Hope when there was none

If you DARE leave you may hear or experience: He/She may threaten to commit suicide He/She may threaten to kill you or your kids/family or furbabies Hire someone to kill you or beat you up There could be threats to not give you a dime Leave you with bills Leave you homeless Tell everyone your crazy or that you were the abuser Cut off your health insurance Take everything from you Get you fired fro...

What the heck are Boundaries? I'm shooting from the hip today in this unscripted posting. Let's talk about personal boundaries and boundaries for others. What do they look like? Where do you need boundaries and more! If you have questions, don't hesitate to message me privately at melindakunst812@gmail.com.

Why does she stay?! One comment I see and hear often is, "Why Does She Stay?!" or "I would have left after the first punch!" There are many personal reasons a victim stays and these include in random order: 1) Fear- Of change or fear of the abuser 2) Guilty- Maybe she didn't try hard enough to work on the relationship 3) Lack of resources- No job, car, money, or even a lack of support There are th...

I had so much more that came to mind after yesterday's broadcast that I felt I needed to share. Today I'll talk abut: Misconceptions I had after leaving my abuser What happens with to the kids What does healing look like Who can you trust after leaving How to share your story and other tips and ideas for reaching others

It's been 14 years today since I left my abuser! Today is a day of reflection for me. I'm coming on to share bits of my story and to answer some frequently asked burning questions. Join me on this broadcast as I take a trip down memory lane. Contact thehotline.org or domesticshelters.org for help.

Hello, #selflovechallengeday21 ! Let's talk about comparing and a bit of envy. Have you ever done any of these? Do you compare yourself to those around you? Do you see others on social media and feel envious that your life isn't like theirs? Do you believe that other people don't seem to ever struggle? You are not alone if you have ever felt this way! Remind yourself that someone's fabulous lookin...

Dyanne is an Amazon best-selling author, speaker, creator of the SOULFIRE WOMAN’S WAY coaching and psychotherapist. She teaches midlife and beyond women yearning deeply for something more how to intuitively rediscover who they really are, believe in themselves again, and show up fully in life and relationships as their true selves with SoulFULL confidence. She helps woman reignite their Soulfires...

Here is #selflovechallengeday19 and this one may be hard. Try to go 24 hours without "complaining". This means no: "I can't believe she/he is being a total @ss! " "How come there are no more cashiers available?!", "Nothing good ever happens to me!" "Why is this day going so dang slow?!" You get the picture? Complaining is negative energy that you are putting out into the world and in your own spac...

Today on #selflovechallengeday18, let's dig into limiting beliefs you may have about yourself. So, what is a limiting belief? These are thoughts or opinions that you have about yourself. These may have been formed from childhood or even later as an adult. The thing about limiting beliefs is that you can be impacted in your personal life and professional life. For example: Your mom said, "You'll ne...

It's #selflovechallengeday17 and I have a question for you! What are your dreams for your future or where you are right now? Dreaming of your future doesn't mean you have your head in the clouds. It doesn't mean that you won't ever achieve your dream or that it is foolish. That magical dream may even be short lived. But don't ever stop! What does this have to do with self-love? Reaching for your g...

It's #selflovechallengeday16. Have you noticed if that negative inner critic was popping in and out during your day? Today, focus on letting go of thoughts that do not serve you. Holding on to these things can give added stress to you. Try to find a quiet place and give yourself at least 5 minutes to do this activity without distractions. (The car or bathroom works great too!) In your mind picture...

At 10 mins in I share tips for going "No contact" as well as a making a simple list that will remind you why you shouldn't go back to your abuser. Plus you will hear my dreams, goals, and hopes for Hope when there was none. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know...

It's #selflovechallangeday15! Do these sound familiar? ⛈ "That was a stupid idea!" ⛈ "No one is going to care! Why bother?" ⛈ "You aren't smart enough!" ⛈ "You can't do anything right!" WHOA! Harsh words? Why would someone be so mean?! I bet you think I should delete that person from my life but, guess what... these are the words "I" was telling myself! The negative inner chatter in my mind was so...

