Good Girls Talk About Sex

Chandra grew up in the 7th Day Adventist church, which she equates to a cult. She faults the church for being an educational, social, and religious system that neither acknowledges nor teaches that consent exists for women. She became (mildly) rebellious, experimented with illicit hand-holding, got married, got out, and then embarked on a season of further discovery. Chandra is a 29-year-old, cisg...

Yami grew up in the Dominican Republic and the United States and there was no conversation in her family about sex. After lots of hard experiences as a teen, she is now involved with a man who is dedicated to her pleasure. They've been exploring swinging, play partners, and polyamory. Yami is a 23-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as bisexual and heteroromantic, in a relationship an...

When it came to exploring her sexuality, Liz took her time – while all her friends were gossiping about their boyfriends and hookups as teenagers, Liz knew she wasn't ready to lose control. As a single woman, she now has sex occasionally while she waits to find love. Today we revisit the very first episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex from January 2019. Liz is a 37-year-old, cisgender white woman...

In a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Jessi Kneeland on the  This Is Not About Your Body podcast about how body image and sexuality intersect; body image in partnership; advocating for your own needs; and much more.   Get the "Tune In To Your Turn Ons" class recording: https://leahcarey.thrivecart.com/tityto/ Jessi Kneeland, body image coach: www.jessikneeland.com  This Is Not About Your...

Candi lives with Muscular Dystrophy. She shares how it progressed and how it changed her physical capabilities over her lifetime, and what it's like to date and to have sex with a visible disability. She also opens up about loving rough sex and BDSM, despite what others might perceive as fragility. Candi is a 27-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as heterosexual, monogamous, single,...

Leah shares the health issues she's been dealing with, and why they have brought up extensive flashbacks to her mother's cancer journey.  Then we revisit a conversation with Lisa, first broadcast in December 2019. Lisa is a 40-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, currently in a relationship that is heterosexual, monogamous, and long-distance. She has also long been attracted t...

Sometimes desires arise in the imagination long before you have a chance to try them in real life. Michelle knew she wanted multiple partners and group arrangements—with people of all genders—even while surfing through old-school hetero-normative porn on the family computer. Now she's publicly polyamorous and fully out on Instagram, defining her terms by living them.  Michelle is a 29-year-old cis...

Sex is complicated when you grow up Catholic and learn that kissing your best friend feels like heaven but will send you straight to hell. Sophia explored her feelings initially but then shut down once she got married. When the sheer physicality of menopause forced her to re-inhabit her body, she embraced a spiritual path towards sexual reawakening. Sophia is a 56-year-old cisgender female. She de...

When you love being naked, feeling sexy, giving and receiving pleasure, and you're happily married, you may be…a porn star! Sinn Sage takes us into the real world of sex work, from her early days stripping at clubs and "bachelor" parties, to working as a pornstar-for-hire, through creating and selling her own custom porn in the age of SESTA-FOSTA and Pornhub. Sinn Sage is a 39-year-old, cisgender...

In today's episode, we dive into topics like why confident little girls turn into quiet, ashamed middle schoolers; how Tori's family tried to buck the stereotypes of Black fathers not being around by allowing her abuser to continue living with them; the moment she had to decide whether to save her abuser or let him die; and even exploring race play. Tori is a 46-year-old cisgender female. She desc...

Since beginning her transition to become a transgender woman recently, Kelly has discovered that she is interested in people of all genders. She discusses how hormone therapy has changed her body, her mind, and her orgasms. Kelly is a 34-year-old transgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual, single, and currently exploring open relationships. She has no kids and describes her body a...

Sometimes conventional needs have to be met through unconventional means. Heidi has a higher libido than her husband, but a lot of other things in the marriage work. Making a committed relationship work with her partner and best friend requires having another friend to provide more consistent and fulfilling sex. The first time she brought it up, it was a no from her primary partner. Later she was...

A horny ex-Catholic joins us from the Netherlands to give us the low-down on how living in a liberal country but growing up in an oppressive family gave her all sorts of mixed-up and downright wrong messages. It's something like a double-negative version of universes colliding to form new yeses. She's now a mother of five, and currently balancing sex and motherhood and an unconventional family arr...

Leah sits down with her good friend Danielle of the Marriage & Martinis podcast to talk about her own relationship. The two discuss Leah's new adventure into pursuing an open relationship with her long-time partner. How did they know it was the right time to explore non-monogamy? What is different about their relationship now that allows them to trust one another enough to pursue sexual experience...

When a dancer goes from embodying the feminine ideal to challenging it, beauty and gender standards are thrown into beautiful disarray. Monica began shaving and bleaching her bountiful body hair when she was 8. Two years ago, she finally rebelled and launched the Wet Hairy Woman project. She continues to untangle her preconceived notions around sexual and gender orientation and is learning to over...

The road to reclaiming consent is extra-long when it begins at age 3, and even more complicated by undiagnosed mental health disorders. For Deidre, a lifetime of sexual assault and a growing substance problem led to a rock bottom that included a BPD diagnosis. Today she's feeling healthy mentally and in a wonderful new relationship. Deidre is a 31-year-old non-binary person who uses both she and t...

What do you call a virgin who loves getting head? A comedian! Kyndra Crump takes a deep dive into heteroflexibility and gets some re-education about why losing your virginity doesn't have to hurt—especially if you already like the rest of the stuff. She also learns about swingers-club protocols when she opens up about her exhibitionist desires. Kyndra is a 25-year-old cisgender woman. She describe...

Is it true that sex will become less fun - or even painful 😬 - after menopause? Is there any way to stop the changes that happen to our bodies as we get older? Today I have a special guest: MY OWN health care provider! She's passionate about women's health and I trust her completely. My favorite part of this episode: Maya's theory on why women have so few fucks to give as they get into their 40s...

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They've covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They're now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship. Stevie is 37 years old and identifies as non-binary or gender queer. Th...

When culture tells you that women are sexy, but the church says same-sex attraction isn't allowed, you might try to screw yourself straight. Mia shares how she went from stealing kisses with girls thanks to alcohol-fueled courage while trying to prove to herself that she was straight, to building a lasting love with one of those kissed girls. Mia is a 23-year-old cisgender female. She describes he...

Growing up in a conservative church, some kids don't even know being gay is an option. Add that to an ill-kept family secret, and Olivia became scared to orgasm as an adult. She shares how she went from Googling "naked bodies" to discovering assault survivor resources, and why she's now exploring polyamorous dating. Olivia is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as mixed race with...

The most important move for a great sexual experience: having the talk. STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex. In this episode, Samara and Caleb have the STARS talk. They've been in a relationship for 10 months of serious dating, ready to move in together, and already having good sex. Even so, they uncover several things that surprise them and w...

It's been a tough week. With the decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, fully half of the American population has lost the ability to make health care choices for our own bodies. We are now more regressive on reproductive health than countries like Mexico. In this episode, we look at the grief many of us are feeling; the frustration of being a cis woman supporting our male partn...

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being "the other woman" continues to affect her feelings about relationships. Then, she and Leah discuss how to navigate changing bodies, waning attraction, and mismatched libidos. Mia is a 29-year-old cisgender female. She describes hers...

Purity ring, wedding ring ... cock ring?! After many conversations with people who have religious trauma around sexuality, it's a pleasure to finally welcome someone who grew up in conservative Christianity and has a healthy relationship with sex. Hannah opens up about how she and her husband navigated abstinence while still building a relationship based on trust and pleasure, and how they continu...