challenge in a Facebook group or access a private...

Join me as we dive deep into the often-overlooked world of rest—specifically, mental and emotional rest. In a culture that glorifies productivity and the ability to push through, we explore the undeniable need for true rest in our lives. Contrary to the societal narrative, I challenge the notion that rest is merely a means to enhance productivity; rather, it is an essential component for our overa...

Today, we dive deep into the concept of being the boss of your brain – a skill crucial for navigating the challenges of neurodivergence. Contrary to common misconceptions, being the boss of your brain doesn't mean eliminating all negative thoughts or self-doubt. Instead, it's about understanding and working with the natural tendencies of our brains. Many of us, especially those who are neurodiverg...

Today, amidst the snowfall in Kamloops, we're diving into a captivating discussion about comparison. Join me as we challenge the narrative that comparison is the thief of joy and explore why negative judgment, not comparison itself, is the real culprit.   In this episode, we unravel the intricacies of comparison, acknowledging its natural existence in our minds. Instead of pushing it away, we...

In this episode, we'll explore the intricate world of negative thinking and how to break free from its grip. I'm Amanda, and I'm here to guide you on a journey toward a more fulfilled and empowered version of yourself. We'll dive into the complexity of negative thinking and the common desire to replace it with positive thoughts. I'll discuss the various factors that influence our thought patterns,...

Self-Love.  It's a much talked about subject that is often massively misunderstood.  If you are neurodivergent, been told you are mentally ill or going through emotional distress, self-love is the number one thing that will take you out of emotional pain.  How to love yourself no matter what was the original title of this podcast.  Today i am bringing it back.  You deserve...

In this podcast episode, I'm thrilled to announce a new training program that's dedicated to helping individuals with neurodivergent brains effectively handle and manage anxiety. We understand that this can be especially challenging for those who have experienced trauma or received a mental illness diagnosis. The best part? This training is entirely free. All you need to do is sign up on our waitl...

Welcome to the "Monday Mindset" podcast, where I delves into the essential topic of emotional capacity. I discusses the significance of emotional capacity and how it impacts those with neurodivergent brains. I explore ways to increase emotional resilience and enhance your ability to handle emotions effectively. Throughout the episode, I introduce five key elements to grow your emotional capacity:...

Today, I really struggled with what I was going to talk about. Not because I didn't have enough ideas, but because I couldn't figure out what idea would be the best idea to talk about today. But I think that I've centered in on something that is worthwhile talking about, and it's something that I bring to my coaching clients all the time. In life, we have a variety of emotional wells we can draw f...

Do you find yourself trapped in a never-ending cycle of overthinking, racing thoughts, and logical decision-making that leads to more frustration than satisfaction? If so, you're not alone. In this episode we take you on a journey to explore the power of leading with your gut and embracing your inner navigator. Many of us have been conditioned to prioritize logic and reasoning when making choices,...