HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

Getting Out Of Your Head (Stop Over-Thinking)

Barry explains how and why we can think the grass is greener on the other side: single people yearning for a partner, couples yearning for a different partner or to be single. He shares how to begin assessing if this is a healthy intuition or an unhealthy one, then describes the concept of Fantasy Contamination and balancing reality with fantasy. Also, he shares what to focus on to help us stop co...

Barry shares how to meet new men or connect with the man you are with. This is a simple change in approach that makes it much easier for a man to connect with you!

Barry shares the secret to having men REALLY listen to you. It’s bot complicated, but we are usually unaware of this as we speak. He also gives you a fun way to practice this!

Barry shares a powerful concept that neuroscience has revealed. Object Constancy is a developmental stage that affects emotional attachment — Barry describes what it is, how it develops, how it can contribute to fear of abandonment and anxious attachment style if not fully developed, plus how to see what your level of object constancy is and how to improve it.

Barry goes deep into the topic of “Bringing The Best Out In A Man”. He covers how to do it, what works, what doesn’t, doing it while meeting & dating new men, doing it with a long term partner, how Man-Mode can be activated simply, and the main subconscious blocks, beliefs and wounds that get in the way. This is a must-listen if you want to be treated well.

Barry cuts right to the chase and gives you one quick exercise to prevent disappointment with men!

Barry describes how a case of the “What Ifs” damage dating and relationships. He describes how our minds are trained to worry about future pain and fear based on past wounds and trauma. Then he gives us a way to separate the unhealthy What Ifs that are just past wounds from the real present moment situation, and how to take action when real issues are present now.

Barry describes the experience of asking ourselves, “Is He Worth It?”. Whether it’s a single woman deciding if it is worth the time and energy to go out on a date on a weeknight, or a woman in a relationship asking if the person she is with is worth the sacrifices and tolerations, Barry explains how to handle the situation. This episode ends with an action-focused question for you to ask yourself!...

Barry shares about the role of laughter in dating and relationships. He discusses how it can be sought out in a partner to compensate for an imbalance in our own life, or can be used positively in attraction and dating, or as a very healthy component of a long-term relationship. He explains how to incorporate healthy laughter into your dating and relationships.

Barry explains “The Real Reason People Don’t Have The Relationship They Want (And What To Do About It)”. He gives examples of this overlooked, underestimated factor then teaches an exercise that will help you solve it.

Barry explores the common worry “Does he love ME or my ____?” (Money, Looks, Status) and gives two solutions.

Barry discusses how studies show self-reported ‘wants’ tend to be inaccurate in dating, and the importance of distinguishing wants from needs to have a healthy relationship. This helps avoid narcissists and people pleasers, creating an equitable dynamic based on self knowledge and what really matters most.

Barry explores the different stages of “Living Together & Living On Your Own” as a single person and a person in a relationship — each one can bring up emotional needs and fears. He details these and what to do to experience the joy, love and connection of living together without losing yourself in the process.

How Relationships Are Like Investments. Barry shares how to invest your heart wisely.

Barry describes “How To Have Men Open Up And Talk About Feelings”. He explains the challenges men have with expressing feelings, why they have those challenges, the difference between Open Masculinity and Closed Masculinity, and exactly how to get a man to be more emotionally expressive.

Barry describes how stressful times affect your dating and relationships. He explains why that happens, and how to handle stressful times in a way that allows a healthy, empowered, less stressed you, and thereby a healthy, empowered relationship! If you deal with any stress in your life, you need to listen to this!

Dating and relationships don’t have to just be effort and self-growth, they can be fun and easy! Today, Barry shares a simple approach to make it fun and easy!

Create Meaningful Connection With Meaningful Conversations

Barry explains the 9 Environments we usually use in coaching to improve all 9 areas of our life, and then teaches you how to apply these 9 Environments for date ideas and relationship activities that are fun, connective and help you get to know one another more deeply!

Barry explains how we all have moments of full certainty and knowing about guys amd relationships; whether it’s realizing he’s the wrong guy, realizing they are the “One” for you, realizing you don’t love your partner anymore, or something else — our intuition, gut instinct, deep wisdom KNOWS. Barry explains how this occurs, discusses the neuroscience of gut instinct, how and why we often ignore i...

Barry explains why we are attracted to certain people and not others, the psychology of attraction, our past pattern, how our wounds and unmet needs are involved. and how to be more conscious of why we are feeling attraction.

Barry describes how and why we can get disrespected, and the real cause. He gives a quick adjustment you can make today to instantly get more respect!

Exercise: Why are you listening? Finding your big WHY.

Barry describes a different approach to your dating amd relationships that empowers you. He gives detailed examples of how a single client and a married client used this approach to immediately get better results in their dates and in their marriage. Barry gives one simple activity for you to try today to move towards a healthy. empowered relationship This is a must listen and a game change!