Rebecca is a Success Mentor, graduate with honors from Princeton University and author of international bestselling books, "Phenomenal Feminine Entrepreneurs," "Business, Life, Universe," and "How to Make a Six Figure Income Working Part Time." She was selected as Life Coach of the Year by International Association of Top Professionals. She hosts the top 5% globally ranked "Balanced, Beautiful, Ab...

Hello #selflovechallengeday13! Is there someone that you have been tolerating in your life? It's the person that makes you feel tension in your shoulders or neck. You may even dread having to go to a gathering or maybe it's the workplace. This can also be dealing with a tough situation that just doesn't go away or there is not a good answer to fix it so there is constant strife. It can be hard to...

It's #selflovechallengeday12 and today is all about sharing a random act of kindness for someone.😍 Over these past few days I've been sharing that there is so much more to practicing Self-Love besides pampering yourself. So, what can you do to share the love? In an uncreepy sounding way? Check out the picture for ideas but this could be paying a compliment to someone, buying a cuppa coffee or tea...

Today is a day for cleaning a space you have been meaning to tackle. I know this may seem weird as an action for self-love but it is! Did you know that negativity loves to hide in clutter?! Clearing can open up space for good energy or a new opportunity to blossom. This could be your email box/bookmarks/computer storage or a place in your home. Maybe there is a something leftover from a broken rel...

Give yourself an "honest" assessment. Our body is taking in lots of information all the time. It's subconsciously keeping you are safe but you may be experiencing stress or other feelings. This wheel has 6 core feelings and further breaks down other emotions to describe what you are experiencing. If you are used to saying "I'm fine." or "I'm great!" use this to really dig into truer feelings. You...

Today is #selflovechallenge9 and honestly, when I started my self-care/self-love journey the image below is how I looked. At the beginning of my journey, I whined, hesitated, and grumbled as I did my soul work. I couldn't help but think what was the point?! 🤨 My world was crumbling around me and I felt like crap and way too woo-woo for me. But, once I began to regularly practice self-care I start...

For today's bit of love, go to your mirror and look deep into your eyes. Now say, "I'm sorry". I know this is weird but honestly we tend to forgive others but we are so hard on ourselves. Tune in for more.

Here is a bonus for today! Let's dive into the "Dimensions of self-love" and what this means is to: Listen to your needs, figuring out what your needs are, trusting your intuition, creating Boundaries, and what are your wants?  We are also taking about self-awareness, self-care, and other types of self-care. 

Today is day 7 of the #selflovechallenge ! Listen, if you haven't started this no worries! Jump in today! Here is your "To-do"- Evaluate your time. Take inventory of what you are wasting time on. Set your alarm for 15 minutes and take note of what you did during that time and be honest! Do this for a few hours or for the whole day and see what you actually used your time for. I know this sounds si...

What is Gratitude and what does it have to do with self-love? Gratitude is defined as: The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Practicing the "Art of Gratitude" can be amazing! Developing  thankfulness can impact your overall health by raising your sense of value especially when the world around you feels draining. I know those moments it can...

Join me and Candice Mallicoat on Feb, 5th at 12:00 PM CST/11:00 PM MTN as we discuss using meditation self-care! It's Day 5 of the #selflovechallenge Candice will share how to make meditation easy by breaking through the most common myths: Meditation is too hard? Nope, come see how simple it is and learn techniques that are so easy they'll blow your mind! Meditation is too time consuming? Nope, fi...

Maryna is a self-mastery mentor and trauma professional supporting women in healing their history, transforming the relationship they have with themselves and becoming their own medicine. Her work initiates growth seekers into radical self-responsibility and emotional mastery through the vehicles of shadow work, inner child therapy and somatic trauma resolution, so that they can deeply heal their...