Get a Better Handle On Life

Here's an idea that can have real impact in a person't life. When someone says “I’m unhappy”, “I need to see you in my office at 3.00”, or “Don’t call us, we’ll call you”, the chances are the listener will provide their own overlay of meaning and start to worry. In which case, it’s the MEANING (not stated but provided by the listener) which triggers the worry. Whatever the information the speaker...

In this short episode, I take a serious look at how the explanations we have for other people’s behaviour can wreck our peace of mind, and our relationships. You’ll hear how a single, emotionally charged explanation can take over your thinking, make you ruminate, and turn minor conflicts into major problems. The episode offers a foolproof yet powerful technique to free you from these distorted exp...

We are seeing a noticeable drop in standards of public courtesy. I think we all know some of the contributors, public figures and politicians giving free rein to their and fleeting judgments and prejudices with no regard for the normal rules of civil discourse. This appears to be affecting how we, the public, act when trying to get our needs met, particularly when we are under pressure. Little tho...

If you've got a single idea in your head about something that happened with another person, and it's harming you, harming your relationship, or both, this Tinycast is for you. When we can't step back from it and see an alternative point of view, and you can't hear the other person's explanation, this gets us into trouble a lot of the time. Our need for explanations regarding others' behaviour, can...

When unwanted change hits us it's natural to want to get through it as quickly as possible and put the past behind us. The paradox is, though, that our eagerness to move on can make drag out the process and hold up how we adapt. Got a question? Contact me. Post: Moving On Might Mean Standing Still #tinycast #tinycastuk #findingmeaning #dealingwithchange #transition #mentalwellbeing #personalgrowth

Libby King, a gay solo parent-to-be, faced discrimination and isolation during her journey to start a family, with healthcare professionals often assuming she was heterosexual.   Libby’s personal experiences fueled her determination to help others. She founded the LGBT+ Parent Support Group, Bourne This Way, to offer guidance, community, and belonging for LGBTQ+ families and prospective parents. T...

Another enlightening conversation with Adele Leah. We talk about understanding your superpower, finding your voice, working to your strengths and talents, and idenitifying your tribe. There's a whole lot of 'finding' going on in this episode, and as ever, how to apply it to help you get a better handle on life!  Adele brings some real gems into the conversation and offers some free resources too. ...

You don't have to be an optimist to learn to think positively about yourself and the future. You can learn the skills and reap the benefits of optimism. Learning optimism and teaching ourselves to use it by choice can have far reaching consequences that reach deep into our unconscious processes and create emotional and physical resilience. Even if it doesn’t suit you to take a positive outlook, be...

Here's a simple formula to help you manage the stress in your life. Stress is everywhere, we all experience it to some degree. But, although we acknowledge it and it gets talked about a lot, the advice we get is often rather banal and not a lot of practical value (slow down, simplify your life, get a hobby…). Contours stress can lead to overwhelm, but there are simple ways to take the pressure off...

Learn What it Means to be Free through the Journey to Realness with my guest, Oli Anderson, Transformational Coach and author. He explains why he thinks that "99% of our problems in life are caused by our mis-perceptions of what is actually real".  We explore how becoming more self-aware can help you understand and break free from negative habits and inhibiting beliefs. We discuss the importance o...

Rather than perceiving imperfections as shortcomings, view them as reservoirs of strength. Embracing the Japanese philosophy of Kintsugi involves recognising the beauty in imperfections, and applying this mindset to your life can be transformative. Understanding that perfection is an unattainable standard and accepting yourself allows more time and mental energy to grow. What sets you apart is the...

There’s a myth that confidence is something your either have or don’t have. While some of us seem to be naturally more outgoing, ready to engage, and sure of our actions, it doesn’t follow that we are confident in everything we do. We are all under-confident in some things, sometimes. Got a question? Contact me. Post: How to Grow Your Confidence #tinycast #tinycastuk #confidence #success #positive...

