How to Get Over Your Ex

The reason this is so important is because we MUST show up as future you. Future you who is over her ex, who is THRIVING not just surviving, the woman who knows her worth, attracts what she wants in life, and makes decisions that benefit her long term not short term. The woman who isn't constantly obsessing over her ex, stalking his and her social media. You are NOT That person. Being committed an...

Going through a breakup (and obviously divorce) costs money. Not only do your expenses double but you are also struggling with scarcity around your life in general, so living in financial scarcity can be an easy subconscious decision that leads to missing opportunities to make or save more. Join me as I discuss breakups, divorce, money and scarcity with my million dollar money coach Jill Wright. I...

Should I leave the relationship or should I stay? Many individuals come to me confused, doubtful, and full of fear trying to make a decision because they think they'll feel better either with or without this other human. What if I told you, you could make this decision and feel great no matter what? Let me teach you how!   In this episode: We talk about why you're struggling to make this decision...

I found out my ex got married this weekend via an Instagram story. Gotta love the gram. It's been almost 4 years and ultimately I'm so grateful for him and have so much love towards him and now his new wife, I was surprised that I had overwhelming emotions from so long ago, bubble up. I share this experience and a new concept that was created through this called "the grief bubble".   In this episo...

I don't know about you, but for me, I did everything I could to not be alone after my breakup. I was busy during the week and ensured I was away for the weekend so I wouldn't be alone with my thoughts. I didn't want to feel lonely. I hated feeling lonely and even felt it when I was in a crowd of people. Learn how to love your loneliness through this new experiment.   In this episode: Why do we hat...

Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. Most people will say, "it's just going to take some time for your heart to heal" but I'm here to tell you that's ALL WRONG. After going through my own experience and spending years of helping women through breakups and divorce I know without a doubt time has nothing to do with it, but I know what does. Join me today as I explain this concept and wh...

Valentine's day is neutral, what are you making it mean? Are you dreading the day? Are you content about the day? Are you excited about the day? How are you thinking and feeling about valentines day and what kind of experience will be created because of that? Learn how and why Valentine's day is neutral and how to create and decide your experience for the day AHEAD of time!   In this episode: How...

This is one of my most frequently asked questions on consultations. We think that him moving on or him acting like everything is fine equates to him not hurting. But that's simply not true.   In this episode: Why do we let how he's coping dictate how we feel? A specific client example The exact steps on how to overcome this for yourself

Immediately following heartbreak we often just want to feel better, the pain coming from the end of the relationship can be so overbearing. But what if I told you that by switching "I just want to feel better" to something else, you would find so much relief?   In this episode: How to find relief in the overbearing emotions of heartbreak 4 steps to feel better My experience with feeling better   T...

Memories are sentences in our brain ABOUT our past. Not everyone will have the same thoughts about the past but after a breakup those thoughts and feelings that come with the past can be overwhelming. Often times we feel at the effect of our emotions in that moment but I promise you, YOU have control.   In this episode: Why the overwhelming memories of him flood in How to cope with those thoughts...

Why are we focused on him not giving you what you want? This isn't about him, it's about YOU. Out of all the things we could be wanting and creating in our life why are we focused on changing other people? Why is this a problem and what can we do to overcome our "wants"?   In this episode: What does wasting our wants mean? 3 biggest problems about "wanting" How to overcome wanting

I have many women that come to me who are experiencing an unexpected change in their life because of their heartbreak. They are left wondering, "how did I not see this coming?" "what was I thinking?" and it leads to them questioning and doubting their own judgment. Smart, successful, bomb AF women, questioning their own judgment. In today's episode, I unwrap, what we tend to do this, why it's a pr...

There is a lot of information out there about why the no contact rule after a breakup is a good or a bad thing. The pros, the cons, the benefits, and why it works or doesn't work. Here's my two cents. Everyone is different. Everyone's relationship is different. I don't think it needs to be a blanket statement. I have some clients that cut everything off and have zero contact, and that works for th...

Nothing is worse than running into your ex unexpectedly, showing up all kinds of weird and awkward. So many of my clients live in the same area as their ex and know they may or may not run into them. However, they don't create a plan for how they want to show up in this moment. SO, in today's episode, I give you the step by step process I walk through with my clients to create a plan on purpose fo...

Today is the first interview I'm launching on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast! So excited! Alexander James and I talk through the book Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas and his personal experiencing using this book to breakup with his partner.   In this episode: What is conscious uncoupling? How can I use this in my breakup? What are the biggest takeaways from the book? What if...

In today's episode, I cover the third phase (getting excited about life again) to getting over your ex in 90 days. I remember freaking out about my future after my breakup. The future I built was with him so how in the world could I be excited about what is in the future if there was for certain no way I'd have that future without him?   In this episode: Why it's so important to build a future you...

In today's episode, I cover the second phase (rebuilding your confidence and rewriting your breakup story) to getting over your ex in 90 days. Rewriting your place from a confident place is vital to not recreating your past over and over and over again. I give you the next steps to go and implement the second phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.   In this epis...

Getting over your ex doesn't have to just take time. Time has nothing to do with it. In this three week series, I walk you through the three phases to getting over your ex in 90 days. This 3 phased approach is the process I take my clients through and today we take a deep dive into phase #1.   3 Phases: Taking back control of your emotions Rebuilding your confidence to rewrite your breakup story G...

This past weekend I had the opportunity to speak at The Summit of Love. I did a working session on following your intuition to live a happier and healthier life. So in the past 4 months I've done a DEEP DIVE into what does that actually mean? And what can I provide to the audience in this area?    One of the biggest reasons people don't listen to their intuition/inner voice is because of fear. Fea...

Your relationship with yourself is EVERYTHING. It's the number one relationship you'll have in your life. It's vital to build that relationship with yourself for two reasons. 1) to rebuild your confidence with yourself 2) learn to love spending time alone.   If you're anything like me, this was a new concept. I had built my life around someone else. I wasn't even aware that I didn't have true awar...

If you're anything like me during a breakup, you've jammed your schedule full of things to do to avoid being alone and feeling your loneliness. I would try to distract myself until I had to sleep so that I wouldn't have to sit with my own thoughts by myself.   But what happens when the distractions stop working? Or we can't use a distraction? We must sit with our thoughts and learn how to handle o...

The day is here! I'm sharing my breakup story with all of you which includes a third person. Learn what I was making the new girl mean about me and how in reality our ex dating someone new has EVERYTHING to do with them and nothing to do with us.   Our brain's default is to 1) compare and despair or 2) make it mean something about us or 3) both. How is this playing out in your life and what can we...

Social media has forever changed heartbreak. It's this added layer of complexity. We continue to look at his feed even when we know it's not gonna make us feel better after the fact. Why?   We tend to scroll the social for two reasons 1) to avoid feeling negative emotion 2) we actually get a hit of dopamine when we look at his/her feed. It's like an urge you get when you've given up sugar and flou...

I get it. It's so damn annoying.   Your brain is CONSUMED with him/her. It's all you can think about… I would have paid big money to just mechanically erase him from my brain. I haven't found that solution but I found something else that works!   Our brain has 60k-80k thoughts in a day, and the brain is an efficient organ. So when it can run on default it wants to and it will. So when someone used...

When I went through my earth-shattering breakup after a 7 year relationship I googled "how to get over my ex" for a full year. I did everything I could to figure out how to forgive and move on.   Everyone kept telling me it was just going to "take time". After a year of waiting for the time to heal my heart I was over it.   That's when I found out, time had nothing to do with it. It had everything...