Healing For Love

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We have another podcast in our series on narcissism for you. For this episode we will stay with the topic of the narcissistic parent and discuss the types of relationships you might be having with your narcissistic parent and the kind of dynamics you might find within that relationship. Clinically, we tend to see four...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We are continuing with our theme of narcissism, and in this episode we are focusing on relationships with narcissistic parents. People who were raised by narcissistic parents struggle with guilt. They have trouble expressing what they think and feel about things because they worry about how people will respond to them...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, we’re talking about an issue related to grief and loss. Grief is a multifaceted process, and it can be influenced by many different factors. Suffering the loss of someone we love can be a life-changing experience, and after going through that, it is quite normal to feel like a completely different per...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! As promised, we are continuing with the theme of narcissism. Some of us have no choice but to live with a narcissist or be around one at certain times. That is usually not very easy to do, so, today we will be talking about ways you can manage the narcissist in your life when you cannot escape having to spend time aro...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In the last few years, mainstream psychology has had a lot of focus on self-compassion. About a thousand research papers have been published on the areas of self-compassion, mental health, and the benefits of shifting our internal world and monologue to a more self-compassionate stance, to help us overcome mental heal...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! We’re talking about something very interesting today. We’re starting a series discussion on narcissism, a topic that has come up a lot for us as clinicians over the years. Many of our clients have also nominated narcissism as a topic that they would like us to talk about. In our practices, we see many people whose liv...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Many different reasons cause us to develop abandonment schemas, and two other schemas tend to co-occur alongside an abandonment schema. They are the self-sacrifice schema and the subjugation schema. Those can cause a lot of distress, so you need to become aware of them and the way they could affect you. With both the...

Send Gemma a message An extended version of the Loving Kindness meditation  Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below. Support the show 🎓 FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red...

Send Gemma a message The loving kindness (or metta) meditation –  is a type of Buddhist meditation which focuses on sending love, care and good will to yourself as well as others.  The old name for this meditation is the  metta bhavana.  In this adaptation of the metta bhavana, I focus on the first stage - sending metta (or love) to ourselves. These types of meditations are particularly good for h...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Gemma and Justine discuss how the abandonment schema can prevent someone from ending or leaving an unhealthy romantic relationship.  Being able to walk away from a relationship that is not good for you can be a very difficult and daunting experience. There are some relationships which seem so familiar...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! The third in the series of our discussions on the abandonment schema and its role in romantic relationships. In this episode we discuss the ways that an abandonment schema can play out in an otherwise stable and secure relationship and cause havoc for you and your partner.  What are some of the ways that an unchecked...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In the last few years, mainstream psychology has had a lot of focus on self-compassion. About a thousand research papers have been published on the areas of self-compassion, mental health, and the benefits of shifting our internal world and monologue to a more self-compassionate stance, to help us overcome mental heal...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Justine and Gemma discuss a very common issue they see in their practice.  Many of us have a pattern of being attracted to and staying with romantic partners who are emotionally unavailable.  What exactly is Unavailability anyway? In this episode we focus at depth on this type of relationship dynamic,...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Are you a People Pleaser?  If so this episode is for you. The Self-Sacrifice schema falls into the "other-directed" domain in schema therapy.  With this schema you are inclined to attend to the needs of others over and above your own needs.  Failure to do so often results in you feeling guilty about having l...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode, Justine and Gemma dive deep into what a schema is in the context of Schema Therapy.  They discuss the role of parenting, temperament and life experience in the development of early maladaptive schemas (EMS). Most of the schemas are reviewed and explained with examples to get you thinking.  There is al...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! You are not alone, hang in there.  In this episode Gemma discusses some of the psychological consequences of the pandemic and how to take care of ourselves during this difficult period of time.   With several suburbs in Melbourne Victoria (July 3, 2020) having to go back into Lock-down, anxiety and uncertainty is agai...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode Gemma discusses the importance of having our core emotional needs met adequately in early life.  What are these needs and what can happen if our parents/primary attachment figures do not meet our needs on a regular basis. Gemma discusses some of the psychological consequences and Schemas that can devel...