"Girl, I've been thinking"

You can’t create a new life with a nervous system that’s still loyal to the old one. In this episode, you’ll learn why you keep repeating the same patterns , and how to begin rewriting the story your body has been carrying for years. Stay connected: Instagram @monica_cotolan @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcast For collaborations or private inquiries: cotolanmonica41@gmail.com If this podcast resonates...

You think you’re healing. But what if you’re just… performing it? In this episode, I’m calling out the version of “healing” that looks good on the surface like love, light, high vibes ,but quietly avoids the real work. The suppressed anger. The hidden jealousy. The parts of you you don’t want to admit are there. Because real healing isn’t about becoming better. It’s about becoming honest. Are you...

You don’t miss them. You miss what you thought it could be. That’s why you keep going back ,even when it’s over. In this episode, we talk about: •why you feel stuck after a breakup or ghosting •why closure isn’t coming •how to actually let go and move on If you’re tired of overthinking, checking, and waiting for answers…this is for you. DM me “MOVE ON” on Instagram if you’re ready to finally break...

subtle icks that instantly kill attraction .  The ick.  I asked women online. They didn’t hold back. It’s always something small. And then it’s over. Follow & connect Instagram (personal): @monica_cotolan Podcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcast Support the show

What if the reason your relationships keep ending the same way… isn’t just them? In this episode, we’re talking about the patterns nobody wants to admit: falling for potential, overthinking texts, needing clarity too soon, and slowly losing yourself in someone you barely know. This one might feel like a personal attack. But it might also change your entire dating life. Follow & connect Instagr...

Some people move on quickly after a breakup. Others barely survive the silence. In this episode I break down the pattern known as monkey-barring , when someone jumps from one relationship straight into another without ever sitting in the space between. And why it can feel so personal when it happens to you. Through a story from my own 7-year relationship, I explore the pattern of people who are al...

Being replaced can make you question your entire worth. One moment you’re part of someone’s life … and the next it feels like you’ve been swapped out like you never mattered. And suddenly the question appears: “Was I just… replaceable?” In this episode, we explore why being replaced hurts so deeply and the psychological trap our mind falls into after rejection. Because the most painful part is oft...

Have you ever felt like you had to be a certain version of yourself to be loved? In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to perform in relationships , to overgive, overexplain, overachieve just to feel secure. Where that pattern starts, how it shows up quietly, and what it takes to stop tying your worth to how well you’re received. If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to be “enough,”...

At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter. In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns, can’t romanticize chaos anymore, and can’t go back to the version of you that felt easier to be. We get into the strange loneliness that comes with emotional clarity, wanting things you know aren’t good for you, and why r...

What if the way people react to you… isn’t really about you? In this raw and reflective episode, I invite you into the truth behind your light: You are a mirror. Some will feel seen in your presence—and love you for it. Others will be triggered, afraid, even distant. And that has nothing to do with your worth. We explore: Why your light activates both love and resistance in others The difference b...

Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of narcissistic abuse as we expose the manipulative tactics—gaslighting, love-bombing, and emotional sabotage—that keep survivors trapped.   ✔️ Decode the narcissist’s playbook (you’re NOT crazy).   ✔️ Share jaw-dropping survivor stor...

Ever feel like your emotions are a tangled mess, steering you off course? In this soul-stirring episode, we dive deep into the truth your heart already knows: Your emotions are not obstacles…they’re your most powerful guides. Join us as we unpack how fear, joy, anger, and even grief can act as signals, pointing you toward authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.   What You’ll Learn:   - How to decod...

🌟 Boost Your Self-Confidence! 🌟  In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence. Join us as we share personal stories, expert tips, and actionable strategies to help you unleash your inner powerhouse! 💪✨ Whether you're looking to ace that job interview or tackle a new challenge, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical advice. Don’t miss out on...

In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the realms of self-awareness and emotional balance. Join us as we explore the integration of feminine and masculine energies, discussing how these vital aspects shape our identities and relationships.  Let me know what are your thoughts on this episode and what you resonate with the most  •We’ll reflect on personal journeys, sharing insights on:...

It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you want and that makes it hard to enjoy it .It’s hard to feel excited about life when it feels like we are running on a treadmill. It’s time for some  changes ! Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have a...

Understand that life has unpredictable plans in store for everyone. You can’t steer it in any direction or control it. So, never worry about factors out of your influence. Focus on being in flow, and enjoy every moment. Also, relinquishing control and accepting whatever result comes your way will help you become more content in life.and I have 6 actionable steps to help you get there !✨ Let´s con...

In order to break the cycle of toxic behavior, it is crucial to first identify and recognize common toxic traits. These traits can manifest in various ways and have a significant impact on our relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Here we are talking about some common toxic traits to be aware of and a way to break the cycle of toxicity in ourselves and how to recognise it in othe...

Dark feminine energy is often a misunderstood concept because we tend to think of darkness as something negative. Life is full of contrasts and complexities, and much of our living experience comes from the balance between two opposing forces. We can't have light without darkness, and vice versa. This concept of the duality of the universe applies to many areas of life, from the physical to t...

Would you like to know the secrets of how to be a high value woman, and what high value woman traits are? And how to be a high value woman in dating? You’ve come to the right place. I will also share some of the traits that a high value man is looking for in a woman. I don’t support the idea that we should be a certain way that men expect,but I think it is really important to know those things If...

When we think of progress, we often think of moving forward, making improvements , and achieving success. However, defining progression can be challenging as it means different things to different people. Progression can refer to personal growth, societal advancement, or technological innovation. Regardless of the context, progression is about making positive changes and moving forward towards a b...

You might feel stuck on your journey to becoming emotionally mature — or have no idea where you are in your growth. But that doesn't mean you can’t succeed in self-improvement. It simply means you need to learn how to improve your emotional maturity, and we're here to help you do that. In a fun way ? In a crazy way ? Yes ,but trust me it is worth it ! And as a premiere,my best friend Mar...

The 4 Attachment Styles & Why a Toxic Attachment Style can Affect your Relationships  Attachment types develop early in life and often remain stable over time. However, this does not mean that they cannot be changed into more secure forms of attachment–it just means that you may need to develop self-awareness through understanding and resolving attachment issues . The first step of this proces...

Making decisions and taking risks has always been a challenge for everyone and it s not easy to actually do it ,especially when it’s about a big decision that brings a lot of risks. And in the episode we will figure out why is it hard to make decisions and take risks,how it impacts us and our future. And as a bonus I will give you 3 habit methods to help you improve your decision making skills and...

Being intentional is very important when you want to manifest the life that you desire ,because you get to move completely in the direction that you wish .Now for more tips into how to shift with intention stay tuned. Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . Or my email adress at  cotolanmoni...

There is this proverb that I love and it sounds like this „Let go or be dragged.” It reminds me that holding on to what does not contribute to my overall well-being and expansion will eventually cause me even more pain than acknowledging the truth of the situation, facing my fear, and taking action. And now it is time for you to upgrade your perception as well ,so let’s dive into the episode. Let´...