Grow with Robin Breckenridge

Over the past year or so of this podcast, we’ve had many listeners send in questions they'd like me to answer about my own life and relationship to this work. Now, normally I’m the one asking the questions on this platform, so talking about myself feels a bit out of my comfort zone. But if I’m going to encourage everyone else to step out of their comfort zones, it’s only fair I do the same. ...

Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind fills in the blanks when you feel activated? Someone doesn't text you back. A friend seems quieter than usual. Your boss sends an email asking if you have a minute to talk tomorrow. Within seconds, your mind already has a story.  What's fascinating is that our bodies often respond to these stories long before we even vet out whether they are tr...

The last few weeks, we’ve been talking about the ways our thoughts create our reality. Most of us rarely slow down to question our thoughts, meaning we’re internalizing them as truths without realizing it. Over time, those thoughts start to impact the ways we show up in our lives and relationships. Not because they’re true or accurate, but because we believe them.  This episode, I’m introducing yo...

As I was reflecting back on last week's episode with Mike Morris, I was reminded of something called the three lies of the ego: I am what I have, I am what I do, I am what other people say I am. These thoughts are often running so unconsciously that we don't even realize we're believing them. They sound true and they feel true, and over time they can quietly influence how we see our...

There are people who enter your life and help you solve problems, and then there are people who fundamentally change the way you see yourself and the world. My guest this episode, Mike Morris, has been one of those people for me. Mike entered my life as my therapist, but he became so much more than that. He held space for me that I had never experienced before, and it fundamentally changed my life...

So you’ve figured out you’re repeating unhealthy relationship patterns that keep you feeling stuck and take you out of alignment with your authentic self. Now what? This is the question my guest Erin Watt, whose words of wisdom you’ve heard on this podcast before, is answering in her upcoming book , Love is Not a Drug . Like me, Erin has experienced these toxic relational dynamics firsthand, and o...

“Maybe this time it'll go back to the way it was. Maybe if I explain it this way or bring them to this therapist or this place of support or buy this book, maybe they'll get it and they'll start treating me with respect. Maybe if I am just prettier or skinnier or cater to their needs more, they'll pick me consistently. Maybe this time, something will change.”  The hope we keep...

A lot of narcissistic relationships do not start badly. They start with a lot of intensity, connection, and attention. You feel pursued, you feel deeply chosen, seen, special. It can feel like, ‘finally, someone sees me, chooses me, and wants me in the way that I've always wanted to be wanted.’ For those of us that have spent a lot of our lives feeling emotionally deprived or like we've...

This episode, I'm sitting down with someone who has done this work deeply in her own life and now supports other women through some of the most challenging relationship dynamics there are. Elise Iafrate is a strategic consultant who works with women going through high-conflict divorces, especially when narcissistic patterns are involved. She has a background in family law, giving her a unique...

In episode five, we walked through the six foundational areas of self-care. You slowed down, looked at your life, rated yourself in each area, and then life continued. We can move through our lives without even realizing that we've drifted a little; it happens quietly. But getting back into alignment can happen just as quietly.  We have two options in life: we either operate in our default se...

So many of us grew up learning how to quiet our feelings, to push them down, to outrun them, to detach from them. We heard things like, “you're being too sensitive, calm down.” “You're overreacting, stop being so dramatic.” We weren't taught how to listen to what was happening inside of us, and now as adults, we don't know how to speak the language.  Feelings aren’t burdens, th...

There are moments in your life you've already thought about hundreds of times. You've replayed them, analyzed them, taken them to therapy, maybe you even understand what happened or why, but you haven't quite made peace with it yet. And because of that, a part of you is still back there, holding on, revisiting it, and using it as a reference point for how you see yourself today.  No...

Procrastination can feel like a bad habit or a lack of discipline, but really, it’s your unhealthy protector’s attempt to keep you safe through self abandonment. This is the part of you that learned to protect you by keeping you smaller, asking for less, saying less, claiming less space.  My procrastination is my unhealthy protector. It tells me, “If you avoid this thing that's causing you st...

There is a crucial difference between unconditional love and unconditional tolerance. For many of us, especially those that came from dysfunctional family systems, we’ve internalized the message that if you really love someone, it means you stay no matter what. It means you endure no matter what. It means that you forgive over and over again.  This leads to us being applauded for our selflessness,...

This episode is really special to me because I’m introducing you to someone who I’ve watched grow for the past 10 years, not just as a coach, but as a partner, a mother, and a woman. Rose Viggiano is a relationship expert and attachment specialist who has helped individuals and couples move from conflict and disconnection to closeness and trust. She teaches the real world tools that help make love...

If you were stuck in a room with an alarm going off, your brain would eventually tune it out in order to survive. This is what I imagine happens when we grow up in a home environment that doesn’t meet our needs; our nervous system acts as the alarm telling us we’re out of alignment, but because we don’t have the option to leave, we stop listening to the alarm instead.  In this work, I call those a...

Over the last few weeks, we’ve talked about anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and ambivalent attachment–the fight, the flight, the freeze. Now, we're going to talk about what happens when your nervous system is regulated enough to pause and choose differently, known as secure attachment.  A secure attachment connects your head and your heart. It doesn't need to rely on maladaptive...

Anxious attachment carries the sword, looking for a fight. Avoidant attachment carries the shield, looking to protect. With ambivalent attachment, you carry both. You'll both fight for closeness and then protect yourself from it. You'll reach and then retreat. You'll crave intimacy and then also feel trapped by it.  Ambivalent attachment is the ‘freeze’ response. Your nervous system...

Where anxious attachment fears abandonment, avoidant attachment fears engulfment. You don’t lean in, you pull back. You create space. You disappear. This is the ‘flight’ response of attachment. You aren't fleeing because you don't care, you're fleeing because closeness once meant losing yourself.  When you’re in avoidant attachment, the walls you’ve built around yourself become armo...

Having an anxious attachment isn't just about feeling like you're too much in relationships, it’s about being the one who fights for connection. You don't pull back, you lean in. You reach. You chase. You cling because connection equals safety. The more you fight to control the outcome of relationships, though, the further you move away from yourself.  This topic is close to my hear...

For most of my life, I thought I just loved deeply, felt deeply, cared more, and was more emotional and intense than others, which often led to me feeling like I was too much. What I didn't understand yet was that my nervous system was often leading the way rather than the conscious, regulated part of me. Once I learned about attachment styles, everything clicked.  Your attachment styles aren...

So far on this podcast we’ve focused on inner resilience and self-connection, now it’s time we learn how to make our outsides reflect that new confidence and inner strength. This episode, I get to introduce you to someone who has impacted me personally, not just in the way I dress, but has helped me to approach a lot of scary style moments in the last year. Payton Dale is a Nashville-based rock n’...

As we step into a new year, I want to offer a different way of approaching what comes next. In 2026, we’re not doing resolutions. We're not here to bring pressure to whatever it is that we're creating. We're not fixing you or trying to change you. Because what actually creates change isn't force, it's empowerment.  This is why this year ahead will be different. Not because...

If this holiday season feels a little harder or a little bit more activating than before, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It really means that you're more honest and more awake than you've ever been. And it can feel worse before it feels better because you're no longer numbing, minimizing, or bypassing what's true.  Today's episode is not about forci...

We often think of trauma as the things that happen to us. Emotional neglect, however, is the trauma of what didn't happen. It's the absence of attunement. The absence of someone noticing and staying connected with your inner world. It often looks like growing up in a home where your physical needs may have been met, but your emotional world was not consistently seen, understood, or held....