How to Get Over Your Ex

Many Bravehearts come to me saying "I should have seen it coming". And my answer is the same every single time.  No, you weren't. You were never supposed to see it coming. Maybe you'll see it coming next time. But this time, it went exactly as it was supposed to. No one goes into a relationship expecting it to end. Telling yourself "I should have seen the red flags" or "I missed something" only ke...

It's not just about getting over him. It's about creating a life better than the one you had with him. Maybe even creating a life your ex regrets leaving. Because when you build that beautiful epic amazing life, it doesn't even matter to you if he regrets it. That, my Braveheart, is priceless.

For so long I just wanted to feel "taken care of" in my life. After my 7 year relationship ended, the last thing I felt was "taken care of" … by the universe/God, by others or even by myself. Pretty much I was certain that I was forgotten. Security and stability felt like a long-gone notion that was something I'd never be given.  In today's episode learn how to go from feeling forgotten to fully s...

Getting over your ex is a decision AND a process. Many times my bravehearts think that just because they made the decision to get over their ex that means they will never experience emotion around their ex ever again. Then when they do experience emotions around their ex (from certain triggers like when their ex starts to see someone new or when they see a text from their ex) they think they are "...

Thought work alone isn't the same as thought work with other humans. Hence why braveheart alumni continue to work with me even after they get over their ex. Today we are going to explore how I've seen old breakup trauma show up in new relationships. You'll learn how to make sure you're not letting old breakup trauma with your ex infiltrate new relationships with potential love interests.  What to...

The last thing I wanted to do after my ex broke up with me, taking the life I had envisioned with him and handing it over to his new girlfriend was to "surrender". In my mind "surrendering" meant to give up control. Again, the last thing I wanted to do was give up what little control I had left in that situation.  Little did I know that "surrendering" really meant taking back my control and allowi...

The reason for your breakup is also the cure for your heartbreak. This is a very important piece of heartbreak that is easily overlooked. When we can take a moment to see that the cause is also actually the cure, it makes the moving on process more peaceful.  In today's episode learn how this is true for you and what you can do to find more peace amidst the heartbreak and take control of your heal...

Many of my bravehearts work with their ex. Being constantly reminded of what you don't have while trying to do your job that pays the bills can be excruciating, however, it doesn't have to be.   In today's episode learn how to handle the terrain of working with an ex whether virtual or in-person this is your moment to shine and show up as the badass braveheart you are regardless of who you work wi...

Oftentimes after a devastating heartbreak we are mired with the idea that "it just felt so right",  "I thought he was the one" or "something right went wrong" which can lead to us questioning our judgment. "How did I not catch that?" In today's episode, learn why it felt so right, why that's not a problem, and how to find out what's right for right now.    What to expect: Learn the real reason it...

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"I wasn't worth fighting for" is a common storyline that plays over and over in many brains after the end of a devastating breakup. It hurts, you feel inadequate, rejected, and unworthy of your ex, life, and new partners. I see this story break amazing, accomplished, and wonderful humans down. Today, we talk about how to drop the idea that you weren't worth fighting for and show you how to stand u...

During a breakup, there are many moments where you are overwhelmed with huge pangs of negative emotion. In those moments most are quick to react to them, and if they know their thoughts create their feelings, they want to quickly find a new thought to make them feel better.   When we do this, it robs us of the real lesson within the pain. Today, learn a tool called "compassion blankets" that provi...

In today's episode Breakup Coach Dorothy answers questions asked by Bravehearts covering a variety of breakup topics. From how to move on when your family loves your ex to how to handle your ex treating their new partner better than they treated you to how to stop comparing your new love interests to your ex and so much more. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a casual chit chat about all things break...

After a breakup many of my bravehearts have brains that consume them with the "what ifs". "What if I would have acted/shown up differently?" "What if I would have loved him differently?" They could go on for hours asking these questions and forming alternative realities in their head. The problem is, when you're busy asking the wrong questions you never solve for the right questions that actually...

A little impromptu braveheart love letter.  Sending so much love, Breakup Coach Dorothy

You've decided you no longer want to be in the relationship you're in. Or, if you're being honest, you're still not even sure but "think" you don't want to be in the relationship anymore. But how do you actually leave? In today's episode we talk about how to leave a relationship. We cover obstacles you may face and how to overcome them when deciding to leave your significant other. What to expect:...

What if your ex really was meant to be? Believe it or not, as a breakup coach, I've had clients that got back together with their exes. In this episode, I bring in these Bravehearts to tell you how exactly they got their second chance. Sometimes all it takes is working on ourselves to create a new, better relationship with the same person. Tune in if you've believe there's still something left wit...

Cheating is a touchy and intense topic for those who have gone through it. In this special episode, I bring on my clients who have been on both sides of the situation. This conversation unravels the topics of dealing with anger, the true meaning of forgiveness and how to let go of something even if you don't believe what happened was right.

We always talk about the dumpee but not the dumper. The truth is, there is still plenty of pain in breaking up with someone, just as there is in being broken up with. In this special episode,  I interview my former—and healed—clients who were the ones that got away. This episode talks about the perspective, personal stories, and regret that come with leaving someone you loved.

Living your life heartbroken is miserable. How are we supposed to be our best selves when we're consumed with thoughts about someone else? As a breakup coach who has helped thousands, I am certain that healing is possible for everyone—but most of us aren't given the right tools. Freedom from pain begins when you prioritize healing your heart. What to expect: ·  What being "over" someone means ·  U...

What if you guaranteed yourself that after this breakup you were a brand new version of yourself? Many people do this during the new year #newyearnewyou. But what if that didn't require a new year. What if simply required you to heal your heart in the most powerful, transformative way? What to expect: Learn what a new you will create in your life Understand how to guarantee yourself a new you Beco...

A part of heartbreak includes unfulfilled expectations. Expectations of yourself and expectations others had for you. During the holidays, these expectations are typically top of mind, as the year ends, family gathers (or not) and feelings are felt about everything that didn't happen.  Learning to feel content and do I dare even say "proud" during this time is possible. Learn to stop focusing on w...

When you're heartbroken, you're either stuck in the past or afraid of the future. But to heal, we have to move outside the chatter in our heads and into the moment we're living right now. This episode, I'm going to make this process simple for you to practice. What to expect: Learn how "being here now" will propel your healing How the subconscious brain keeps you from moving on How to "be here now...

Do you feel like you need answers from your ex? Many of my clients suffer because they are "confused" about how their breakup went and wish for clarity. The truth is, trying to figure out every detail of your breakup is why you haven't moved on. Let me show you how to reach peace without making things more complicated. What to expect: Understand what is causing your confusion Why confusion worsens...

Whether you've been cheated on or cheated on your partner, this episode dissects what it is about cheating that keeps you from getting over your ex. Resentment and guilt are emotions that can eat you alive—but it doesn't have to be like this. What to expect: The root cause behind why people cheat How not healing from cheating can affect future relationships Clear steps on how to let go of you or y...