Girl Boner Radio: True Sex and Relationship Stories

Have you ever felt let down because your partner doesn't meet your expectations? Or wondered if you're having enough sex?    Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychologist and author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them , has been studying relationships for years through his Relationship Science Lab. He's also been featured by The New York...

Have you felt a more or less sex-inclined lately? Or wished you could have more spicy fun and pleasure during these zany times? If your answers are yes or yes, this episode is for you.   A few things you'll learn:   Ways the pandemic and social distancing are impacting sexuality, including thoughts from listeners Awesome sex toys for clitoris, penis and couple's play How to set the stage for spici...

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to talk to strangers about their sexual experiences? Julia Rothman and Shaina Feinberg did just that, and more, for their new book, Every Body : An Honest and Open Look at Sex from Every Angle .    A few things you'll hear in this episode:   An excerpt from August's first time hitting the streets to ask people, "What's a Girl Boner?" What Julia and Shai...

S and C are scientists and foodies who share a deep love. One thing they don't share is an equal desire for sex. While S is pretty much always "ready to go," her partner C desires sex less often. And when he does desire it, his wants aren't always those that S can fulfill.    Shan is a virtual assistant and mother of two homeschooled teens who consistently desired sex less often than her beloved l...

Have you sent intentions for 2021? How about sexual intentions? As we make our way into a new year and reflect on what hasn't worked so well in the past, we shan't forget our sex lives!   A few things you'll learn about in this episode:   A common lube mistake to avoid A type of harmful self-talk that's super easy to fall into What to do when you feel uncomfortable during sex Which fantasies to sp...

Sex-Positive Parenting, Fetish Play and Sexual Liberation with Jet Setting Jasmine   As a trauma-informed clinical therapist, sex worker, parent of three and woman of color, Jet Setting Jasmine knows a great deal about these topics, from personal and professional experience.    A few things you'll learn in this episode:   What Jasmine learned about sex early on and ways she challenged the negative...

Ever considered putting a ring on it? On a penis, that is... Or wondered about reaching climax in "perfect time" with a partner? (Hint: simultaneous Os are pretty rare, but that doesn't mean you can't invite or embrace them.) A few things you'll learn in this episode:   Sexual trends during the pandemic A bit of cock ring history The best cock rings for beginners How cock rings can help in the ere...

They aren't all holidays-themed, but some fun distraction may be just what 2020 ordered! August wraps up the Girl Boner Radio year by sharing the voices and stories of librarian  Jess Witkins , publicist Will Armstrong , sex educator  Angelique Luna and #open's  Maile Manliguis . A few things you'll hear about this episode:   Some intense improv (and okay, lies) that fueled romance Attraction that...

Long-time sex therapist Tara Galeano, speaks about her a journey to rediscover her body after difficulties in her personal life and health served as a major wakeup call. She now approaches her life and her work very differently.  A few things you'll learn in this episode: How Catholic messaging early on impacted Tara's ideas about sex and marriage How she (and her body) responded to learning about...

Thien-Kim Lam, founder of Bawdy Bookworms , and Nhakia Outland, founder of Prevention Meets Fashion , run sex-positive businesses that stem from personal experience, as well as passion for cultivating needed change.  A few things you'll hear in this episode: About Thien-Kim and Nhakia's sexual empowerment journeys Thien-Kim's top sex toy tip for newbies, plus pleasure advice for us all Nhakia's th...

There are not easy times, especially for anyone who was struggling with mental health issues before the pandemic. Whatever you're feeling is valid and all of us at Girl Boner Central hope this special pre-holiday episode brings you some comfort and light.    In this episode:   Ellen Kahn , Senior Director of Programs and Partnerships for the Human Rights Campaign, speaks about her background and w...

Have you ever wondered what it's like to live with bipolar disorder or wished that you didn't feel alone in your mental health journey? Or wondered what it's really like to make out with a fellow actor on camera? If so, pull up a chair! In addition to being an established actress, Alessandra Toressani speaks about her journey with bipolar publicly and advocates for mental health awareness on her p...

