Handing the Shame Back

This is actually dedicated to the person supporting the survivor. Please watch carefully and hopefully you will gain a few tips in there. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria  please email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information on what the foundation provide...

Sarah interviews me and we cover many topics: One We discuss is the power of Truth, and how it will always stand the test of time.  We also look at the impact the false self had on my childhood, adolescence and then as an adult. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334...

Libby and Kate are sisters who did  a walk of awareness throughout NZ to share information about REOSA (Ripple effects of sexual abuse). What they found on the way, the lives they touched and the work they wish to continue is all revealed, so for all this and more: please watch this interview! Reach out to REOSA on their website: https://www.reosa.co.nz/ and they are also active and able to be rea...

Grace: Seen as limitless and in plentiful supply, it is also defined as the powerful, benevolent, unwavering energy of the universe that guides us towards the best version of ourselves. Have a listen as to how this shows up in your life. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.  If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email ad...

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This Xmas panel discussion looks at ways we, as survivors get through this time of year.  We each have our own view on how it manifested and can manifest for us, and we each agree there is always hope.  To reach out to Todd 027 424 7691 and Ken 027 353 3854, and for Susan and I email us both at: contactus@handingtheshameback.org HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@s...

Untapped potential in survivors is huge. We don't often talk about it, but we all feel it and  sometimes What if questions can surface. How do you cope with this?? Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #...

One of the things we struggle with as survivors is self love. It is difficult for us to feel it, when so much of what we experienced made us hate ourselves. Some of what is shared here, may just offer some hope and light at this time of year. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.  If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, ema...

Chantelle and I discuss the roles we needed to adopt as children experiencing sexual abuse.  We had to take on these roles to survive what we went through. As children, we were simply feeling different, isolated and essentially in survivor mode,.  A conversation worth listening to and watching. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckla...

Sam is a survivor, a father of 6 and is on a hikoi (walk of awareness) throughout NZ to spread awareness about male sexual abuse. What helped him to heal was taking action, doing something was better than nothing, and his wife, gently at first and then more insistently pointing out that he needed to sort out the unresolved trauma he was suffering from, and impacting the family with. Watch this man...

Supporting your survivor through validation is key. Not using words like, you are amazing is also vital when they are in a dysregulated or trauma state. Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport...

Sometimes its hard for us to feel positive when all around us feels doom and gloom. Believe it or not, there are some ways to navigate this so you are still authentic but able to find something that makes you smile.  Go to htsbf.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.  If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsex...

Mark Attwood brings out the power of the big Angels supporting me. This was  Quite an emotional and moving interview, one that surprised even me. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child...

Nae is a woman who has turned her trauma into healing. she runs Whatumanuwa a company which provides Solace and Serenity workshops using mindfulness, earth healing, sound healing and cacao. She is a clinical nurse educator. She has turned I didn't matter into I matter. She also feels that Connection to papatūānuku and ranginui and Surrendering to something bigger than self has really  helped...

This week my blog focus is on surviving the  Xmas and holiday season. We can sometimes feel off balance as Survivors, but this specific time of year can be really triggering and difficult. This short clips gives you some ideas on what to do if things start to feel challenging.  Take care of who you are at this time, and If you are interested in any coaching from me, please email admin@gloriamaster...

Welcome to Activist, Survivor and Speaker Isami Daehn, she is a subject matter expert in anti human trafficking and child safety. Her mission is to be the voice for both the exploited and those abused in religious settings. She would also like to educate leadership on anti human trafficking and child safety globally. Isami was abused between the age of 9 and 14 by a piano teacher who was welcomed...

Ever really think about that voice inside your head, the one telling you what to do?  Berating you and usually making you feel less than? Welcome to your inner critic! We all have one, and as survivors sometimes its just too much. How can you turn that voice off? How can you create an inner champion instead? Have a listen and see if there are some things you can begin to do. If you would like to h...

Survivors and the Inner Critic otherwise known as our inner voice, judge, parent etc. This can be something we believe and follow without question. But what if I was to tell you, that its time to question and challenge to confront this, so that you can instead, be led by your Inner Champion? #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingthesham...

This panel discussion opens the door into the suffering and reality of Male Survivors in NZ and globally. Three brave men discuss their reality, the amazing work they are now doing to help other male survivors, and the impact this has on their lives. Dr Keli Palfy joins us from Canada to share her wisdom through her research on this very powerful topic. HELP If you would like to have some coaching...

Meet Paulie Stevens, a survivor of abuse whose perpetrator got over 100 years in prison. The judge called him a prolific pedophile, and the worst he had ever seen. What helped Paul in his recovery was his son, sport and the great outdoors. Paul is the Author of You cant hurt me (2011) and Beyond the Hurt (2022) Paul Steven's blog: https://zitebooks.com/  Paul Steven's 1st book: https://w...

The Choices we make are available to us every day in many different ways, and we don't often consider the power they contain. Every choice we make creates an action. As survivors we didn't have a choice as to what happened to us - as adults we do. Sometimes we get used to feeling down, negative and victimised, and it can take courage to lift ourselves out of that.  In even one decision i...

Survivors needing inspiration? Look no further! Live on the channel this week: I interview Paulie Stevens who wrote the book You Cant Hurt Me, He was abused by a pedophile who was sentenced to 200 years in prison. I also share the Male Survivors Panel Discussion including Dr Keli Palfy, and my blog on The Choice is released. For more information visit us at https://www.htsbf.org (A link to our web...

This week we focus on the holiday season. This can be a really difficult and triggering time for survivors as that was when abuse could occur more frequently. Sadness and loss may appear on their faces, and show in the demeanour. Just love them through it. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to...

This powerful discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people) is both enlightening and informative. We cover many areas: Child abuse stats, our court system, group therapy among other things. DO NOT MISS thi...

Kelly and I discuss impacts of child sexual abuse from childhood through to adulthood. We cover off my childhood and the ongoing impact childhood trauma has. A conversation worth listening to and watching. HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.           Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA  RAINN https://www...