Help Them Heal-with Carol the Coach

Do you ever feel like you need a guide for what to say to your children about the most important topics in their childhood? Do you want to understand why our society struggles with crucial conversations about consent, body safety, sexuality, masturbation, ography, and social media, and smart devices? Well today, Clint Davis, Counselor and Father, guides us through the how's, why's, when's and how...

Today, Carol the Coach speaks with Jesse Pyles, whose niche is the underserved male partner. He believes that male hetersexual partners have a lack of resources and as a result likely deal with the fear, anger and sadness and loss alone. In this episode he shares the common myths a male may hear if his betrayal is shared. Join us for a fascinating conversation about the nuances of men who have bee...

Today, Carol will be interviewing 2 professionals who have developed a program that speaks to the emotions that drive unwanted sexual behavior. Dr. Anthony B. Walker has a Ph. D. in Human Development and Family Science, is an APSATS candidate and works as an addiction recovery life coach and recovery group facilitator with Choose Recovery Services and Luke Gordon, is a Certified Addiction Recovery...

Aarti Chidambaram is Asia's sole APSATS-certified partner specialist. As a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), she works with Partners of Betrayal Trauma. She is also on the Board of APSATS. Her approach to working with partners from “Discovery to Recovery©” focuses on practical tools to deal with complex issues. Facilitating one of the longest-running support groups in Singapore- and ma...

Todday Carol the Coach is interviewing Tera Brown who is a trauma informed Coach and Speaker. As an APSATS trainee, she specializes in helping people who have endured relational trauma create personal safety, emotional awareness and peace. She woke up from a lifelong pattern she wasn’t even aware of when after 16 years of marriage her husband disclosed his addiction, infidelity, and struggles. Ter...

As a trailblazer and thought-leader in the field of GASLIGHTING, Sarah Morales found the "traditional" definition was leaving people MORE confused about what IS and IS NOT GASLIGHTING; it was stigmatizing; it was perpetuating fear and a sense of powerlessness. SHE FOUND THAT THIS WAS NOT HELPING ANYONE! Her work in this field over the past decade has led her to create her OWN definition of GASLIGH...

Carol the Coach believes that couples can get through partner betrayal  and find post traumatic growth. Today, she interviews authors Joanna and Matt Raabsmith who along with Dan Drake, wrote Building True Intimacy:Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. In this book they describe about how couples can navigate some of the later stages of betrayal recovery as a team. Their roadmap help...

Today, Carol the Coach, Mary Kay Cocharo who wants to educate our listeners abou a new type of support and intervention. Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy is an integrative relational model at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology, and relational neurobiology. It aims at assisting couples to experience the most alive and joyful connection with each other whil...

Today, Carol the Coach is talking to Hope Ray, the founder of the Betrayal Violence Institute. Hope has created new terminology and conceptionalization for professionals and couples when complex partner trauma and betrayal violence has been identified. She has created hope  for society to better understand betrayal violence starting with the experieences of women in relationship with men who betra...

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Sandra Shachar PhD, who has just released The Solution, Relationship Repair After ography Betrayal. In her book she realizes that can fracture a couples relationship. She writes, "It is likely that your relationship is in crisis following the discovery of hidden ography use. If you, as the discovering partner, accidentally learned about your mate’s ography habit,...

The American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR) is a public non-profit that funded research into understanding and effectively treating addiction, with a special focus on sex addiction. Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Tim Stein, a colleague who wants the putblic to be aware of the research behind sex addiction and the important co-morbity that occurs when people suffer from untrea...

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Ken Adams who has co-authored a groundbreaking book A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts detailing the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent, and offering a path to unburden their shameful legacy and embrace sexuality and intimacy without the intrusion or constraints fro...

Betrayed partners need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing.⁠ Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S, who is an expert at helping partners work through sexual betrayal. An expert in the field, h...

Today, Carol the Coach interviews a Male Partner who is in Post-Traumatic Growh. Listen as he tells you how he got there!

When a couple seeks therapy after discovering one of them have been living a secret and harmful life of betrayal.  The usual treatment plan will most likely focus on the betrayer becoming sober and learning to live a life of integrity, and the betrayed partner beginning a path of healing from the PTSD symptoms of betrayal trauma.  This is a well researched and proven approach. However, the addict...

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Corinna Kaufman who is a partner who is in the middle of transformation. She is speaking, writing and sharing her message of self empowerment and change.

It is so exhausting to deal with the collateral damage of being a partner. It is just so unfair!  You didn't ask for the betrayal with all of its emotional wounding and many partners wonder if they will ever be able to recover. To make matters worse, partners put themselves on the back burner. Partners have options to get intense help but they delay it because: They resent that they need to make s...

When a partner feels Post-Traumatic Growth, she is much more likely to want to share it with other women who need the encouragement! Listen as Carol the Coach, interviews a partner to find out how she got healthy and what she learned about herself!

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Floyd G. Potts who has written Why Your Man Will Not Stop Cheating Until He Does This. In his book Floyd unlocks the key to sex addiction recovery and he wants to tell you about it today. This is Floyd's life story and he wants to help others heal.

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing the founder of Safe Space who created it as a resource for women who needed perspective and healing due to the destructive impacts of a romantic relationship.  Having experienced an intensely destructive and confusing marriage, she knew how overwhelming, frightening, and heartbreaking it can be.  She explains in our interview, "I left that marriage terri...

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Julie St Onge as she talks about how brainspotting can assist couples in their relational struggles. Brainspotting allows the emotional brain to reprocess trauma and reorganize it into the cortex or logical brain. It expedites the healing process. It is a process that involves using the optic nerve direction and bilateral music. We tap into where the trauma is...

Carol the Coach interviews Dr. Jill Manning, the creator of a Therapeutic Separation Planning Guide. This one-of-a-kind guide provides clinicians, coaches, and couples with a highly structured, worksheet-style resource for planning a customized therapeutic separation. Over 120 open-ended questions cover key topics for separating couples. In addition to a visually appealing layout, expert tips, res...

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Maurice Crane who is forming a new outreach for men who are struggling with sexual integrity. Grace Based Recovery is the foundation of Be Broken Ministries in San Antonio Texas. Be Broken Ministries is a ministry to men, wives, families with an emphasis on recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors, otherwise known as sex addiction.  Be Broken's flagship outreach...

Partners who experience berayal trauma can learn how to deal with the impact it has on their health. Today, Carol the Coach, interviews 2 partner betrayal specialists who have helped with other specialists to create a workshop for women who need to reclaim their lives. In this workshop, women will be able to : 1. Learn from partner betrayal trauma and behavioral health specialists 2. Grieve the lo...

Today, Carol the Coach interviews a listener who is confused about his status and his spouses status. There has been many types of betrayal by his partner and he wants help navigating how to keep himself safe. He has much resentment about the betrayals that she was a part of and wants some clarity from Carol the Coach.