Overthinking happens when you overanalyse or overthink a problem to a point where it seems impossible to move forward or find a solution. You can’t make a decision, nor take action… You are stuck in an endless cycle of rumination. Instead of problem-solving, you dwell on an issue without finding a rational solution. It becomes an endless cycle of negativity that constantly plays on your mind. Got...

In order to be a leader you must have those who are willing to follow you. Creating a culture of leadership means that Transformational leadership skills, performed well, will achieve this. 

Are you struggling with the pain of heartbreak? Discover effective ways to heal and move forward in my latest 5-minute Tinycast, Ease the Pain of Heartbreak. This practical guide offers instant tips to help you calm the emotional turmoil and find peace. You can manage your feelings, rebuild your self-esteem, and create a positive outlook for the future. Don't let heartbreak hold you back. Listen n...

The seven habits of highly resilient people adds up to a recipe for resilience. If you are having a stressful time there is a lot you can do to help yourself. People who deal well with stress have certain characteristics which set them apart. Some of these factors are qualities we all have to some extent, and they can be learned and developed.  Got a question or comment? Contact me . More on my bl...

Here are five  ways curiosity can benefit your wellbeing. Discover how embracing curiosity can enhance learning and growth, boost mental health, foster stronger relationships, promote resilience, and increase life satisfaction. Five minutes to reflect on why to cultivate curiosity and unlock a richer, more fulfilling life. Don't miss out on these insights that can transform your well-being! Got a...

Change is Scary, but it is also an Opportunity. Major change impacts our lives in three ways. The first two are the change itself and the effect on our circumstances. The biggest impact, and the part we so often neglect, is the process of psychological adaptation to the change. You may not like the change, but there are always new possibilities.  Got a question or comment? Contact me . Post: Chang...

We are in an age where what has been called a 'crisis of masculinity' threatens men's sense of identity, as expectations of behaviour are shifting and traditional roles are eroded. In this engaging conversation, strategic coach and author Purdeep Sangha talks about how this could spell danger for the future of men's relationships, and the shifts that confuse the idea of masculinity. He lists the f...

Your personal boundaries and your values are linked. Understanding the relationship is crucial for a balanced life. Our values define or boundaries, which in turn reinforces our values. This 5-minute Tinycast explores how your values and boundaries interconnect to create a life of integrity and balance. Got a question or comment? Contact me . Post: The Vital Links Between Personal Boundaries and V...

We tend to think of startups being the province of younger people, but older entrepreneurs have a higher success rate. Though a small set of exceptional individuals may have built amazing companies while young, the fact is that most successful entrepreneurs are older, often in their forties, fifties, or even later in life.  This is the domain chosen by business coach Suzanne Mountain. Got a questi...

Break free from the trap of comparing yourself with others, embrace your authenticity, and improve your mental health. The lure of social media can lead you the wrong way. Got a question? Contact me. Related post: Break Free from the Curse of Comparing: Cultivating Authenticity in a Social Media Age #tinycast #tinycastuk #authenticity #curseofcomparing #mentalwellbeing #socialmedia

Thankyou to the listener who contacted me saying "Let’s give our next generation the life skills that we didn’t learn at school". In this 5-minutes I share her 11 suggestions. What do you think? Would you add anything? I'll cover each individually in Tinycasts over the next few weeks. Got a question? Contact me. #tinycast #tinycastuk #lifeskills #successinlife 

If you are preparing for a sensitive conversation you’ll want to avoid creating unnecessary tension or awkwardness. In this Tinycast I provide the seven essential, practical tips to help you approach difficult discussions with confidence and empathy Got a question? Contact me. Free download: Planning a Sensitive Conversation – My Free Guide #tinycast #tinycastuk #difficultconversation #conflict #r...

In this episode I explain transparent communication and its power to strengthen relationships. Got a question or comment? Contact me here Post: Strengthening Relationships Through Transparent Communication #transparent communication, #successful relationships, #intimacy #authenticity