Goodguys2Greatmen Podcast

What does it mean "what kind of man do you want to become?" No-one ever asks us this question, but it's essential both in you feeling directed, fulfilled and confident in yourself. In this episode I talk about the reason we ask this question, why it's inportant for men to be deliberate about who they are and what they want to develop about themselves - not to gain any material wealth, but to gain...

Want to know how to be happy even though your marriage sucks? We know what it feels like to be in a long-term, committed, monogamous, romantic relationship that is cold, distant, adversarial and bitter and we can help you identify whether this is just a phase or whether it's time to start moving on. In this episode I talk about the common story that most of the men in our community are living befo...

Are you frustrated because your wife can't let go of the past? Do you feel lost and frustrated by the lack of progress even after it seems like you've moved on to a better place in your relationship and then suddenly she brings up memories from the past and uses them to hold herself at a distance from you? In this episode I talk about how those past hurts can be healed in connection with you, why...

This is the start of a new series of video podcast episodes on the topic of "What makes this man great" where we will be taking specific topics and stories of real life scenarios and breaking them down to show how a great man handles them. In this episode Steve and Dan talk about dealing with anger and being labeled an angry man and what to think and do with anger, why it happens, what causes it a...

If you want a fulfilling marriage then understanding what it takes to have a more passionate relationship is key. In this episode I talk about why so many men get stuck feeling numb, checked out or like there's no hope of re-finding that spark of passion that we so easily enjoyed early on in the marriage, plus I explain how to change that and bring the passion and life back to the relationship. Be...

It's very confusing to hear a partner say that they need space, what's really going on? Most of the time the person asking for space is needing space because they feel overwhelmed by so many things needing their time and attention all the time, or sometimes it's depression, menopause or some other struggles with mental and physical health. Yes sometimes it's because there is another male interest...

Are you worried that your anxiety is ruining your marriage? Does just being around your wife make your heart beat faster and your palms sweat? What about when you want to initiate some kind of conversation or intimacy? In this episode I talk about why we get anxious around her, what causes it, why it's happening now and what to think and do differently to move past this unsettling time. Become a s...

Are you feeling lost and confused in your relationship? Are you overwhelmed with people telling you what to do, what not to do, why you're wrong or why you're right to be upset...? In this episode I discuss what causes us to lose direction, confidence and the ability to feel like we have agency and a creative approach to changing our current reality into the reality we really want. Become a suppor...

Is your life lacking connection, fun & passion? Do you know how to create connection with other people - I mean real connection where they actually care about you and want to spend time with you and know how you're really doing...? In this episode I talk about some ways people have created connection with me recently, how good it made me feel to know I was important to those people and how to...

Want a more sexual marriage? It will require that you learn how to create more emotional connection first and also how you sabotage the emotional connection so you can stop doing that too. In this episode I talk about a really common factor that breaks the intimate emotional connection that women need to feel safe and attracted to us men before they can be sexually intimate with us again. Become a...

Would you like more fun and laughter in your marriage again? Are you dealing with arguments, coldness, judgement and criticism? Does it feel like you try to make her happy but she only sees negatives all the time? In this episode I discuss a key component of being able to create more of the moments you enjoy with your wife and less of the disconnection that's been happening lately. Become a suppor...

Do you want to know how to get the affection back in your marriage? Do you feel unfulfilled and unloved and like you're living with a roommate? In this episode I give you a challenge that if you use it correctly will completely change the quality of the connection, intimacy and passion in your relationship. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podc...

Your relationship is falling apart and it feels like the bottom is dropping out of your whole world, how can you recenter and find your calm, masculine confidence and clarity again? In this episode from one of our men's group coaching calls around relationships, we discuss what's happening and why it feels to hard to deal with, as well as some stories, hints and tips to help you get clear, calm an...

This question "what if you already have exactly what you need?" is a classic coaching question because it makes you think a little deeper about the perspective that you are choosing to adopt about your current circumstances. You always have a choice about how you want to proceed with the situation you find yourself facing and coaching helps you to get clear about what that response will be. In thi...

What does that even mean "Be a grown ass man?" And why would you want to be that? What benefits are there to becoming a mature, confident, secure man? And how does it help with whatever struggles you are facing right now in your life? In this episode I talk about why men are often criticized for not "making women happy", how the focus should be on taking care of your own emotional well-being first...

If you're frustrated by your low sex or sexless marriage you may wonder what causes a wife to lose interest in sex with you? In this episode I explain how this happens to a large percentage of men, as well as a lack of sex happening at certain times in all relationships. I also explain how to think about this and what to do to change it. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com...

I know what it feels like to be in an intimate, romantic, monogamous relationship and yet to feel totally alone. Especially hard at time of celebration or "happy holidays!" In this episode, I talk about how we men get into this kind of situation and no matter what you're going through at this moment, how to find the strength, faith and clarity to know...above anything else...that your happiness is...

Well why did you stop trusting yourself in your relationship? Was is feedback from her or a lack of interest in you that knocked you on your heels? We get knocked back in many areas of our lives yet you can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move forward confidently the very next day....how come? In this episode I talk about two traits that you can cultivate that turn things you're current...

Has your wife said she needs space? Are you now worrying what that means and asking yourself (and maybe her) whether she is planning to leave? In this episode I explain what space means in this context, how to know whether she's really needing space but still committed to the relationship or whether she is getting her plans together ready to leave. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.s...

Feeling overwhelmed and anxious? Want to know why you can't stop worrying about your marriage? Maybe you recently noticed a change in how your wife is being around you or maybe she recently said she's not happy in the relationship...? In this episode I talk about the way the mind works and how it affects us and how we feel in this kind of situation, as well as some examples of how to change the th...

Do you have this annoying problem too? You want to have a great, passionate, sexual marriage but your wife won't talk about sex with you and whenever you try it always goes badly? In this episode I talk about 3 options you have to deal with this situation, what happens when you try each option and which has the best chance of creating more safety, intimacy, connection and even laughter. Become a s...

What we know from over 10 years of coaching men in relationship turmoil is that the only way a man attracts his wife back is by USING this moment in his life to learn something about himself and to grow into being MORE of the man he really wants to be. In this episode I explain why relationship issues are so painful for us men to face and know how to handle, plus some advice on how to think about...

Are you reeling and feeling hurt from a failing marriage? Want to know how to stop the painful feelings that seem to be overwhelming you? In this episode I talk about where the feelings come from, how to notice them, control their effect on you and how to create the kind of future and felt experience that you really want instead. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast...

Want to know how to create the healthy sex filled marriage you want? If you're living in a relationship where intimacy, affection, touch, playfulness and sex is infrequent or missing altogether then you will find this very helpful. In this episode I explain how men find themselves in sexless marriages or facing the possibility of separation or divorce with a partner who's unhappy, feeling unloved...

Do you want to know how to overcome sexual rejection from your wife or girlfriend? It's one of the most painful experiences you can have in relationship with another person and it seems impossible to fix - but it's not! In this episode I talk about the reason why you may be experiencing painful rejections in your marriage and what you can do differently to help your wife relax, lighten up and join...