How To Be Real

This is a love letter to the phrases that felt dramatic… until they didn’t. 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus ep...

We live in a country where violence goes viral, grief becomes content, and policies are passed without care for the people most affected. Empathy these days feels like it’s on life support. In this episode, we talk about the empathy crisis in America, how we got here, and why choosing to care is more necessary than ever. 💜 Tap in for the conversation, stay for the reminders. And remember: we’re n...

We’re sharing our top 3 biggest turn-offs and a few things that pissed us off this week—yes, we’re naming names (and behaviors). Then we got into the meat of the episode: attachment styles . We discussed how they manifest in our relationships, how they influence the way we connect (or disconnect), and why it’s so challenging to relinquish control when we’re deeply invested in an outcome. 🧠 Curiou...

This week we’re revisiting some of the most loved characters in TV and film who were actually the villains (don’t fight us, we have the receipts). Then we turn to the current events of today that have us feeling like we’re in the Twilight Zone:• The Job Corps shutdown and what’s next• The Gaza flotilla that never made it• The LA immigration protests and how the people are pushing back And finally,...

We’re tired, but we’re not turning on our people. In this episode, we unpack the term Black fatigue and our thoughts on this article that says the answer is walking away from “embarrassing” parts of our community. Fatigue is real—but so is care, complexity, and choosing each other even when we’re tired. . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE,...

This episode is all about the moment we realized: no one was coming to save us, and it was up to us to do the saving. From anxiety spirals to relationship red flags, we talk about the exact moments we knew we had to choose ourselves, and what it looked like to actually do that. The work wasn’t cute, but it was necessary. Plus, we get into some of the random things we just don’t like: from trying t...

Aging is inevitable. Growth is intentional. Let’s talk about what happens when people get older, but not better. **SINNERS SPOILERS @ 6:57-25:25 . . . . A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LET...

From the most random questions to the realest on-screen moments, we’re unpacking what’s been on our minds, on our screens, and in the headlines this month. . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay     S...

Divorcing the struggle mindset + the fear of ease . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay     SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss...

Longtime homegirl and friend of the show, Dominique Staten , joins us in the studio for a juicy debate: should you circumcise your baby or nah?  Along with being a wife and mom of 3, Domi is the founder and instructor of Creative Explorers Art Enrichment program for babies and toddlers, a future doula, and a Paper Pie Story Maker. So, if you need any books for your young ones, place your order HER...

Social media's renaissance, how influencer status is changing, and the curious case of family influencers...let's get REAL! . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowt...

*takes hit* We're exploring our trippiest stoner thoughts. Get your gummies ready for a mind-melting existential ride!   WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowtobereal@gma...

Figuring out what the group chat in our heads is actually trying to tell us...   WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public episode. If you...

Our future baby girls will be prepared AF for this hellscape of a world...fingers crossed! lol   WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public...

Habits we're breaking in 2025, what gets on our nerves, and bringing more balance into our discipline practice    WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime  Journal Prompt Sheet   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG  @howtobreal   TikTok  @howtobreal YouTube  @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG  @thetashab Tay's IG  @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER:  heyhowtobereal@gmail.com...

This year gave us new perspectives and a few WTF moments—let’s get into it!   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal   TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobr...

We’re getting real about what commitment means in our lives, relationships, and work—plus a little yap sesh about Jay-Z’s drama, the UnitedHealthcare CEO, and the iconic Nikki Giovanni.   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal   TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay   SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public ep...

Does cuffing season cause S.A.D. or maybe it's the other way around? Let's get into it!  ALSO we hope to see you at our Trivia Night to celebrate 1 year of the HTBR podcast! You can get tickets + details HERE   RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/   TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@HowToBReal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://ww...

No, you're not an imposter. But yes, you might feel like it lol   FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: heyhowtobereal@gmail.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other...

From the loneliness epidemic in the U.S. to guilty pleasures, motivational speaker, social worker, and therapist LaVontae Hill joins the show!   FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal   PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ LaVontae Hill https://www.instagram.com/ko...

Diving deep into the thoughts that hold us back + what we do to shake it off This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com

Besties Tash + Tay have known each other for 10+ years but there's still more to learn!  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com

How important is it to leave a legacy? Bri Norberg, founder of Powered By Women Sacramento, joins us on a special episode of the pod!  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com

Is the "soft girl era" a lifestyle or just a trend? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com

The overuse + manipulation of therapy. Let's get into it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com