Health and Healing Dealing with Trauma and Addictions

As parents, we want to eliminate as much pain, stress, and suffering as possible for our children. Yet, we don't have a magic wand, nor do we anticipate they will suffer greatly. We carry the anticipation that we as parents have done great jobs rearing them and given them all the resources to achieve life goals.  Anxiety in teenage children ages 13-18 is a real thing; these groups are struggl...

As we will see throughout trauma changes a person's personality. It's characterized by: * A loss of capacity to use community support. * Chronic recurrent depression with feelings of despair.  * Emotional anesthesia or blocked ability to react affectively.  * Alexithymia, or inability to recognize and make use of emotional reactions.  The list of secondary reactions to psychological trau...

As parents we want to eliminate as much pain, stress and suffering as possible for our children. Yet, we don't have a magic wand, nor do we anticipate they will suffer greatly. We carry the anticipation that we as parent have done great jobs rearing them and given them all resources to achieve life goals.  Anxiety in teenage children age 13-18 is a real thing, these groups are struggling to c...

Research is focused on child and teen mental health, exploring why they are struggling and what can be done to help them.  In the U.S., kids underage experience a mental health disorder such as depression, anxiety, or substance abuse. Yet nearly half do not receive any treatment. Children and teenagers can struggle with mental health issues just the same as adults. In the 10 years leading up to th...

Smartphones have transformed the way we communicate, learn, and entertain ourselves.  The tendency to compare oneself with others and the desire for validation through likes and comments can lead to a distorted self-image and feelings of worthlessness, continuing; studies have shown a correlation between heavy social media use and depression, anxiety, loneliness, and suicidal ideation. Recognizing...

This relatively new concept popularized in the early 2000's and first originated in the New Age Movement System . In scripture it is a deep spiritual, emotional and relational bond between two individuals. Good spirits do not attach themselves to evil spirits. Nor can an evil spirit attach itself to the Holy spirit. You cannot attach your spirit to someone else's. You can, however, be in...

The story of Tennessean Pamela Moses receiving a six-year prison sentence for submitting a form with incorrect information while trying to regain her voting rights begins with her past criminal record and ends with a judge who did not believe her. Yes, she was on probation for a prior felony conviction, including a 2015 conviction for tampering with evidence. But she believed her probation had end...

 In many areas, there are too few behavioral health professionals or therapist to provide cultural matching to all clients (people of color, specifically women and girls) who would benefit from it, so the ideal is that practitioners of all colors and cultures work toward the capacity to reach across color lines in culturally appropriate ways.  Black women are often pigeonholed as strong caregivers...

Cheslie Kryst, the 2019 winner of the Miss USA pageant and a correspondent for the entertainment news program “Extra,” has died at age 30. When Kryst was crowned, it marked more than a personal triumph: It meant that for the first time, three women of color were the reigning Miss USA, Miss Teen USA and Miss America. " By the Time You Read This: The Space Between Cheslie's Smile and Menta...

Did you know, marking its 151st anniversary known as the Super bowl of U.S. horse racing is upon us, what about its history?  Many are unaware that the Kentucky Derby was dominated by Men of color in its inception. That's right in the infant stages of the Derby African Americans jockeys were very prevalent. I really love horses their beauty and power.  As do a lot of people.  On opening day,...

 An attempt to integrate Psychology and Theology is a daunting task because of the divergent approaches of these academic disciplines.  We need to be aware of psychologists’ underlying assumptions, including ethical and metaphysical assumptions, critiquing those assumptions. Your thoughts and beliefs determine your reality. The problem of integration is this: To integrate Christianity with Psychol...

At first glance, most conflicts appear to be about surface-level issues—forgotten tasks, unreturned texts or a lack of effort in the relationship. These triggers make up only 10% of the argument and seem to have simple solutions like listening more, plan more and being responsive. Yet, despite attempts to fix these behaviors, the tension often remains. This is because the real conflict isn’t about...

The important message is that corporal punishment is a risk that can increase potential problems for children’s development, and following a precautionary principle, parents and policymakers should work toward trying to reduce its prevalence. “Spanking places children at risk for many poor outcomes across their lifespan. It is important to do work that can inform and promote prevention efforts to...

The African American community reflect the imprint of African language systems, the influences of regional British and Southern American dialects, and the creativity and resilience of people living through oppression, segregation and the fight for equality.  They like and embrace the culture, but not the people.  Talking black in America has inspired a movement that has steam-rolled through histor...

Fear let’s talk about it: fear impacts your health in some surprising ways.   Constant fear can make you doubt yourself. But the effects of fear-induced psychological harm don’t stop at the neck. The physiological effects of chronic fear can be just as devastating as the psychological ones.  The effects of fear can be far-reaching and profound, impacting our mental health, physical well-being, and...

What is grief?  It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Grief is a natural response to loss, or losing a loved one. Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges.  Even subtle losses in life can trigger a sense of grief. Grieving is a highly individual experience; there's no right or wrong way to griev...

Start delay: 40 seconds - Love and Happiness!  Did you know: Combined research from the U.S. Census, CDC, Pew Research and more sought out to find what drives divorce in the United States. These divorce statistics mentioned show what happens to marriages that end and when and how couples decide to end them. You may be surprised as I was as to reasons given. Just to name a few:  Expansion of lifest...

According to the study it has pointed out that this stereotypical association is weaker in Black women and Asian men. To determine whether a person’s ingroup identity and group status play a factor in such associations, the research team conducted two separate studies. Their research examines whether intersecting racial and gender identities affect people’s perception. Keeping in mind that the par...

Non-suicidal Self-injury/cutting is the term used to explain deliberately harming your own body, like cutting or burning yourself. It is done to cope with emotional traumas, anger, and frustration. Self-injury/cutting is the act of deliberately hurting yourself. You may carve something on your skin, burn yourself, hit yourself, or pierce your skin with sharp objects. When talking about childhood t...

2 Thessalonians 2:9–12  The coming of the lawless one will be in accordance with how Satan works. He will use all sort of displays of power through signs and wonders that serve the lie, and all the ways that wickedness deceives those who are perishing. They perish because they refused to love the truth and so be saved. For this reason, God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe t...

Anxiety can trigger depression and other behavioral, physical, and mental health issues. It is especially hard if you are dealing with other personal, work, relationship, or family-related issues. Please be aware that it is okay to ask for help. 

We are all in pursuit of something: what about “Happiness?” The pursuit may bring some happiness to life if you attempt to incorporate these 9 perspectives into your life or daily activities to attain” happiness.” 1. Typically, happiness goes up and down throughout life, with some very common patterns. 2. The key to happiness is not to have what you want, it’s to want what you have. 3. What is the...

They really don’t, its perception.   “Nice guys” do the following, they'll be just fine.  Practicing compassionate and honesty. Share your true feelings while maintaining kindness. This allows you to be both authentic and respectful. Embrace “No”, learn to decline requests that drain you, recognizing that saying no doesn’t diminish your love or care but helps preserve your energy and boundari...

When we grow up in chaotic or even dysfunctional families, we learn unspoken rules and messages. While necessary to the survival of a child within that family community, outside of that environment, these messages do not make sense and can even be harmful as they continue to revictimize trauma survivors. 5 of the most common unspoken messages that childhood trauma survivors carry into adulthood ar...

Anxiety can trigger depression and other behavioral, physical, and mental health issues. It is especially hard if you are dealing with other personal, work, relationship, or family-related issues. Please be aware that it is okay to ask for help.