Healing For Love

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! When we subjugate ourselves, we suppress our authenticity and aspects of who we are. In schema therapy, the self-sacrifice and subjugation schemas are called other-directed schemas. Those schemas appear similar in that they are both subjugating schemas, but there are some key differences. We tend to suppress our needs...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, we continue with our two-part series on the Netflix production, The Tinder Swindler. In the first part, we spoke about the schemas and modes of the scammer in the movie. He is a con artist who meets women on Tinder and then persuades them to lend him vast sums of money.  In the second part, we focus o...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, we are talking about red flags.  The Netflix movie, The Tinder Swindler, shows an extremely nasty example of an emotionally unavailable man. The movie is scary but riveting. It tells the story of a con man who persuades women he meets on Tinder to lend him large sums of money. Even though the characte...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Parenting is not easy. It is even harder for those raised by narcissistic parents because that is a particularly toxic way to rear a child.  In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a mailbox question from a listener brought up by a mother with narcissistic traits. Even though the listener acknowledges that her mothe...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In our last podcast, we spoke about what an abandonment schema might look like generally when dating someone. In this episode, we follow that by taking a more specific look at the different coping styles people tend to use when their abandonment schema gets triggered in a dating situation.  Our schemas get triggered w...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to the first episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast for 2022!   When making new year resolutions, most of us tend to think about things we can improve in our lives and the patterns we would like to change. One of those patterns usually relates to relationships. Justine has already had several sessions this year with people who want to break their relationship patterns...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some of the ways we behave and think are known as schemas. Schemas could be described as a filter through which we view the world, and they are closely linked to our deeply entrenched core beliefs. Recently, Justine and Gemma received emails from various listeners experiencing similar problems. One of the emails was f...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some of the ways we think and some of our behavioral tendencies are called schemas. Schemas could be described as the lens through which we see the world. They are closely related to our ingrained core beliefs but tend to be a little broader than those.  Schema therapy makes things very clear and gives us some easy-to...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Most people have an inner critic. Some are aware of it and acknowledge it, while others do not seem to notice the disparaging voice talking to them inside their head. The inner critic does not have to be a constant and deliberate internal narrative. It could also be a cluster of automatic thoughts or things you say ou...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this mailbox episode, Gemma and Justine address two questions submitted by two different listeners. One of the questions is about co-parenting children with a narcissistic ex-partner and how to protect them from the negative influences of their narcissistic parent. The other question is about supporting a partner w...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some distinct red flags tend to show up in the very early stages of dating that indicate that the person you are dating is likely to become emotionally unavailable, controlling, or toxic in a relationship. When you are in that situation, it can be hard to understand what is going on, and if you really want the relatio...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Managing all the uncertainty surrounding the pandemic can be tough and make it hard for many of us to remain grounded during these challenging times. That’s why we need to talk openly with our kids about anything that could be worrying them and spend some extra time on our self-care right now. Gemma and Justine are pa...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some people find it very hard to cope if their best friend goes out with another friend or starts a new friendship with someone else. They might find themselves feeling cut off, needy, jealous, or even angry. Abandonment triggers in a friendship can be just as strong as those in a romantic relationship. Especially if...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!   Gemma and Justine have another conversation in their series on breakups and schemas in this episode.  If you have ever experienced a breakup when you have an abandonment schema, you know how traumatic it is. So it is understandable if you would want to avoid going through that pain again. In this episode, Justine an...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! The break up of a romantic relationship causes so much angst and heartache for so many of us. Some people can’t stop thinking about their ex, and regardless of whether they did the breaking up or someone broke up with them, they cannot get that person out of their mind. They remain emotionally invested and find it har...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!   It is not uncommon early on in a relationship to realise deep down that your emotional needs will not be met, yet you find you are unable to leave. Things might have started hopefully, and you crave the connection and want things to work out, but you see a red flag. Or there may have been an accumulation of things t...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some people struggle a lot with the intensity of their feelings when they are in the throes of a break-up of a romantic relationship, particularly when they have an abandonment schema as well. The pain of the break-up and the schema becoming activated simultaneously presents a unique situation that leaves those indivi...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of the Good Mood Clinic podcast! Meeting people is hard and dating can be tricky business. Almost everyone is using dating apps these days, regardless of  age. However, navigating your way through those apps can be a daunting experience. It is often fraught with problems, especially in the beginning. Many of us grapple with issues associated with onl...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of the Good Mood Clinic podcast! In this episode, Gemma Gladstone follows on with the theme of red flags.  A short while ago, Gemma and Justine introduced their course called The Red Flag Project. The Red Flag Project course stems from their experience working with a niche group of women going to therapy to work on a consistent pattern they observed...

Send Gemma a message Welcome back to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Gemma and Justine are back after a short hiatus due to some ups and downs and a lot going on in their lives recently. They have been having some interesting conversations with their clients and one another lately about odd things that set them off.  In this episode, they discuss a few of the psychological quirks...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Gemma shares her experience and impressions of working with clients who have had the unfortunate experience of being 'diagnosed' with "treatment-resistant depression".  Gemma believes this is a dangerous and disempowering label which does nothing to help people get to the bottom of...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We have been getting some comments, queries, and questions in our mailbox recently. So in this episode, we will be introducing a new mailbox segment that we will have on the podcast from time to time.  With this podcast, we strive to raise awareness about some common topics that many of us have to deal with. So, if yo...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Last week, our Red Flag Project went out, and what we talk about in this episode of the podcast is related to that. We will be talking about the pleasures and pitfalls of online dating today. The dating process can be hard for some women to live through. It can be quite an emotional rollercoaster, and it can also trig...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We have been talking a lot about narcissism on the podcast recently because we have found that one of the main themes that people come to therapy with falls within the realm of narcissism. Coming to terms with narcissistic parents is a big issue that many people face, and it can be hard to do. In our last episode, we...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! From the annoying to the serious, Justine and Gemma focus on Red Flags in the world of dating and relationships.  In this episode Gemma and Justine introduce their new online course.  A short, affordable course for women who want to sharpen their radar for detecting early signs of emotional unavailability, relationshi...