August launched an exclusive Girl Boner community on Patreon! Learn more in this quickie announcement episode. Check out the reward and sign up here: http://patreon.com/girlboner

Interested in pegging a partner or being pegged? How about pegging the patriarchy? Canada-based sex and pleasure educator Luna Matatas receives a LOT of questions about sex, and butt play, with or without a strap-on, is among the most common themes.    In this episode you'll learn:   Where the term "pegging" came from and what it means What led Luna to become passionate about pleasure-based sex ed...

You can "come of age" sex and relationship-wise at any stage of life. Take it from sex therapist Cyndi Darnell, disability advocate Andrew Gurza and industrial designer Ti Chang.    A few things you'll learn in the episode:   What erotic embodiment entails Benefits of erotic embodiment Common myths about hiring sex workers Benefits of hiring a sex worker, whether you're disabled or not Andrew and...

Kristen J. Sollée is an author, educator and second-generation witch whose latest book, Witch Hunt: A Traveler's Guide to the Power and Persecution of the Witch,  explores the witch as a figure of female power and persecution—covering everything from the dark realities of witch trials and dangerous misperceptions that echo today, to love spells, fascinating uses of menstrual blood and sex magic. S...

Dr. Tim Seelig, Emmy Award-winning­ director and San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus conductor, spent the first 35 years of his life closeted about his gayness in a traditional Southern Baptist community.    A few things you'll learn in the episode:   How Tim was outed to his entire community and lost everything What he gained by coming out How his Baptist Christian family reacted and how those relatio...

If you or a partner has ADHD, you know that brain styles can impact sex and relatioships in all sorts of ways.    A few things you'll learn in this episode:   Common challenges related to sex and ADHD, from "time blindness" (for lack of a better term) to distractability    How this type of neurodivergence can enhance relationships and intimacy   Some related funny-in-hindsight experiences, from Au...

Phone sex operator Amberly Rothfield had just gone through a several-month sex hiatus when she experienced an orgasm that changed her life. Dr. Samantha Allen had started to think orgasms were no longer in her future when, two years after sex reassignment surgery, she was surprised by one. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin had her first orgasm on the playground as a child. only to struggle in the climax...

Vibrators were originally created to treat "hysteria" in women. Thankfully, they're now broadly embraced for personal pleasure. But not all sex toys are created equally or as beautifully.   A few things you'll learn in this episode:   What Ti Chang learned about sex growing up and takeaways from her first vibrator experience   Why the aesthetics of sex toys, especially those marketed toward femmes...

Eager to get turned on or enjoy more pleasure? There are many ways to do so, and the benefits can go far beyond the bedroom. Take it from 6 authors or spicy books, as well as August and Dr. Megan! If you're concerned about a lack of sexual desire lately, on the other hand, you're not alone and that's nothing to be ashamed of. Keep the fun going:   Autumn Bardot's YouTube page for writers: https://...

Have you ever used a non-sexual object for sexy play? If so, you're far from alone. Sometimes these "pervertables" can bring fun and adventure. Other times, they land folks in the emergency room. Thankfully, there's a lot you can do to have creative fun and stay safe at the same time. Take it from Dr. Megan Stubbs.   A few things you'll learn in this episode:   What objects got lodged in folks' va...

"What about Girl Boners?" August first wondered about this in grade school. While she didn't realize it then, that curiosity set the stage for her eventual career. Throughout that work, she's learned a great deal about obstacles in the realm of femme sexuality. She's also heard many questions about arousal, a topic Dr. Megan has a lot to say about, given her nearly two decades as a sex therapist....

Porn. How do you feel about it? August has heard from folks who love watching porn and feel it strengthens their lives and relationships, people who feel better off without it, folks who are frustrated by what's portrayed on mainstream porn screens and those who are irked by the myths surrounding the medium. All of these feelings are valid. One thing's for darn sure. We need more conversations and...

Cheryl Hunter talks to August about the harrowing tale of the kidnapping and sexual assault she endured in her late teens, when she traveled from rural Colorado to France in hopes of launching a modeling career. She's now a bestselling author, news commentator and resilience expert with a great deal to say about navigating difficult times, forgiveness, owning your story and learning to thrive—incl...