How to Get Over Your Ex

Many of us have heard that our worthiness is 100%, your productivity doesn't equate to your worthiness. Something that hasn't been talked about much is WANTING from inadequacy which is tied to how worthy YOU feel. In this episode, I share with you a sliver of what is shared in module 5 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex In this episode: The...

As an expert at breakups, I see two forms of regret after a breakup occurs. The first kind is regret about how you behaved during the relationship, especially after you've learned everything I've taught you in the podcast. The second kind is regret about your decision to leave the relationship (if you're the one who left). In today's episode, I talk about how regret can be useful and how it can al...

Many of my clients have brought up this topic of wanting to feel validated by others and their ex. I'm here to tell you two truths about external validation that you've never heard before and the specific techniques I use with my clients to let go of the graspiness. You've never once been externally validated nor is validation a problem. Learn more in today's episode as I unpack this all with you....

If you're anything like me, learning to trust after a horrific breakup was the biggest hurdle that seemed to last forever! After overcoming that hurdle I found that trust was the missing piece I needed for so many areas of my life. It changed EVERYTHING. Join me as I talk through the 2 types of trust you need to have prior to placing your trust on anyone else.  In this episode: What is trust? The...

We've all heard rejection is god's way to redirect you. I'll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way. In this episode: What is r...

Loving yourself is not the equivalent of self-care. We can take all the actions in the world and do self-care routines but if we don't change our brains we don't change the feelings. Instead, you might find yourself forcing the self-care routines vs letting them come to you naturally and organically. Two of my clients recently mentioned that "dating someone will have to be better than what it's li...

What he's saying about you doesn't have to be your truth. Just because he says "You don't make me a priority" "You're crazy, you need to stop acting like I'm the problem, you're the problem" "You're a hypocrite" "You were the one that messed up" "You're just seeking attention" -- doesn't mean it's your reality. Nor does it mean you need to convince him otherwise.    In this episode: Learn how to l...

Living your life just tiptoeing around your pain doesn't work, it's actually more miserable than it is to just experience the heartbreak of heartbreak. Learning to dive headfirst into this experience will transform your life by awakening the dull dead pain you've been carrying for far too long. On today's episode, I bring on my client Megan who talks about her experience of living and LEANING into...

When we are in the thick of it it's hard to really even imagine what it would be like to truly get over your ex. It seems impossible even which can make you feel oh so defeated in life and 100% not like yourself. In this week's episode hear from 5 bravehearts who are between week 5 and 12 of working together and their experience in recently getting over their ex.  In this episode: From 10 year rel...

Hear from 5 of my clients who have worked with me from 9 months to a year and a half! We talk about what led them to coaching, who they are in comparison to who they used to be. The results they have created in their life BECAUSE of their heartbreak and their most important words of wisdom.  In this episode: Inspiration from fellow bravehearts How to believe you'll get through this on purpose Maki...

I'm obsessed and totally in love with the braveheart community and the wonders I've seen through my group coaching that I include with my one on one clients. Healing while also watching others heal gives you connection, stability, security, and certainty. In today's episode, I've outlined the problems we have that are keeping us from that kind of healing and what to do about it. In this episode: T...

I think all of us can agree that going through a breakup tends to be a lot of high highs and low lows. We have a lot of emotions. This goes for people who are broken up with AS WELL as those who did the breaking up. What if I told you, that YOU had control over these? What if you weren't at the effect of him calling or texting? What if you weren't at the effect of him being or not being with anoth...

"He's not hurting" "He's not upset" "He didn't choose me" "He didn't love me" "I'm always replaced" "He's not the same person" -- All very real statements my bravehearts come to me with. They feel like its all SO true. And when they do, it creates so much pain for them. So I've created an episode that will be a GAME CHANGER for any of you who feel like your pain is so heavy. Let's turn your pain i...

After a breakup rebuilding confidence is SO important. This week I've invited a special guest, expert confidence coach Christina Kwan to talk to us about confidence specifically related to after a breakup.    In this episode: Why is our confidence lowered after a breakup? Confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, what are the differences between them? Why is self-confidence so important?  Next steps to...

Oftentimes we leave closure up to someone else. We think we need to have a conversation with our ex but closure isn't what we think it is. And we have the power to create it for ourselves. Stop giving away your power and learn how to close this chapter on your own without his input.    In this episode: Why we tend to give him the power when we're looking for closure Why we don't want his input in...

Why does it seem like we are in constant competition with our ex? We were once a team and now all of sudden I feel like I'm losing at life. Comparison is normal however I'm seeing with my clients that we use it against ourselves instead of to help us.    In this episode: Learn why we compete and compare ourselves with our ex The different types of comparison The exact steps to use comparison as a...

When we choose to find limitations in our life we will find limitations. It's so hard to see opportunities and possibilities in the midst of heartbreak but doing so can be the difference between you staying stuck in heartbreak or finding the life you've always wanted.    In this episode: Learn about opportunities vs limitations What's on the other side of heartbreak How to focus and find your oppo...

I often hear people talking about others as "toxic" or a relationship was "toxic" when in reality there are no toxic people, only toxic thoughts. And when we choose to think of someone as toxic, we are only doing ourselves a disservice.    In this episode: Learn how there are no toxic humans just toxic thoughts How it hurts us to think about other humans in that way How to deal with "toxic" humans...

Yay, you Bravehearts ask and I'm here to ANSWER. Today we are talking about frequently asked questions aka a question and answer session. I am here to serve you so therefore I wanted to answer some of your most burning breakup questions! In this episode: I can't break away from wanting him back, I've tried to change my thinking but I just can't Revenge Closure Getting back together with your ex Re...

Today we talk about how having fun during your breakup journey is 1) possible and 2) super transformational. We explore a specific client example of this and how having fun helped her let go and move on from her suffering and feeling sorry for herself.    In this episode: How can we have fun during a breakup Why it's so important to have fun during healing How having fun will speed up getting over...

Today we are talking about breakup lies that I'm seeing so many of us mistake for truth. They are common and oh so sneaky. Many of us think them, believe them, and mistake them as facts when in reality there is so much evidence for how false the lie actually is.   In this episode: What is a breakup lie How do I identify it and change it The steps to crack the lie so you can move on

There are two types of pain going on during heartbreak. We have clean pain which is the typical grief, sadness and loss we experience with heartbreak but I also see a secondary pain that is being compounded which holds us back from actually getting over our ex and moving on. That pain is called "dirty pain" where we tend to shame ourselves because we are even experiencing emotional suffering in th...

Post-traumatic growth is something I talk about with my clients pretty often however it's very relevant to what everyone is experiencing in the world right now so I wanted to make sure to cover it with all the Braveheart listeners. During times of trauma or crisis, we can come out of it stronger and more developed than prior to the event taking place. What would it be like if you used this heartbr...

Overall this is a time to rise up. In 3 to 4 months from now I want you to be STRONGER I want you to come out of this like OMG what did she do?!?! This is not a time for vacation, this is not time to buffer away our lives and just eat, drink, watch Netflix and chill. It's time to step up, to provide value to the world, to create our goals, to overcome this all, together, as one. This is the time t...

This topic is the most life-changing topic for my clients. This is what CHANGED the game for me after my breakup and it took me a YEAR to figure this out, and now you won't have to. Learning to forgive will be what changes it all for YOU. It has nothing to do with him, you don't even have to have a conversation with him. Learn how to forgive and let go so that you can move on! In this episode: Wha...