Handing the Shame Back

Manipulation is something well known to us as survivors of child sexual abuse. It begins in silence and secrecy and unknowingly, and unwillingly we become party to the cover up. The manipulation has worked! We are rendered silent and unable to speak. Listen to how we can emerge from this with a little more insight so recovery and healing become a possibility.  With love and light fellow survivors....

On Handing the shame back this week: Matiu Taitoko Survivor, shares his story. While remaining humble, he is also inspirational. My blog on Manipulation, which as survivors we can most definitely relate to -  and finally a 4 minute clip on the ripple out effects of Child Sexual Abuse (only some of them).... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors...

For the full interview go to BeeYou TV and sign into Sean Stone's channel Sean Stone  interviews me - and here is a snapshot of that. We discuss forgiving your abuser, (or not) . Shame is mentioned, and being DARVOED (have a listen to find out what this means) We also look at the silence around all child sexual abuse... We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/...

Meet Jess Tyson Fellow Survivor, Founder and Director of Brave Charitable Trust. She was Miss World NZ in 2018. Journalist for current affairs Whakaata Māori.  She believes that survivors should be believed and that they are never alone! Brave Instagram: @brave_nz IG: @jessicatyson08 Brave Facebook page: BraveNZ or https://m.facebook.com/BraveNZ/ FB public page: JessTyson8 or  www.facebook.com/Jes...

This blog offers some ideas on finding and keeping clarity in your life. For survivors of child sexual abuse, it can often be missing in action. Due to the trauma we have suffered, it is nowhere to be seen.  This blog offers some ideas on how to address this. Clarity is available to us as survivors, we just need to believe it is possible and discover how. We are on all social media platforms: Face...

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube this week: My blog on Clarity and how it is sometimes lost to us as survivors. Don't miss the great interview with survivor Jess Tyson Miss World, NZ, and finally a short snippet of the interview with Sean Stone. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social medi...

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is again on Dissociation. Have a listen as what you hear will help you understand a little more, about the timing of your survivor sharing their story. It will help you understand your loved one, even more.   #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go...

This details how Handing the Shame Back Began, with Founder Gloria Masters finding the path that led to the YouTube Channel and eventually the Foundation being established. It all began with a comment, voices were heard, a book was written and finally ended with the Charity being created. Have a look, it may just 'speak' to you. ok. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivors...

Matt is a Survivor of sexual abuse. He was a gang member until the age of 30. He has turned his life around to help other male survivors in NZ. He does Peer Support work for Male Survivors in Canterbury NZ. He believes that if survivors release their stories through talking to others, it is like 'gutting a fish' and clears it all out.  He is humble, generous and a survivor who will alway...

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on Toxic People, and why they are well known to survivors. Friday morning (NZt) release is on how Handingtheshameback came about, and a wonderful interview with survivor Matt Ashton.  #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platf...

This blog offers some support and resource on identifying the characteristics toxic people display For survivors of child sexual abuse, these people are more common in our lives than for others. This blog offers some ideas on how to address the challenging issue of loving them even tho they are so toxic. This is a helpful reminder for those who have suffered, that toxic people are responsible for...

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Statistics. Have a listen as what you hear will help support your loved one, and even encourage a conversation around this. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: ht...

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on courage, and why finding it (for survivors) can be a challenge. The big news is on Thursday morning (NZ Time)  you will be introduced to the fabulous board of Handingtheshameback.org   #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media p...

Courage is as unique to us as our thumbprints. Courage is also linked closely to vulnerability, particularly for survivors of child sexual abuse. Due to that, we were conditioned to silence, so to suddenly find our voices and speak out confidently - is unlikely. Have a listen, and see if this short look at Courage, speaks to you. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook...

Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on dissociation. This helped protect your survivor, but what if its not so helpful anymore? Have a listen to this short clip, and thank you for your support. For a look at our brand new foundation, Go to: Handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivor #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all so...

This blog offers some ideas to consider around forgiving others. One powerful thought behind forgiveness, is that the only person that can free us from this dilemma is ourselves!. Self love growing through forgiveness is also discussed, and finally, if we hold on to not forgiving (and justifiably so), who are we really hurting? We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.c...

Our panel discussion this month focuses on the dreadful numbers of young people who have taken their own lives, and the staggering statistics that exist around this. WE also look at ways we can help our male survivors to feel more supported to speak out. Contact Details Todd's Details: mobile 0274247691 or email toddportsmouth@outlook.com  Ken's Details: mobile:  0273533854 or email kenc...

Chantelle and I discuss the topic of forgiving your abuser and how this huge decision is personal and unique to the survivor and therefore remain their choice. Always. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok....

On Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: A look at forgiveness, a very complex issue and one not to be hurried. A panel discussion on effective ways to support both male and female survivors and a Media spotlight interview with In5D Greg Prescott and Ali Janes. #csa #survivors #believed #thanku We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack...

Shame is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse, I consider it to be the most significant symptom we carry.  Have a listen as to how you can begin to manage it in your life. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https:...

Stephan and I discuss topics ranging from the Keeping  ourselves safe  programme run by NZ Police to homeless people and why that might be. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback Linked...

Feeling different is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA) What happened to us felt wrong, thereby ensuring we stood apart from others. In that reality, how on earth could we feel normal, or the same as. Have a listen, some of the blog has some sound reasoning behind it. Love to all of you Gloria We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShame...

Sometimes as Survivors we 'apologise' too much. Why do we do that? Have a listen as to how you can support your loved survivor into changing this. #csa #survivor We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tik...

Welcome to Jane Epstein: She is a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse, and shares some real insights with us about this. Did you know that over 40% of child sexual abuse is committed by juveniles? Here are her details: Website: www.complicatedcourage.com TEDxTALK: "Giving Voice to Sibling Sexual Abuse." INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jane_compli... FACEBOOK:  https://www.facebook.com/...

Tips for Supporting Survivors is on forgiveness this week. Is forgiveness something Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) survivors should do? Are we better people if we do forgive? Or worse if we dont? #csa #survivors #standbeside #icu #urbelieved We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ YouTube: http...