Hope when there was none

What does checking your circle have to do with self care and self love? A lot! The people we surround ourselves can influence our opinions, are self-esteem, and even habits. Taking a look at who you surround yourself can tell you a lot about how supportive they are.

It's Day 1 of the "Self-love Challenge" and today I'm kicking off the day with challenging you to do a digital detox for a brief bit of time today. See if you can build-up your time throughout this month. I know you can do it!

Are you settling in your relationships? Do you feel you just aren't good enough to find someone better? Let's dive into some tips to start reprogramming that mindset! Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safehorizon.org/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/ https://internationalw...

Do you find yourself having a hard time dealing with anger due to past trauma? Are you lashing out at innocent loved ones? Do you feel angry that you've lost chunks of your life? You're not alone and this is normal! There are things you can do to help. Recognize when you are getting upset. Seek out counseling or therapy. Join a support group or maybe form new friendships. Volunteer, maybe find a n...

A Vision Board is a great tool to help you turn your dreams into reality! By collaging inspiring pictures, quotes, powerful words and affirmations you can live the life you wish for. In this workshop you will: Tips on gaining clarity on what you are seeking for your life. Tools to make a powerful board of your own. You are free to bring personal pictures to include on your board of yourself or lov...

An easy coping skill you can use right now is to distract yourself. You can call a friend, watch a funny movie, clean your home, learn something new, practice mindfulness. Remember it doesn't have to be an expensive or grand distraction. You want something that's going to give you a little peace even if it's for a few minutes so you can clear your mind or give you a chance to breathe. Find me here...

A question I'm often asked is should I stay or should I go? What you do? Personally? I made lists of all the reasons I should stay and all the reasons I should leave. These both gave clarity to help me decide. Each situation is unique and only "you" can know when enough is enough. It could take something devastating to happen or to feel as though you are at rock bottom. If a domestic abuse situati...

Are you struggling with filling your cup do you know what that means? It can be really hard to make time for you. But you are so important and need to give yourself time to unwind. Tune in for today's tip on this motivational monday. Find me here- https://linktr.ee/melindakunst Find help and info here- National Domestic Violence Hotline- https://www.thehotline.org/ Safe Horizon- https://www.safeho...

Remember that your healing journey is yours and yours alone it's going to look different than mine or different than your neighbor or your best friend. Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. Remember all healing might not fix everything. You don't have to relive your trauma to heal. Try not to push yourself. And remember you may not fully heal and that's all right.  Find me here- https...

What are three things that you may be doing on your healing Journey that's stopping you? Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abuse. Here I wi...

Let's talk about some healthy ways to cope with your trauma. There are many methods out there and I haven't begun to scratch surface. Here are a few to get you started.  Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer...

There is no shame if you go back to your abuser. Just be on the lookout for these things: Name calling Things go right back to the way they were Threats Trust issues and more! Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offe...

Let me beliefs can hold your brain hostage what does that mean? It means that you're not living your life to its fullest because you're being held back by negative opinions and thoughts about yourself. So what can you do? Find out in today's #motivationmonday. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an a...

The holidays can be volatile time for many victims of abuse. Alcohol, drugs, and gambling may ignite a spark within an abusive situation. Or joblessness or financial issues can factor in. Here are a few tips to consider when planning your holiday especially if you're traveling. Given itinerary to your friends and family. Check in often if you can. Keep important numbers on your speed dial or ICE o...

It's #motivationmonday and here are 7 tips for healing.   1) Acknowledge the trauma that hurt you.   2) Accept the importance of self-care.   3) Ask for help! It's not a sign of weakness and you are not bothering anyone.   4) Take time for yourself everyday! Even if it's for as little as 5 minutes.   5) Find a healing modality that works for you!   6) Know that's it's...

What's one of the top tactics for abuser to use? Find out in today's episode! This can leave you feeling confused, emotionally off, accident prone, and more! Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and...

After you've been an abusive situation it can leave long lasting effects. Healing looks different for everyone. Here are some tips to get you started on your healing journey. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer...

PTSD can be triggered by traumatic events. You may experience a variety of symptoms from- flashbacks, avoidance, trust issues, numbness and more. Seek out a licensed medical professional for help. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to...

Common causes for PTSD are as follows: seeing a traumatic event, rape, natural disaster, and more.  Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic...

When you are just leaving or have left an abusive relationship there are different types of healing from your past that you can do. In this episode I'll give you some ideas and suggestions that may work for you. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help....

What's trauma bonding? It's also been called Stockholm syndrome it's where you stop trusting your judgment, and you might even question your sanity. You could defend this person, may have a love-hate relationship with them, and you may feel that you can change this person and more. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of s...

Intermittent explosive disorder can look like someone that is: Impulsive, aggressive, has angry outburst, may have road rage and more. Do you know anybody like this? Find the previous podcast here- https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/7bv5CYZPwub Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relatio...

Do you know what some trauma responses look like? Here's a few ideas. Can you relate to any of these? Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and educate others about emotional traumas and domestic abu...

What kind of behaviors do you see with a narcissist? You may see love bombing, devaluing, discarding, and hoovering. Is this something you've experienced? Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. My goal is to share awareness, offer empowerment, and ed...

Have you heard of covert narcissism? This is a type of narcissism that's hard to prove like many of the others. You're looking at someone that is going to Gaslight you, blame shift, move really fast in a relationship, and more. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to k...