Healing For Love

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Dr Gemma Gladstone discusses mindfulness to emotions in this extended podcast lesson.  Gemma describes what emotions are and the difference between the 5 basic emotions (anger, fear, sadness, disgust and joy) and more complex emotions such as shame.  She discusses why it is so important to acknowledge and experience e...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss a question from a listener in our mailbox series.  We love getting your emails and questions! The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now? When you find out your partner (who you thought was wonderful) has been unfaithful, this is pretty devastating news to say the least.  It's conf...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss 5 things that difficult parents do. We get so many requests to talk about relationships including the adult parent-child relationship.  No matter what age you are, you can still find yourself caught up in the emotional forcefield of your family or origin and some interactions can take you st...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! This episode is a popular one from a while back.  Encore Episode: 22: Coming to terms with narcissistic parents.  Support the show 🎓 FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating 😊 Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY Li...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the role that schemas play when try to Emotion Coach our kids.  We believe that the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman), is the gold standard when it comes to emotional attunement and meeting children's emotional needs.  BUT, we all have our own schemas as parents, so how ca...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman).  We cover the 5 steps of emotion coaching and discuss how emotion coaching is akin to emotional attunement and helps us to actively meet our children's emotional needs. Book mentioned:- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we are talking about the healthy adult mode in schema therapy. In schema therapy, one of the main aims is to develop and foster this mode. We all have this mode within us to use as a resource - to varying degrees. There are many things we can do to build and strengthen this mode and it increase the qua...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss a really interesting pattern that many people find themselves in when we're in this role. It can be really torturous and painful and we don't think clearly at all. It's a pattern that's played out mostly in romantic relationships and is almost always a replication of the...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'.  A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us  a detailed email about her inner critic.  'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mia, but sometimes Mi...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Up to 50% of people have this schema, it's incredibly common and underpins a great many relationship, personality and mental health issues. We discuss the Emotional Deprivation Schema.   It's one of the core schemas, it develops early life usually in the first 10 years.   It can be a tricky one for us to ide...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Justine tends to overcommit to things. After agreeing to do something, she often regrets it and lands up with a schema hangover because there are big consequences to changing her mind and saying no, and getting out of what she has committed to do can sometimes create a big drama. Since the last episode, she has been r...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are talking about the unrelenting standards schema in this episode. The unrelenting standards schema is closely related to perfectionism. People with an unrelenting standards schema tend to have very high expectations of themselves that do not change, regardless of the situation they are in. They are constantly str...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are doing a mailbox episode today!  Someone we will call Sam sent in a thoughtful and vulnerable email after listening to and resonating with something we mentioned in our episode on narcissistic mothers. Sam is an overseas listener who grew up with two narcissistic parents. He has a brother and a younger sister wh...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Gemma does a solo episode on what you need to know if you have an abandonment schema and find yourself getting triggered in a relationship. We, as humans, are wired to be cared for by others and form strong physical and emotional attachments. We depend on our early attachments, so if those attachment...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Gemma and Justine both have a history of working in mental health settings in psychiatric research.  A while back, someone referred to Gemma by a psychiatrist arrived with a diagnosis of treatment-resistant depression and all query bipolar disorder. Working with Gemma over time, he understood what was driving his mood...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! This episode is an encore replay of Episode 20, which was a popular episode for our listeners.  We have another podcast in our series on narcissism for you. For today, we will stay with the topic of the narcissistic parent and discuss the types of relationships you might be having with your narcissistic parent and the...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we are talking about passive aggression. Passive aggression is covert aggression. It is a form of hostility people carry inside themselves that they express indirectly to make a point. We tend to use it when we are not being honest and authentic to express our anger, frustration, or resentment in a rou...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are revisiting the abandonment schema in our latest episode. Some of Gemma’s clients are considering returning to the dating world again, so they asked her to talk some more about the abandonment schema and how it relates to dating.  Abandonment is a huge topic! In schema therapy, the abandonment schema is one of t...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are talking about the defectiveness shame schema in this episode. It is one of the core schemas. It is quite common, and it tends to develop early in life.  The defectiveness schema is tricky. It is sometimes so deeply hidden that we may not even know someone has it. It comes with a deep sense of unworthiness and f...

Send Gemma a message Schema Chemistry Webinar This episode is in the realm of dating. It will appeal to women experiencing hopelessness after having implemented changes in the men they are dating, and then men they should avoid start to slip in under their radar.  Initially, you may think the guy is different. But after the first few weeks of dating, the cracks start showing. You may notice that h...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are delighted to have Wendy Behary joining us on the podcast! Wendy is an expert on narcissism. She is very well-known in the world of schema therapy for the work she has done on narcissism. Wendy is the Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of New Jers...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Over the years, Gemma and Justine have had many clients, mostly women, with some insecure attachment styles. Those clients have a pattern of being attracted to and forming relationships with aloof, inconsistent, unreliable, emotionally depriving, or emotionally unavailable people. They sometimes feel the lack and beco...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are talking about schema chemistry in this episode! Have you ever been swept away in the excitement of a new relationship soon after meeting someone? Perhaps you cannot stop thinking about the person and believe they are perfect for you because it feels like you have known them all your life. It might feel amazing...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In schema therapy, the therapist sometimes engages with the client in different ways through limited re-parenting as part of the therapeutic relationship. In this episode, we will be talking about how we can re-parent ourselves. Re-parenting is something almost everyone can do because we all have the necessary emotion...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Subjugation is common in our society, particularly amongst women and people in the helping professions.  Subjugation is relevant within schema therapy. Yet it tends to be grossly under-examined and under-rated as a schema because it is generally considered secondary or conditional to the core or unconditional schemas...