Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals the internal compass all codependents must develop to break out of the painful cycles of incompatible relationships, purpose, and work in life. Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work of healing it, this episode will assist you in understanding what you've been using as your compass and...

[How Believing In Scarcity Keeps You Codependent] In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals how scarcity beliefs keep you stuck in better-than-nothing relationships, perpetuating cycles of pain, loss, and harm, and how to begin to nurture yourself into a practical, realistic sense of abundance. Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work...

Marshall discusses the importance of persistence, why it is necessary, and how having the proper foundation of emotional regulation, safety, self-trust, self-worth, and community is essential to this. Get the Breakthrough Bundle here: https://bb.freetheself.com Learn more about Marshall's work here: https://www.healyourcodependency.com

Why You Chase Love... In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, uncovers the core reason you chase love, tolerate better-than-nothing relationships, and the core self-concept that needs to be shifted for this pattern to stop and your new pattern of loving, available relationships to start. Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work of healing i...

Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It) In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals the core reason you struggle to keep and maintain your boundaries, and what you need to practice to make boundaries feel safer, easier, and empowering for you. Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work of healing it, this episode...

How To Heal Insecurity Correctly **** In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the true cause of insecurity, anxiety, and feeling unworthy and unlovable and how to begin feeling actually worthy, secure, and confident within yourself.  Whether you're facing anxiety, burn-out, frustration, emotional emptiness, feeling lost to yourself, this e...

It Isn't About Healing Codependency In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, invites you to explore what healing codependency really is about - your life beyond survival.  He shares what he sees is possible for you and how he helps you achieve this, starting with FOUNDATION.  We heal together.  We thrive together. *** Take my free "Are You Codependent?...

Take Back The Authority Over Your Worth In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, shares how essential it is to restore your worth by taking authority over it. Your self-authority is *why* you get to define who you are, establish your worth without seeking permission, and become the person you choose to be.  It is what replaces codependency. Use this episode&apos...

What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency? In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, reveals how attachment orientations, like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment, are part of the codependent strategy of survival and how it is necessary to build capacity in the nervous system so your attachment system becomes nimble and r...

Why You Fixate On Other People's Approval In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals a hidden necessity to healing your codependency and experiencing sustainable, fulfilling freedom and prosperity beyond it.  Without grasping and embodying this quality, you will continue to seek permission from others to be, do, and have what you desire in yo...

How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself **** In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the habit that leads us to emotional burn-out, emptiness, and resentment, and teaches you the first essential skill to take back your power, your freedom, and well-being from codependency. Whether you're facing anxiety, burn-out, frustration, emotional emptin...

Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't! Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, and structure. There are powerful, dangerous misconceptions about codependency that are sabotaging your healing and preventing you from succeeding and healing as fast as you deserve to have.  Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct...

How To Stop People-pleasing: Taking Back Your Worth One of the key entanglements that drives the people-pleasing impulse has to do with your worth.  We are taught a transactional model of worth, meaning we earn it by doing xyz.  In people-pleasing, what our worth is dependent on is approval and the avoidance of rejection. This creates massive anxiety, hypervigilance, and insecurity in our sense of...

 How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important? People-pleasing drives us to over-prioritize and emphasize people's negative feelings towards us and towards other things. This can motivate us to try to fix their feelings, which blinds us to important realities about what is happening, including: 1) Incompatibilities between you and that person 2) Boundary violations...

Are You Blended Up In Them? Codependency and people-pleasing require a high level of vigilance and emotional enmeshment with others in order to feel some sense of safety. This happens because the nervous system and attachment system discovered that regulating others feels safer than living with the chaos created by the toxic relationship's uncertainty.  It found that if it can attune and soot...

The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing... I have done a lot of DIY healing. Some of it was all I had available to me due to finances. Much of it was due to a deep wound in my identity that said, "be needless. do it yourself" and "when they know you this way, they'll abandon you." Being raised to regulate other people's feelings with the promise that they'll ta...

Changing our minds is an essential part of being our personal, sovereign authority. And I have changed my mind and made a change. FOUNDATION is rescheduled for later this Spring so I can follow what the energy I feel is directing: People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And Peace This 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying you...

What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing? We have motivators that drive what we do. The motivators that drive codependency are very, very different from those that drive our well-being. In this episode, I discuss these two types of purpose and how to detect and shift them so you're coming from alignment with your power rather than the reactive nature of codependency, resulting in more outcomes yo...

2025 brings you and I into a pivot in the work.  I will be focusing on leading you to the results that matter to you.  This all starts with understanding IDENTITY. And through a 4-step process, you get the results you seek faster and easier than you've thought was possible. I'm calling it, "ACCELERATE".  My "Leap The Gap" Training happening December 18th will show you...

When you've gone through trauma, the brain tends to amplify it's negative bias, creating negative anticipation towards uncertain things. We find ourselves planning for the worst, as it gives us a sense of power and comfort.  It makes sense.  The negative thing has happened to us in the past and we want to be prepared. This must be balanced with positive anticipation, especially when faci...

 It will be essential, at some point, to admit to and embrace the authority and power you rightly, naturally possess to direct and govern your life. You cannot exit codependency without this vital step, as it will keep you tethered to the power of other people's approval, rejection, disappointment, and agreement. The anxiety of making your own choice, following your own path, even trusting yo...

How a therapist, coach, mentor, support community, or even yourself view codependency and codependents directly influences the outcomes, results, and transformation you experience (or don't) in that relationship. This is why it is crucial you're aware of how prospective mentors, therapists, coaches, and so forth view and understand you and the topic you're working with.   Today, I s...

The Importance of Gains: What is a gain?  It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make.   An example:  I gained my peace of mind by not going back to the dysfunctional person. Why does this matter?  Gains are the benefits we receive with a positive, healthy change.  If we let ourselves recognize and magnify the gain, it helps our body adapt and adjust qui...

Pain vs Your Story Transformation of a person's pain-filled life to a joy-filled life is the journey of healing and becoming who you truly be.   It has three Phases:  Survival, Healing, and Creation   And in each of these, there is a work we do around identity and one's pain. In the Survival Phase, the pain and the identity are the same.  "I am angry!"  "I am shameful!&quo...

Burden of Cause What is the "burden of cause"?   It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they treated you.   When we are enmeshed this way, we will internalize people's behaviors as a reflection of some internal flaw or problem that we then must change.  This leads us to believe that the other person will change, too, creating a potent fa...