Hot Flush Happy Hour with Kat & Tori

Why does desire seem to disappear in midlife… even in loving relationships? In this episode, Kat and Tori are joined by Dr. Juls—therapist, professor, and intimacy expert for women over 50—to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface. We talk about why it’s not just hormones, how stress and nervous system burnout impact desire, and why common advice like “just schedule it” can actually mak...

In this short and sweet episode, Tori and Kat get real about the "toxic sludge" of doomscrolling and the unique challenge of being the "sandwich generation". The heart of today’s chat is how to stay informed without losing your mind as we navigate global conflicts and rising living costs. The ladies explain that your nervous system treats a news notification like a tiger in the...

In this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Kat and Tori are joined by their lovely friend Lou Rubie, a trauma-aware counsellor and somatic practitioner . Together they explore a whole-person approach to menopause —and why learning to work with your body can change everything. Lou shares her own experience navigating menopause after a hysterectomy, including the shock of being diagnosed with osteopo...

In this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Kat and Tori kick things off with a real-life catch-up — the wins, the wobbles, the health updates, the busy times, and the “why is my body doing this now?” moments — before diving into a topic that hits differently in midlife: boundaries. We’re talking about why your tolerance suddenly goes missing, why your energy feels more precious than ever, and why t...

In this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Tori and Kat ease into the new year with a relaxed catch-up before diving into the pressure-packed world of New Year’s resolutions — and why so many of them don’t last. They chat about going “too big too fast,” making goals from guilt or exhaustion, and the familiar trap of buying a beautiful new journal that never quite gets used. Instead, they explore wh...

In this deeply honest and heartfelt episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Tori and Kat sit down with their beautiful friend Tracey to talk about the menopause journey so many women experience — but rarely feel prepared for. Tracey shares her raw, real story of navigating perimenopause and menopause without a manual: from brain fog, mood swings, joint pain and fatigue, to being misdiagnosed with depres...

In this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Tori and Kat explore menopause through the ages — from ancient goddesses and herbal healers to Victorian “hysteria” and now modern times. They uncover how different cultures have understood (and misunderstood) menopause, why so much stigma still lingers, and what we can learn from societies that actually celebrate this life stage. With their usual blend of...

In this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour , Tori and Kat catch up on life and laugh through the brain fog , while unpacking what’s really going on during perimenopause—aka “Cougar Puberty.” From hot flushes and mood swings to the deeper health impacts, they explore how little research has been done on women’s health until recently, and why that matters. With their mix of personal stories, humour, an...

Feeling a little “meh” about midlife? Wondering where you went in the middle of kids, careers, and hot flushes? You’re not alone! In this episode, Tori and Kat spill the tea on feeling stuck, share their own “who even am I?” moments, and give you simple ways to reconnect with yourself and your purpose. Because midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s your invitation to become her (with a laugh or two along t...

Welcome to our first episode! In this introductory episode you get to find out a little about us, who we are and what we do. We also talk a little bit about menopause and what the stages are. We aren't perfect, we fumble over words (Tori starts the introduction by saying Menopies instead of menopause) but we get there in the end. So join us in this new adventure in our lives- you're never to old t...