Heal Your Relationships

Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner? Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately.  We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and th...

Should I stay or should I go? This is something I get asked a lot in our Mastery program. Whether you are in a romantic or platonic relationship, I’ve developed five questions to help you decide whether or not a relationship is working for you.  I wish someone had taught me to ask myself these questions when I was younger!  In this episode, I’ll share with you my insights into the red fl...

Have you felt more comfortable than ever in recent times but still find yourself unhappy? Is your instant gratification laced with a lining of anxiety that pervades your day-to-day? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy explains why the misuse of dopamine has become the biggest culprit for causing our societal dis-ease. This fascinating insight into how we’ve used dopamine to mov...

What do you want to be a lifelong student of? Is it a relationship, a craft, a mission project? What are you truly committed to? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy shares the insights on learning that she gained from reading George Leonard’s book, Mastery. Peppered with her own experience, Kavetha unpacks why taking a lifelong approach to learning will help you to frame purpos...

Have the past few years been tough on your relationship? Have you found yourself in long, relentless arguments with your partner whereby you can no longer think compassionately? Not to worry, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack six of the most common phrases that poison relationships – and explore alternative responses that ultimately cause less hurt. Let us look at what is underneath the...

Boundaries are essential to a good relationship. But when you don’t have enough boundaries, or you have very rigid boundaries, your relationships will be damaged. There are several myths around boundaries that hurt relationships, and in this week’s episode, I’m sharing 5 of them with you and showing you how to see where you are perpetuating them in your own relationships. Learn how deconstructing...

We’re all attached to something or someone. But, how do we tell if this attachment is healthy or on the borderline of being clingy? Join me in this episode of WISEish as I delve deeper into this topic. I will share how secure attachment differs from insecure attachment, and what could happen if insecure attachment is carried on to adulthood. Find out how learning about your attachment style impact...

Learning how to change your core beliefs and identity is the key to unlocking everything that you want in your life. You can become whoever you want, no matter what habits, relationships, or behavioral patterns you developed over time. By shifting your “thermostat” you will find yourself achieving emotional freedom without having to work so hard at it. Enter the Podcast Giveaway… everyone's a winn...

What is the correct way to raise a child? It looks different for everyone, but in today’s episode, I am going to explain how to set your child up for success in the future. Parenting is a controversial topic with many mixed opinions, but one thing we can all agree on, we want to prepare our children for the real world so that they can make it on their own. Join me as I take you through the steps o...

We have all been in difficult situations, what differentiates us is how we deal with them. In today’s episode, I will explain the 3 ways we immaturely deal with feelings, and how to fix this. Typically, as humans, we believe we either have to swallow our emotions or blurt them out, but this is not the answer. Listen as I explain why you should be processing and spending time with your emotions bef...

Bad communication equals bad relationships. Today, we’re learning the importance of communication and my framework for the best communication skills. One of the basic needs of any human being is to feel understood, and when they do, you will know. It’s reassuring to know that you’re not alone in any situation, so help others feel that. Tune in today as I explain the 4 C’s of communication, how to...

By the time we turn 30, we have all experienced some trauma in our life. The question is, have you healed from that trauma? In today’s episode, I will explain how trauma has affected my life and how it affects yours too. Although it appears you have worked on your trauma from the outside, you need to look at yourself from the inside and understand that is where the healing process begins. Join me...

Stress is normal! And, it’s not always bad. Welcome to another episode of WISEish, today we’re talking about what causes stress and how to deal with it. As humans, we don’t encounter life or death situations daily, meaning our chronic stress is low grade and under the surface. Tune in to learn why low-grade stressors lead to chronic stress and how to reduce it. Mastery is open for enrollment! Mast...

Do you tend to argue about the same stuff over and over again? I know how frustrating that is, because I struggled with it too. And when those topics come up, it often leads to circular arguments and hurt feelings. In today’s episode, I will show you a NEW way to approach these conversations. This is an excerpt from a talk I gave recently to a group of several thousand women physicians. If you app...

Welcome to Episode 12! What do people-pleasing, social anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, rumination, procrastination, and fear all have in common? They stem from lack of confidence in yourself. Confidence is an essential skill to master if we want to live a meaningful life and do things that matter. In today’s episode, I share the 4 types of confidence, and how to develop each...

Welcome to Episode 11! Huge announcement - Mastery program is now open! Mastery is our monthly membership program, and it’s THE best place on the planet to help you accomplish 3 things: 1. Master your emotions, 2. Heal your relationships, and 3. Pass on a legacy you are proud of. In today’s episode, I will give you a sneak peek into all the tools inside Mastery, plus how we surround our students w...

Welcome to Episode 10! WISE-ish is growing up! We are so grateful for your support on this journey. Today, we look at the top 5 lessons from Viktor Frankl, who was an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, philosopher, writer, and Holocaust survivor. His writings and the model of therapy he created, called Logotherapy, have deeply influenced my life. I am certain that if you take the time to ponder o...

The things (people, memories or events) that trigger you are merely messengers. And they come bearing a gift. The gift is the potential to heal past wounds. In today’s podcast, I share the 3 ways we block healing when we are triggered, and step-by-step process to using triggers as the gifts they are intended to be. This is one you don’t want to miss. FREE tools: Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cur...

What do we do when people hurt our feelings? Or when things don’t go as planned? Or when we try hard and still fail? Or when we had trauma in our past and those memories and thoughts keep coming up in our current lives? In short, how do we not suffer so much? THAT is the topic of today’s episode. I will show you the ONE natural law that if we ignore or violate, will cause suffering for you and eve...

Every day, we are faced with hundreds of decisions. Starting from what to do when the alarm goes off, to how much sugar to add to our morning coffee, the list is endless. Most of the time, what we decide doesn’t matter all that much because the consequences aren't life changing. But what if you are deciding whether to move, or take that job, or leave that relationship, or have that child, some dec...

Have you heard of the psychological hack called “Inversion Thinking”? It’s one of the best ways to make sure you get the result that you want, in any area of your life. In today’s episode, we will learn how to use inversion thinking to live the most joyful, wise and fulfilled life you can… …by studying the 6 ways you can make your life more miserable! That’s right. Once you know these 6 steps to a...

Welcome to step 5 in getting unstuck! Today, we bring it all together my friend. We’re gonna pick an issue you feel stuck in, and I will show you how to use all 5 tools together so you can “Get Unstuck” for good. Ready for emotional freedom? Come on in! Ready to take it to the next step and APPLY this to your own life? Click here to download a FREE PDF that will walk you through the 5 steps to get...

Welcome to step 4 in getting unstuck! So, in step 3 you learned how to drive a school bus. Good for you! But what if the kids in the bus are loud, angry, crying or demanding? This tool will instantly give you a way to manage them safely, calmly and compassionately. Ready? Let’s GO! Ready to take it to the next step and APPLY this to your own life? Click here to download a FREE PDF that will walk y...

Welcome to step 3 in getting unstuck! When I teach our clients step 1 and 2, the next question they often ask, “So how do I stay connected with who I really am?” If you are thinking that too, this episode is for you. Let me introduce you to the school bus between your ears. Confused? Bear with me. It will make complete sense when you listen to this episode. And it will become your favorite mindset...

Welcome to step 2 in getting unstuck! Today, we will do a little experiment together that will show you in real time that you are not your thoughts and feelings. It will be a powerful experience, because once you have seen that with your own direct experience, you cannot un-see it. So if we know we are not our thoughts and feelings, who are we? The answer to this question will likely surprise and...