Having It A.L.L.

What does "self love" really mean? Self love conversations are ubiquitous these days. Everyone's talking about. But beyond "positive self affirmations" and "choosing healthy foods" do we really know what self love means? Do we understand what the essence of self love is and how certain activities that we do, many times without thinking, are undermining all of the surface level self love work we pu...

No matter what your thoughts are on fasting, one thing that's undeniable is that you currently have some sort of relationship with food, with eating and with your emotions, and they are doing a dance together that's either raising your health or lowering it! For me, I love fasting as a tool for healing (physically as well as emotionally, mentally and spiritually). I've been turning to fasting on a...

Do you consider yourself a Perfectionist? Are you constantly feeling like you're not doing or being enough? Do you judge yourself harshly because you're failing to live up to your standards or expectations? So many of us suffer from the need to be "perfect". Logically you understand that perfection is not possible, yet you still hold this impossible standard for yourself in life (perhaps as a pare...

Where are you feeling stuck in life? We all have an "Epic Challenge" - an area in our lives where we're feeling stuck, where we're not enjoying the experience and are having a hard time changing things.  In today's episode I'm sharing with you my most recent Epic Challenge which was creating a lot of stress and frustration in my life. I'm peeling back the layers on what I go through to face my cha...

In what ways do you manipulate in relationships? I asked the question in that way because manipulation is something we can all easily do in relationships. It's not always overt and easy to spot. Sometimes it's very subtle and may not even be something you're consciously aware of. Yet, no matter the type of manipulation, it's evidence of deeply unhealthy feelings and beliefs about ourselves. In tod...

Where are you experiencing a lot of resistance in your life? Chances are, the thing you're resisting most is actually the thing that contains that answer to you getting unstuck and ultimately having what you want in life. Today I'm talking about resistance: why we resist, what it looks like, what it does to us, and how to learn to level up our maturity so that we can ultimately get what we want in...

How well are you caring for your fitness? We experience life through our bodies. Our health and fitness reveals the relationship that we have with life. So what is your fitness telling you about how you deal with life? No matter where you are in your fitness, there's room for improvement so that you can create the results and the EXPERIENCE that you truly desire. This is the first episode in April...

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and went from there.  But as I began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life (like becoming a parent and starting a new business), and began to feel...

What regrets do you have in life?  In today's episode I'm sharing a moving and insightful essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying i...

Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence? Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it.  This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him...

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into som...

What thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you think about your MONEY? Money is one of those taboo topics in society -- it's not cool to ask another person about their money, many people feel uncomfortable talking about their own money with even their spouse or best friend, and yet money is something that touches every single one of us. We either feel abundant about money, or scarce...

Need some relief from the stress of the pandemic? It's been a very stressful year with no end in sight, and that's left many people feeling like they're going to crack. Let me help you deal with the stress, fear, anxiety and weight of the current situation, by offering you some words of comfort and motivation. We've all been in this pandemic together, yet not everyone has dealt with it the same wa...

What makes a relationship work? "Common interests" is a typical answer, and for good reason. It makes sense that we need to have things in common with our partners if we want relationship success. But are there certain common interests that rise above others? And are there some common interests that are essential for relationship success? In today's episode I invite my Queen, Sarah Bivens, back on...

How do you "connect with yourself" and why is it important? I received an email from a listener that asked that very question. This is such an important conversation to have because being able to have and feel a deep, intimate connection with yourself is part of having it all. It's the first step in creating deep, meaningful relationships with others. And it's part of what I believe our search for...

How do you handle the stressors of everyday life? Each one of us encounters stress in life, it's part of the agreement. But not everyone handles it in the same way. The concept of "getting grounded" is something you've probably heard of and perhaps even have a practice in. For me, getting grounded is all about returning to your center when life knocks you off course. As I've taken on more and more...

Need a some motivating words to help you take a leap of faith? Let me give you some encouragement and remind you of what you've forgotten about yourself, as you're feeling scared to take the next step. I've been there before, I know what it's like to be in your shoes right now. And I have a few words for you. This is part of a new series of Pep Talks that I'll be delivering to you monthly to help...

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like. In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have b...

Are you ready to show up with purpose, integrity and intention over the next 12 months? It's time for the annual Having It A.L.L. tradition of creating your Word For The Year! This simple yet effective tool acts like a North Star, helping to guide your intentions, actions and thoughts as you navigate yourself towards an awesome year. We've been doing Word For The Year since the early days of the p...

Are you ready to have it all this year? Seriously, are you ready to start believing in your greatness and proactively shaping the life you desire for yourself? Well if so, I'm here as your coach, guide, and supporter this year (and beyond). We have a whole new slate of amazing content coming at you in 2021, all designed to help you ACTIVATE the Having It A.L.L. mindset in your life. In today's epi...

Do you ever get down on yourself when someone else's self help advice just doesn't work for you? I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reason...

Have you heard of the concept of a "sponsoring thought"? Whether or not you're aware of it, sponsoring thoughts are driving the way in which your life is playing out. In today's episode I'm breaking down the concept of a sponsoring thought, showing you the essence of what all of life's choices really boil down to, and helping you get down to the weeds of what might be keeping from your abundant lo...

Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough! For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question th...

Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics? 2020 has been a year where a lot of things have been upended, including self-care habits. If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I hav...

How do you process the periods in life of prolonged sadness or overwhelm? We've all experienced sadness and periods where we felt like life was overwhelming. This year alone has been a major source of stressful circumstances that have brought on the sadness and overwhelm BIG TIME! But do you have to simply suffer through these periods, or can you learn methods of coping and dealing with your feeli...