Handing the Shame Back

Survivors - We Need to: REST Sometimes we keep ourselves as busy as possible so we are distracted from the reality of our trauma and the impact the abuse had on us. This means we are not living in our minds and not dealing with the feelings emerging within us. That wont help us deal with it, but equally it means we are not resting, and we need to: We can do this by relaxing, eg reading a book. But...

Meet Kimi Parata Survivor. Mother. Wahine Toa. She was abused from the age of 5 by her neighbour, then her brother in law at age 10 and finally her uncle at age 14. She successfully prosecuted both her brother in law and uncle, and is fondly known as the Captain. What helped her through was being a mother and her faith. You can reach Kimi on https://www.facebook.com/kimigheeduzitcrip.parata and  t...

Survivors - We Need to: Stop Doing: Start Being Being gets a bad wrap, its not understood, but, it's just as important as doing. All it means is being still, noticing what is around us and taking time out to embrace that. Using our breath by taking time each day (even 10 minutes) to breathe really helps. We need to Try this: Breathe in for 10 seconds,  hold for 5 seconds, then breathe out for...

Phil Ashworth only speaks the truth.  He was abused over a 4 year period, while at boarding school in Australia. The school in question; Knox Grammar School, was to be at the centre of the global paedophile ring investigation, which turned into the biggest royal commission enquiry Australia had ever seen. The scale of abuse at was to impact widely across over 41 schools globally, and impact hundre...

Survivors - We Need to: Have some Fun! I know it sounds weird on a channel like this, but we need to lighten our load. We cant always be in the trauma and struggling. We need to have balance in our lives and enjoy time that is just, well, for Fun!! Repeat after me: I'm going to have some Fun!! Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking fo...

SEVERE Trigger Warning Meet Jeanette: Survivor of Satanic Ritual abuse, Advocate and Campaigner. She was raised in a family of satanists. Her family were deeply embedded in a satanic cult, which involved royalty. MK (mind control) was what controlled her existence until the age of 22. She now strongly Advocates for other survivors of SRA, helping them to break their silence. You can reach Jeanette...

Self-Sabotage Appears in our lives and is never welcome.  However we do have the power to rid ourselves of this, we just need to understand it first. It can only exist in a place where we are not valuing who we are, let alone giving ourselves what we need. If we can move to self care and start to gently love ourselves, we may be surprised at how we feel les inclined to sabotage our happiness. Go t...

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that when we are meant to face into our trauma, we will know without any doubt whatsoever. It will appear, reappear and find you us matter how hard we try to ignore it. We don't need to panic, it is simply our minds letting us know we are ready to face into it. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking...

Meet Corey, Survivor, Father and Truth-teller. Sadly, he lost both parents between the ages of 13 - 15, first, his mother to cancer, then his father a few years later. He was sexually abused between 13 to 16 years of age. He believes that being a Dad was what really helped him and AA/NA. Being clean and sober gave him a way forward. You can reach out to Corey on:  FB, IG, TikTok His handle is http...

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that our potential may still be untapped as the voice in our heads negated who we were and the possibilities we had to shine.  What we have overcome, and been able to achieve already is impressive.  Take a bow. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www....

Global Awareness Walk This walk is on sat 17th June at 10am (your time) for people around the world, to raise awareness and show support for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse To be part of this, simply do the following: 1. Wear our logo colours red, white, black (or a combo of them 2. Grab a friend, family or group, and: 3. Take a photo and add a caption showing where you are fr...

Global Awareness Day We are launching our Global Awareness Day for Handing the Shame Back on Friday 16 June, which incorporates the following focus: 1. Raising Awareness for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse 2. Logo - We are asking everyone on that day to swap their logo out with ours (see below) for that day 3. Sponsorship - Go to our website handingtheshameback.org and choose...

Meet Liz, a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse. She believes that, in part, her parents created the environment where abuse was allowed to happen and continue. She was 8 - he was 16 and the abuse went on for months. Once she found her voice, she never stopped talking. You can find Liz on: www.liz-roberts.co.uk https://www.facebook.com/Liz. RobertsMSc/https://www.instagram.com/liz.robertsmsc/ https:/...

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors. Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books,  by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #believesurvivors We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheSha...

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that forgiving our abusers and/or their enablers is entirely our choice. We are not a better person if we do. We are not less if we don't.  Trusting our instincts is key, they have never let us down before. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www...

Meet Phil Goldstein Survivor of Sibling sexual Abuse, Poet and Dad of Fur Babies. What helped him emerge through his abuse was Creative writing (poetry), Intensive psychotherapy (4+ years), including EMDR and support from partner/friends/some family. You can reach Phil  IG: https://www.instagram.com/philagoldstein/  FB https://www.facebook.com/philgoldsteinpoet/ Twitter, https://twitter.com/philgo...

Survivors - We Need to: Start to honour ourselves and our feelings by allowing whatever is emerging in us to come through us. This helps us to further our healing by allowing instead of blocking what is. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexuala...

Meet Katy Sudano, Survivor, Author and mother of 5. She was abused by her stepfather for years, with her mothers knowledge. She wrote the book Truth gives strength to wings: Its all in the journal (available through the links below).  She feels what helped her most was her husband’s strength and insight on how to lead, alongside working with a nonprofit called Voice Today, helping others through h...

Feeling proud is not available to us as survivors, or is it? We were conditioned to keep quiet and silent, and pride filled moments did not fit within that context. How could we have built feeling proud into our lives? Have a listen to this, and see what leaps out at you. Its worth it. I promise!! Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation  If you are looking for coaching...

Survivors - We Need to: Build Self care: including resting, having breaks, eating properly. We also need to stop responding to everyone else's needs before our own. Self care sits beside Self Love, lets start honouring that. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingthes...

Poet. Sibling Sexual Abuse Survivor.  Dragica experienced Sibling sexual abuse for over 4 years  by her older brother. She believes that  what would help other survivors is to tell someone who loves you.  She also found being in nature helped  as well as learning new things. She felt the safest at school. You can reach Dragica at dragica.ilic@zg.t-com.hr HELP NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 3...

Survivors - We Need to: Start to understand which one of the trauma responses is our predominant one, and observe that. This will show itself in all our interpersonal relationships. Knowledge of this can help shift awareness and then mastery of it. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. http...

Meet Craig Heiting: Survivor, Husband and Entertainment industry executive He was abused by an older neighbour between 8-14 years of age.  They were trusted friends of the family, he is inspiring and entirely authentic - a great voice for men.  He helps run an organisation called voices beyond assault.  Contact details are:  www.voicesbeyondassault.org.  IG menofvba and voicesbeyondassault.  Email...

Survivors - We Need to: Stop gaslighting ourselves through: Thinking its all in our heads: Not validating how we really feel; Putting others feelings ahead of our own and;  thinking we don't deserve to be happy! Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation  and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter.  https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childho...

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors. Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books,  by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #believesurvivors We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheSha...