Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

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In this episode, Andrea is a guest on the "Love Starts Here" podcast with life coach Melissa Snow. This episode covers the tough topics of how to trust again and whether or not it is a wise decision to do so, and the importance of building up trust in yourself first before deciding to trust someone else. We also discuss Andrea's #1 tip for how to decide to stay or leave so you can make that decisi...

In this episode, Andrea is interviewed by Life Coach Mikki Gardner about how to put emotion aside and show up as the kind of parent you want to be after infidelity. This will be useful wherever you are on your journey. When emotions are running high, it can be very difficult to think clearly, especially when it comes to parenting our children. You want what is best for them, but we also may be in...

A few themes of this podcast are that we always have choices even when we feel we don't, that the hardships we experience can catapult us towards our greatest growth, and that we can create the future we want. In this episode, Andrea gets personal with her recent experience of welcoming a new baby girl into the world and how it has enforced in her mind that things are always working in our favor....

Does your relationship ever feel so tangled up with your spouse that you don't know what thoughts and feelings are his and which are yours? In this episode, I interview guest therapist and Master coach Aimeé Gianni about what untangling is, how to spot it, and how to untangle. Most of us were raised to believe that we are responsible for the feelings of others. "Did you hurt their feelings?" is a...

Have you wondered why your spouse strayed and if your marriage can ever be good again? You don't want to miss this episode. Show guest Elisa Fucci shares, with transparency and honesty, her experience with infidelity and how her marriage is now better than it ever was before. She shares why she strayed and how she had to go through the difficult work of understanding herself and why she was prone...

What kind of home did you grow up in? Were you allowed to speak your mind, be your own person and choose how you wanted to spend your time? How you related to your family as a child largely affects what kind of adult relationships you have. In this episode, I'll be talking about a concept called differentiation which is all about our ability to keep hold of our own thoughts and feelings around tho...

Clear, open communication can be a hard skill to learn for anyone, but can be especially difficult for someone who has felt betrayed by their spouse. Yet it is a vital skill to learn, regardless of if you choose to stay married or not. In this episode, we'll go into detail about why it can feel so unsafe to communicate with your partner, and how to help yourself feel safer. We'll also discuss ways...

How do we know if our spouse is taking responsibility for their infidelity? How do we know if we are really moving forward or just doing the same things we have always done? How long do we wait for something to happen before we make something happen ourselves? These are questions I hear a lot, and ones that are important to answer. Part of re-building trust after infidelity is knowing that our par...

What if making mistakes is not a problem? What if the real problem is what we make those mistakes mean, or what others make them mean that we then internalize? In this episode, I'll uncover a few of the reasons we are so afraid to make mistakes, and how we can build our own tolerance and resilience to the things we judge ourselves for. When we understand the difference between using mistakes as we...

In this episode, I'll uncover why it feels safer to avoid wanting, and teach you what avoiding this question is costing you. You'll come away with some strategies to use to tap into your own desires and wants, along with a strong reason "why" for pursuing the answer to that question. Please click the like button above and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! Mor...

Although many of my clients choose to stay with their spouses after infidelity, many decide to leave their marriages. Over time, some of them decide they want to start dating again. There is much fear, trepidation, and often self-doubt that can surface. In this episode, I am interviewed by fellow coach and dating after divorce expert, Sade Curry. I share my personal story of dating my current husb...

When life as we know it is turned upside down, it becomes very easy to believe we are alone, powerless, and a victim to what has been handed us. While we have been the victim of the deception of another, we tend to forget that in all things, no matter what, we still have choices. In this episode I will share through powerful analogies how we can use our own strength and wisdom to harness the power...

Is it love or attachment? Many of my clients want to stay in their relationships because they can't imagine life without the other. Or their spouse says they want to stay married but my clients don't feel safe or loved by their spouse. This can lead to a lot of confusion for everyone involved. If you wonder if you are truly in love with your spouse or just the idea of him, this episode is for you....

As parents, we naturally want to protect our children from hurt and pain. We want them to be happy and thriving, right? So when we are trying to make decisions like if we should stay married or not, or feel the pain of sending them to another parent's home, or deciding how much information to share with them, it can feel very uncomfortable. In this episode, I will shed some light on new ways to th...

Do you know how to question your own brain? Do you challenge your own thoughts? Some of us are pros at challenging others' beliefs but struggle to challenge our own. Learning to ask your own brain good questions is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. Rather than taking your thoughts at face value, a good question encourages digging deeper. This is where the truth comes out about...

Grief. It's an emotion we all experience as part of life. If we form attachments to anything, we risk feeling grief if we lose the thing we are attached to. Regardless if you choose to stay married or not following infidelity, grief is something that has to be processed to be able to move forward with life. In this episode, you'll learn various stages you may be in with grief, what to look out for...

Are you good at showing compassion to others? How do you feel when someone else is suffering? For many of us, compassion for others comes naturally. But when it comes to self-compassion, it can be much harder. Why is this? In this episode you'll gain an understanding about why self-compassion can feel scary and threatening. When we really understand something, it becomes easier to see our own beha...

Most of us have been taught that we should decide what we want and need out of relationships, communicate those things to our partners, and expect them to come through for us. Unfortunately, this sets us up for a whole lot of disappointment. In this episode, I'll be going over the difference between wants and needs, and how to get those met. Instead of waiting for someone to take care of us, you'l...

Something I often hear from clients is that they just want closure. They want to hear the apology. Know why it happened. Be free from all of it so they can move forward. Sounds good, right? We all want certainty, and we believe it would feel good to wrap up this messy, difficult time in our lives with a bow and put it behind us forever, whether we stay married or not. The problem with this is we o...

Can you think of a decision you are putting off? Most of us aren't very good at making decisions. We get in our own way by second-guessing ourselves, doubting our ability to decide, and worry about getting it wrong. In this episode we'll be diving in to why we drag out decision making, and look at how much it is costing you to put it off. There are many seemingly good reasons we put decisions off,...

We all like to know how things will turn out. Our brains crave certainty, and because of this we often believe that if we can control things, we can dictate how they will turn out. But there is a better way, especially when it comes to trying to control other people. We can influence others by how we show up around them, and it is far more powerful (and likely to get us the results we actually wan...

This week I am joined by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss the intricacies of infidelity. There are many misconceptions surrounding infidelity, and those misconceptions can keep you stuck. In this episode, we take a closer look at how infidelity can be the catalyst for growth in both parties, why people engage in infidelity, and how to recover from it. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relati...

In this episode, I share my thoughts on when it may be time to consider ending a marriage. Although in truth we can leave a marriage whenever we want, there are a few specific questions to evaluate within yourself and your spouse that will ultimately serve you in the future after the decision is made. While divorce can be a very hard thing to consider, let alone go through with, if one leaves for...

Do you know who you are? When is the last time you answered that question? Most of us go through life thinking that who we are is what others define us to be. Knowing ourselves is the most important work we will ever do. The more we learn who we are, both strengths and weaknesses, the more we are able to accept all of us and challenge ourselves to grow. This in turn allows us to show up in relatio...