Hope when there was none

It can be challenging to start a healing journey. I was in victim mode for a long time. My inner bully would rear its ugly head and tell me that I wasn't worthy, I was ugly, and more. I began to take steps to break those lies by reprogramming my mind by saying affirmations, journaling, mirror work, and more. I took every day with small steps and when I was knocked down I brushed myself off and beg...

WHEW! This topic was a rollercoaster of emotions for me! For years I questioned if our relationship was normal. I desperately wanted the "Hollyweird" version of a relationship. The romance, no shouting, no names, and for someone to love all of me. I wondered if I was really abused or was just going crazy? Let's dig into today's episode to find out more!  Someone out there needs to know they a...

This can also be called, “Stockholm Syndrome” in an abusive relationship. It can be formed quickly and last even after a relationship has been severed. A victim may feel powerless to leave. They make you feel empathy for them even though they are in the wrong. This person may even feel they can't live without this person. Tune in for tips to help you begin to heal from this. Someone out there need...

This is pt 7 of "What does abuse look like?" where I share some of the common abuse types. Here is an example of cyber abuse: You may have someone sending threats, hurtful messages on email, or text messages, on websites and social media. Posting secrets, recordings, private/personal videos, and pictures. Hacking into the victim's account to find out personal information whereabouts, financial inf...

Telling a victim to "just leave" sounds easy but some of the things the victim is thinking about are: Will be divorced/separated Will face them in court/legal settings Lose friends and family I Will be a single parent Rejection from church or organizations Will I ever find love again? Will I be able to collect support from the abuser? How will I survive with no job, money, insurance, car, house? T...

Did you ever wonder what a shelter is like? It sounds mysterious and maybe even scary! Join me with Shayla Wiseman from the North Central Indiana Rural Crisis Center to shed some light on these things and more.  Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to...

The first 72 hours of leaving your abuser can be one of the most dangerous times. I am not sharing this to scare you or change your mind about leaving. I am sharing so you aren't caught off guard.  Abusers will stop at nothing to get their victim back. A little smooth talking, a few tears, perhaps some threats to harm themselves or you. This sounds scary! I've walked down this road and have b...

Today I'm asking the question if you can spot abuse in a relationship or if you can see the red flags in a person. I didn't listen to my guts and plunged into a relationship that would send me on a life or death situation. Do you know the signs of an abusive person? Tune in here! Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of som...

This is part 5 of my 8 part series about "What abuse looks like". Today, I'm talking about spiritual abuse, what does this look like in a relationship? It can take the form of: Converting to a different religion Being kept from church or members of your church Not being allowed to practice your religion or worship in a manner of your choosing Using religion to justify the abuse Forcing you to atte...

Do you know the reasons people stay in abusive relationships? Find out 14 reasons why. Honestly, I could create a video for each of these reasons and the many others there are. I barely touched the surface in this episode!  Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to...

How you can start talking about abuse to your close circle of family and friends? Having a public conversation about abuse 'can' happen but please consider the place you are at and who is around you. Discussing adult experiencing or using adult words may 'not' be appropriate in front of or around kids. If you do have wee ones around consider toning it down by using words that may not be graphic. S...

Have you ever heard the saying, "Time heals all wounds"? Honestly, they will soften but they never truly heal and go away. In this episode, I dive into this frustrating topic. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. Message me privately for support or...

What the heck is Mirror work?!? When I first heard of it I thought it was really dumb. Mirror work can be a tool used to help in the healing process. Here is an excerpt from "Rising from the Ashes" (you can find my book here- https://amzn.to/3fsxe88) of how Mirror work helped me on my journey. I hope it helps you even if you're not in an abusive situation this can be a powerful tool. Now, you don'...

Today I'm joined by Helena Knowlton of Confusion to Clarity she shares her story of escaping Covert Abuse on episode #34.  Please visit confusiontoclaritynow.com to get acquainted, read about covert/hidden psychological and emotional abuse. Wondering if you’re being covertly abused? Download the Guide: “Is This Abuse? A 6 Step Guide to Uncovering Hidden/Covert Abuse” at confusiontoclaritynow....

Here is one of my toughest questions I am asked about in this episode. There could be a number of factors from abuse of drugs/alcohol, or illness, generational chains. Let's dive in! Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. Message me privately for sup...

In today's episode, I'm sharing some signs to notice that you are healing. It can be hard to know if you are making progress on your journey or you just may stop working on yourself if you don't feel you are where you should be at. Healing is not linear and life has a way of going sideways. Tune in for a bit of hope and tips. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can sur...

PTSD can take many forms. You may feel like there is a war raging inside you. What does it look like and a few tips to help you on your journey. Things you may experience: Easily frightened  In a cycle of fight or flight Nightmares Bedwetting Flashbacks Find it hard to concentrate Trust issues Negative thinking Chronic illiness And more! When I heard the words that I had PTSD and Stockholm Sy...

Episode #30  This the 4th topic in my 8 part series of "What does abuse look like" and this is a tough one! Now the things that I'm mentioning can be between adults and even things children may experience. Physical attacks by the abuser are often accompanied by or culminate in, sexual violence wherein the survivor is forced to have sexual intercourse with the abuser or take part in unwanted s...

Let's dive into the different ways you can start your healing journey using different modalities. From EFT, Journaling, and more. Someone out there needs to know they are not alone and that they can survive. Perhaps you are a parent or friend of someone trapped in an abusive relationship and need to know how to help. Message me privately for support or help. My goal is to share awareness, offer em...

Oh boy! I seriously do not always practice what I preach! Get the scoop here in episode #28! There are times when I am not feeling chipper or my health challenges have me lying on the couch in a haze or the latest where I asked my dear Friends for help in a situation where I needed to unfriend someone. So, let's dive into o go through Boundaries. What are they and why you need them. Someone out th...

I had the honor of having May Saengpraseuth Alirad MSW on today's episode # 27. May shares her story of Surviving and how she empowers fellow survivors of sexual assault to find their voice and take control back of their life in her new book entitled “Was I Assaulted? My Guide to Healing as a Survivor”. May Saengpraseuth Alirad, MSW is the Founder and CEO of De Lao CCE with a mission to empower su...

In episode #26 I'm digging into the "Theory of Self-Actualization", created by psychologist Abraham Maslow. In that, we heal or work on our lower needs in order to achieve our highest which is self-actualization. 5) Physiological needs: These include needs that keep us alive, such as food, water, a safe home or shelter, warmth, sex, and sleep. 4) Safety needs: The need to feel secure, home, employ...

In Episode #25 I'm digging into Gaslighting. This was is a word I wasn't familiar with until I dove down the rabbit hole to learn about abuse. This person may have you believe the sky is gray while it is sunny and the sun is shining or may tell lies about friends and family or tell you that you will never be anything unless you have them in your life. Someone out there needs to know they are not a...

Today in Episode #24 I will be joined by Pia Prana as we discuss Healing From Childhood Experiences. She shares her story and how she helps others with discovering empowerment by healing inner child wounds. Pia Prana is a Women’s Personal Mastery and Leadership Coach, a Holistic Counsellor, and Biodynamic Breathwork and Trauma Release Practitioner. She draws on a rich background of therapeutic tra...

Here is Episode #23 part 3 of my series on "What abuse looks like". I'm sharing all about Financial abuse. I honestly never thought about this type before but after learning more I realized that this was something I experienced! So, what does this look like?  This person can ruin your Credit- not paying bills or opening accts without approval fraudulently Overdrawing bank accounts Files for b...