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Ok, I know we said that our at least once weekly encouragement episodes were going to go from November through January, but I decided on a bonus! To celebrate the fact that we FINALLY made it out of January, my word!! And also to welcome you to Black History Month :) So we’ll be intentionally featuring some great Black thinkers to walk us along this way. Take a respite, maybe grab something warm t...

Hello those of you who have been doing the work! The emotional work, the mental work, the spiritual work, and in some cases even the physical work that it takes to help return to equilibrium once your nervous system has been disrupted? I say once (not if) because we should be getting to a place now where it’s expected that it will happen. It will happen. And that fact alone may cause you some dysr...

What’s your money type? How do spend, save, plan, invest? Where does the money, that you personally have access to, go? Does anything need to change? Let’s start to answer some of these questions as we continue to prepare and adapt. Thanks for spending some of your time here; I deeply appreciate it, C

A couple more specific scenarios for our conflict subset. We’re starting out with group dynamics and then moving into major disagreements. It’s a lot; I know it’s a lot. Please keep trying though. If it’s worth it to you to have this person in your life then let it be worth it to keep trying to resolve what ails you both. Keep in community as best you can! I’m glad you’re here, C

We’re starting a new series today! A mini series, with a finite end ;) I’ve been thinking about how we can start to move forward, and this is part of what I am coming up with. Continuing to adapt, if you will. Thrilled that you’re here, C

Welcome to Week Two! I’m not really walking around constantly thinking of it like that, but I know the temptation to do so is there and I want to acknowledge that. How are you? What are you feeling? Do you know how you’d like to proceed? It’s okay if you’re not sure how to answer. Come join in anyway. So glad you’re here, C

We haven’t done multiple Friendship series episodes since the week of the election! It felt right this week. I hope you’ve been finding healthy ways to make it through each day. Let me add one for you: COMMUNITY. It is crucial, perhaps now more than ever. Find your people! They’re out there, C

We’re still in the Conflict subset, so if that feels like too much for you this week then I won’t be offended if you prioritize your peace. But if you need some tools to help when dealing with those you consider friends whose harshness, judgment, interests, or opinions have been causing conflict between you, come on in. It’s worth the fight, C

Let’s do a nervous system check. No seriously, take a moment. We’re still here! C

Are you alright? Come take a respite here, again, in this space. It will be worth it. You can be strong and vulnerable at the same time, C

We’re not talking about it in the way that you’d think ;) I’m glad you’re here, C

Don’t let the headaches keep you down! My head got in the way of show planning, but there is one good thing that I wanted to share So glad you’re here. Take care, C

Do you have to have been born naturally optimistic (as I often assume I was) to have access to the brighter side of life? NO! Isn’t that great news?! You can restructure the scaffolding that your mind rests on. You can. Wanna give it a try? C

We’re continuing this Conflict subset (that we started last week in case you missed it) by talking about what you can do if it feels like the venom of competitiveness has entered the communication aspects of your friendship This one is mind boggling to me! It might not always be rooted in malice or intentional oneupsmanship though- Let’s get into it; I’m glad you’re here, C

It’s funny how some things get classified as “bad habits” and other things don’t. Have you ever thought about that process? Who gets to decide what is bad for you? Or best for you? As it turns out, in a lot of cases, you are the decider of things! We’re having a relaxed chat about average ppl who discovered that they have life habits that are misunderstood as “bad” by some, but that have ended up...

Continuing forward with thoughts that will hopefully lift you up. All will be well, C

Just between the weather and climate related events going on for both coasts of the US and the fact that a significant swath of people returned to their standard routines, this past week has been more stressful than perhaps we anticipated What can you do to mitigate the effects of the stress on how your body works? Let’s talk reducing cortisol, inflammation, anxiety, etc. Take care of yourself and...

CONFLICT. We’re starting a subset of this series that is crucial to maintaining healthy interpersonal interactions over time: Managing Conflict. I know that it feels easier to avoid, ignore, to sweep things under the carpet. But it’s not. Things have to be handled, and you have to know how to handle them in a way that can lead to reconciliation and a deepening of intimacy, if at all possible. And...

Ooh look a treat: A second encouragement episode for you during this first week of the calendar year because I’ve been noticing some struggle and resistance and challenge as people I know and interact with transition back into their routines. No judgment; it’s okay to feel how you feel! And I’m bring to that some extra support and hoping that it helps. Love that you’re here, thank you, C - (First...

It doesn’t have to coincide with this calendar year, but what goals are you trying to accomplish? Do you have any? What do you want? What do you want your life to look like in the future? How are you going to get there? Let’s think through these things and then start moving forward :) So glad you’re here! C

Welcome to the first full week of 2025! Ready to hit the ground walking? That’ll make more sense when you listen in, but take a moment out of this day to plan for more good things in your life. It will hopefully be encouraging ;) Happy New Year! C

This first Friday of the year is also the first Friday in months that we haven’t had an albums episode to go through. How am I recovering from it in a more specifically musical sense? We’ll get to that in the future, but while we work our way there, let’s talk a little about what to do when something good ends. Plus a production note for some changes coming here to the live portion of the show. Si...

Ppl steal things on planes!! I had thought about it a little but not super deeply. Not trying to give you anxiety but let’s chat a little about the prevalence and what you can do to mitigate. Happy second day of 2025! C

Happy 2025!! You may not feel like it, but all the more reason to try- Let’s talk about hope. Happy New Year, thanks for hanging out and looking ahead, C =) PS: It’s a spile!

Let’s finish (for now) with the online development (not necessarily maintenance) of adult friendship. What if you want to meet your new screen-based friend IRL? And what are some of the benefits of meeting ppl online anyway? (In case you’re still not convinced.) Plus another plug for the concept of community in times like these. So long 2024, C :)