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In today's episode, Matt Gasseling and I are discussing healing, fatherhood, and finding self-worth. Doing the work for you can be difficult. It's not easy to prioritize yourself and work on your own stuff, especially when the world has taught you to push it all down and go it alone.  Matt shares what's helped him on this journey, from quieting his inner critic and learning to pause when nece...

In today's episode, I'm sharing an exercise for holding the crappy and the happy, because life is often BOTH. It's called the "fart and the flower" exercise! It's such a great way to name the hard and the good, all in one breath.  This practice is all about emotional honesty and balance. It's a way to remind yourself that you're allowed to feel both the crappy and the happy (simple acknowledg...

In today's episode, I'm talking about the phrase "I'm just complaining" and other things we say to downplay what we feel. We've been conditioned to downplay our emotions, especially in rural life and agricultural spaces, where strength is often measured by how much you can "grit and bear." Vulnerability gets squashed by shame.  It's time we flip the script and stop minimizing what we're...

In today's episode, keynote speaker and mindset coach Calli Thorne and I are discussing why mental health first aid should be as common as first aid and CPR - especially in rural life. Calli offers a real look into what this training involves, why it matters, and how it can genuinely change lives.  If you've ever felt like you're running on empty or wondered how to better support someone who'...

In today's episode, I'm talking about why you don't need their apology to heal. We crave the apology so deeply because we're HUMAN. We're wired for connection and closure as humans; our hearts want to be seen, known, and heard.  When we believe that healing is only possible after someone else makes it right, we unknowingly tie our freedom to someone else's readiness or willingness to take res...

In today's episode, I'm talking about what apologies are and what they're not. Apologies are an act of repair - they don't undo what happened or wipe it all clean, but they CAN mend the fabric of a relationship.  Receiving apologies can feel foreign, too. You can receive an apology while still honoring your pain and holding boundaries. You don't have to pretend it didn't hurt just to make som...

In today's episode, I'm talking about what grace is (and what it's not). We hear "give yourself grace" or "extend grace to others" alllll the time. But grace isn't pretending everything's fine or letting people treat us poorly. It's not stuffing your feelings to keep the peace.  Real grace tells the TRUTH, holds boundaries, and stays rooted in kindness. It's curiosity without judgment and sta...

**Trigger Warning: This episode was tough for me to record, and it may be tough to listen to. It includes topics of homicide and suicide. In today's episode, I'm sharing some details about the tragic death of Bailey Koch and her family and talking about the dangerous comfort of judgment and responding to tragedy with humanity. While I get the instinct to say, "I would never," I also know that...

In today's episode, I'm talking about why apologies aren't weak - they're repair. I recently apologized to my middle daughter for a moment that happened nearly seven years ago. It's something that I felt the need to circle back to, especially since we've been talking about the power of showing our kids that we're human. Apologies aren't weak - taking the time to apologize shows that we care....

In today's episode, I'm talking about raising resilient kids by being real in FRONT of them. When we model how to walk through the tough seasons and come out on the other side, we give our kids the tools they need to do the same! They don't need a perfect parent; they need a present one who shows them what it looks like to fall, get back up, and keep going. That's the kind of resilience they'll ca...

In today's episode, I'm talking about reflexes, ropes, and rewiring your response. I'm sharing a sweet story about my son, his little sister, and the rope that led to him unintentionally tripping her (she's fine, and they both laughed about it after!) to demonstrate how your nervous system works. When you've been through hardship, trauma, or even the slow drip of stress, your body just learns how...

In today's episode, I'm talking about feeling without falling apart and how to start when it feels like too much. Because we've all been taught to push through, stay tough, and avoid being too much, but your emotional system doesn't shut off just because you ignore it.  Naming your emotions without trying to fix them, noticing body cues, and even using grounding tools like music or journaling...

Tom is back on the (castpod) to help me tackle your questions with both honesty AND humor! In today’s episode, we’re sharing our hot takes and heartfelt truths on a variety of topics. We received questions regarding relationship struggles, the impact of social media on our communities, facing deep + tense conversations with family members about succession planning, and more. We’re truly grateful f...

