Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

In this episode, I talk with my dear friends, Luke & Lauren Smallcomb. They have combined their skill sets (trauma therapist and mind-body practitioner) to create Flourish Therapy. I learn new things from them every week and am excited to introduce you to them. Find their contact info for Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or their podcast through https://flourishtherapy.co/. Ladies, please join us on F...

In this episode, I share some tips for setting and holding boundaries. As you rebuild after trauma and abuse, you will find your voice. Setting boundaries is a way to respect yourself and honor your healing journey. I offer Boundaries Group Coaching where we discuss these truths and apply them in everyday situations. For registration information, go to Heatherelizabeth.org and choose the Boundarie...

What a heartbreaking and gut-wrenching week for the survivor community. Everywhere we turn, there are stories that shake us. In this podcast, I share about a Round Table discussion I participated in with Thomas Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and Sarah McDugal. We went through the video from the Indiana pastor’s “confession” of “adultery” with a 16 year old girl. Watch here: https://www.facebook.com/s...

Moving forward, I will be recording twice a month on this podcast. I am adding more services and invite you to go to HeatherElizabeth.org and click on tabs to learn more. I offer group coaching, a rebuilding finances course, a retreat, and a summit. Coming soon, I will launch the Held & Healed Haven membership group. We will create community, learn more about rebuilding the body, mind, and spirit...

What makes you feel alive, energized, and excited? What gifts and skills do you enjoy using to bless others? What is one thing you’ve dreamed of doing? Learning to recognize and stay in your lane is so freeing! Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about the Safer Spaces Summit, Held &...

In this episode I share nine of my favorite healthy habits and encourage you to choose one to focus on. Little steps taken over time create big changes. You matter and your health matters. Take care of yourself, dear one. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizab...

“He’s a bad husband, but he’s a good dad” is not true. If a man abuses the mother of his children, he abuses his children. Period. In this episode, I discuss the heartbreaking, gut-wrenching reality so many women and children are facing. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https...

Andrew is the Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma. In this episode we discuss some of his story, his work and his most recently released book, How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good and Safe Man. To learn more about his counseling services go to https://christiancc.org/. For his personal website go to https://andrewjbauman.com/. Ladies, please...

From an Open Letter to Christian Authors, Bloggers, Podcasters, Influencers, and Leaders, I come to you on behalf of countless women who are suffering from destructive marriages… My first plea is that you become familiar with the patterns and systems of abuse… Based upon my personal experience and the hundreds of women that I encounter daily, my gut tells me that 50-75% of women within faith commu...

In this episode, I share about the felt presence of Jesus that has carried me through every season of my life. I boldly speak out against spiritual abuse, and pray that survivors can distinguish who God is from the ways others have misrepresented Him and His Word. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/61666317899...

Compassion is a deep awareness of the suffering of someone and the desire to alleviate that suffering. Self-compassion is learning how to turn understanding, acceptance and love inward (good therapy.org). In this episode, I share practical ways to exercise self-compassion, to set boundaries and practice healthy habits. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding...

In this episode, I share more of my story and focus on the past six years. I have been rebuilding (body, mind and spirit) and I am passionate about helping others do the same. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find links for group coaching, the Safe Spaces Summit and Held & Healed Retrea...

In this episode, I share some of my story. While there are many details I choose not to share publicly, I have experienced the thirteen patterns/systems of abuse in childhood and adulthood. I am grateful to God for His presence, peace, protection and provision through it all. Surely, He has held and healed me. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Ab...

In this episode, I share why I chose my one word for 2022. I’ve been battling some intense anxiety over the past several months and know that I am not alone. I am pursuing peace that passes understanding. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth. (You can reg...

In this episode I share some of my personal experience with exhaustion and grief. I pray that this encourages you on your healing journey. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherel...

Each year (since 2006), I choose ONE WORD to focus on. One area I want to grow in. One word that will help me become more like Jesus. In this episode, I share the progression of my words and the outline of my story that unfolds. I invite you to choose a word for 2022 and we’ll grow together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.fac...

For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. I am praying for you as you navigate hard things and encourage you to hold boundaries during the holiday season. To learn more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/copy-of-12-truths-group-coaching-3?fbclid=IwAR1Fmag_A22WVjyu8B91k-UW__F6zx88wKRR-wMHL-S1Zj-esF504-pvtcQ. For early-bird registration to Safer Sp...

Cindy is a survivor of a 20-year abusive marriage. She has so much wisdom to share with survivors and advocates. She has written several books, this episode highlights Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved. This book is a valuable resource for spiritual leaders. You may find her at at http://www.hurtbylove.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & H...

The holiday season is upon us. For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. As we are rebuilding our lives after abuse, holidays can be painful reminders of what we’ve lost. In this episode I share some tips that have helped me navigate painful family dynamics for the past 25 years. I encourage maintaining healthy habits, setting a realistic budget, blessing those in need, enforcing...

In this episode I share twelve truths that will help you heal after an abusive marriage. These are truths I have learned over the past five years and I wish someone had shared with me decades ago. I offer group coaching for women and we unpack each truth together and find practical application for each one. If you are interested in learning more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching, please message m...

In Episode 26, I shared harmful phrases that re-victimize survivors. In this episode, I share phrases that help/heal as well as offer suggestions for tangible ways to support survivors as they rebuild their lives. 13 Patterns/Systems of Abuse (Episode 19), also on my blog at https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/13-systems-patterns-of-abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: C...

Clara Hinton has been a grief facilitator, speaker and writer for over thirty years. She is a mother of 11 and a grandmother of 24 (so far!). She co-hosts the Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcadt with her son Jimmy. https://jimmyhinton.org/podcast/ Together, they educate anyone who is willing to learn about the heinous reality of sexual abuse in churches and beyond. This is a fire their family has wa...

Words are powerful. I have polled women in groups that I am a part of and asked for harmful phrases that were used by spiritual leaders when they disclosed abuse. This list is not exhaustive, but I pray that it helps us to be mindful of what we say to victims of abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663...

Dale and Faith are gentle and humble warriors who speak boldly against abuse in Faith communities. Dale has been a pastor for decades and Faith is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. They founded Speaking Truth in Love Ministries and they educate individuals and churches on the realities of abuse inside church walls. Dale wrote Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing with Sexual Abuse in Our Chu...

It was an honor and a joy to host the first annual Held & Healed Retreat in Virginia. 60 ladies from 8 or more states came together to laugh, cry, worship, learn, heal and connect. It was a beautiful sight to behold. Rebecca Davis shared a powerful message about Spiritual Warfare, as outlined in her book Prayer Armor for Defense (https://www.amazon.com/Prayer-Defense-Against-Enemys-Flaming-ebook/d...