In today's episode, I'm talking about self-reliance vs. connection and what actually helps us heal. So many of us were raised to believe that needing help is a weakness or that slowing down to feel our emotions makes us soft. Healing in isolation might feel safe, but true transformation happens in connection, especially when we have someone to walk beside us. Community gives us the courage to stay...

In today's episode, I'm talking about why emotions aren't the problem - avoiding them is. Emotions are meant to help, guide, and connect you. They're not an inconvenience (contrary to what you may believe) but are actually a BEAUTIFUL part of our design as humans! I know that feeling and connecting with your emotions can sound scary, but it is VITAL if you want to experience lasting healing in you...

In today's episode, I'm talking about small gestures, big impact, and what the power of simple connection looks like. Connection is VITAL for us as humans - our brains thrive on social interaction! Small connections are beautiful and transformative and can do SO much to bridge the gaps between people in our society today. Here's to making more intentional connections that leave a lasting impact! I...

In today's episode, I'm talking about a lesson from Ted Lasso on healing and holding two things at once. As humans, we REALLY struggle with duality in our culture. We've been conditioned to think that everything is either/or and not ever both/and.  It's crucial that you don't suppress your emotions, even when they feel uncomfortable. Those suppressed emotions won't just magically disappear!&n...

In today's episode, I'm talking about why healing isn't about never hurting again. Just like physical wounds, emotional healing requires time, protection, and intentional care. Even when you've worked through something, and you feel healed and closed, something is bound to open that wound back up from time to time! Setting boundaries and giving yourself space can really help with emotional healing...

In today’s episode, we’re redefining ‘I’m good’ and how feeling every emotion & healing deeply impacts you. So often, we think that feeling good means we’re never sad, worried, angry, etc., but that’s definitely not the case. Healing is never a one-and-done thing, and it’s not going to look the same for everyone. If you need some extra support on YOUR healing journey, I would be honored to wal...

I'm excited to welcome Kelly Greene back to the podcast today and continue the conversation from the last episode! Today, we're talking about finding meaning in the mess and how purpose fuels resistance. Kelly and I also discuss the vast, transcendent emotion of awe and how this gives you something powerful to focus on outside of yourself.  From learning about holistic resilience to finding m...

I'm excited to welcome my friend, Kelly Greene, Certified Health and Wellness Coach, onto the podcast today! In today's part 1 episode, we're discussing holistic resilience and what rethinking strength and survival looks like. Kelly has experienced her fair share of trauma over the years and has often been told how resilient she is. While she may look like it on paper, resilient was not a word she...

In today's episode, we're talking about why we stay and the pull of the familiar, even when it hurts. As humans, we find comfort in familiarity. Our brains are wired for survival, and we LIKE what's comfortable and safe, even when it's actually the opposite of that.  The pull of the familiar is SO strong, but it's not unbreakable. With curiosity, bravery, and support, it's totally possib...

In today's episode, Tom and I are talking about how we've navigated expectations in ranch life and marriage. We've learned that unspoken expectations are resentments waiting to happen. If you're going to have an expectation about XYZ, you've got to speak it - not everyone is going to have the same expectation or understand where you're coming from!  We hope this episode gives you a more...

In today's episode, I'm talking about cleaning the shop and why feeling your feelings gets worse before it gets better. Many of us have been little hoardy hoarders with our feelings for years. When you finally decide it's time to start the process of working through your emotions, not only are you feeling your emotions in the moment, but you're also unpacking YEARS of emotions! Feeling your feelin...

I'm honored to welcome a special guest, former Marine Jake Ogren, onto the podcast today! Jake is a husband, dad, and former Marine who chose to serve after 9/11 happened. After doing multiple tours in 12 years, he left the U.S. Marine Corps and has been shoeing horses for 10 years now. He's a good friend of ours and our horse's farrier, and since I've known him, we've had MANY conversations surro...