From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

We are told again and again to be ourselves. But who is this self they speak of. Is that who we truly are? How do we know? Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

It can sometimes feel like there is a lot of change. It seems like that can induce stress. But change is part of life. We don't feel the change, we feel our resistance to it. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Drinking wine and meditation to feel better come from the same misunderstanding. I hope that got you to sit up and listen. I know one is better for the physical body than the other but bear with me hear. Both mediation and drinking wine are done to feel better. But the misunderstanding on which both are done is that feelings come from the outside world. Join me as I explore this topic from a new p...

Sometimes letting go is hard. It can seem that our gut is guiding us one way but the urge to carry on keeps guiding us to hang on. A time of awareness and noticing. Which thought brings the nicer feeling - you are being guided. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

It seems there are rules about self-care. That there are certain things you have to do to be well. But when we should ourselves, we can experience guilt. Not really conducive to wellbeing I think. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Boundaries, rules and self-expectations! This seems to be the way to engage with self-care. But what if it was simpler than that. What if self-care was all about connecting to ourselves in the present moment. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

There's a stressful feeling in the body when we feel impatient. It's an itchy, jittery feeling for me. It comes up whilst queuing or waiting for anything. But what is available underneath that feeling? What happens when the impatient feeling falls away? Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

What would happen if you ignored fear? What if you trusted your creative guidance and gave fear a back seat? You thinking doesn't know what you are capable of. When you see this, the world opens up. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Life is unfolding. It is happening for us not to us (Byron Katie).  It doesn't always go how we might want it to. As it unfolds, we can be in a place of acceptance or resistance. I guess you can work out which feels worse. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

It seems there is a lot to do to change your thinking. Tools, techniques and therapy. But what if understanding how thought works was more beneficial. Well it turns out it is! Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

There appear to be so many rules in life. It can get a little overwhelming. But have you explored how many of those rules are true. Have you considered that many are just well-meaning nonsense. With less rules we can more easily connect to our intuition and find a way which works for us. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at clared...

Goals can easily become instruments to beat ourselves up with! I used to have tightly held goals. I ended up procrastinating endlessly. It was like my present moment self was fighting against the goals I set in the past. Lightly held goals have a different feel and energy and that is where I am playing at the moment. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From S...

Playfulness is a wonderful way to experience less stress but have to ever pondered what gets in the pay of you being more playful. Maybe it's the thoughts of looking stupid. The idea you will be judged. Trust me, you are not the only one. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

It's time for a different conversation about mental health. Let's face it, the one we are having isn't really working; more people are suffering than ever. But I see there is a simple reason. We are not being pointed towards our innate mental health or being encouraged to see where we are doing just fine. We are talking far too much about mental illness. It is time for something new! Join me as I...

A paradigm is a pattern or model of how something works. Where we have a single paradigm like gravity which we understand, life gets simpler and easier. There is a paradigm for how we work psycho-spiritually called the inside-out understanding. It works 100% of the time. Stress occurs when we think it only works some of the time. Just like if we thought gravity only worked in some places in our ho...

The dreaded imposter syndrome.  That voice in your head which says you are not supposed to be here. It says, 'You are going to get found out any minute'. It chips away but when you realise it is thought and that's not true, it can start to melt away. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

You have an amazing life to lead! One amazing life. It won't be like that guru's you follow. It won't be a straight line. It will be what is meant to come through you. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Hate is a word I used to use a lot. Then I saw the energy which came with it. It brought an uncomfortable feeling. Letting it go I felt better. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Hope is often something which is held up as being useful. A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen. Future thinking that things will be better. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

When you realise the energy of life is running through you stress becomes less prevalent. It's like knowing that you are held. That you are supported. A sense that you have access to all the answers underneath your busy thinking. Suddenly it makes more sense to get quiet and see what emerges. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at c...

Are you aware where you are creating your own suffering? If you knew you were doing it, would you carry on. I suspect not! But the thing is you probably innocently don't know. Listen and you might start to see. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Mind or moment is the choice which leads us away from stress and anxiety. In any moment there is a choice when you know there is one. Do you choose mind - the thoughts which are creating the discomfort. Do you choose moment - the truth, reality and peace. It only takes a second to choose once you know you can. For you are the awareness who is choosing not the thinking. Join me as I explore this to...

In this busy world, it looks like we are supposed to live life at a ridiculous pace. But what if that was wrong. What if slowing down could reap so much more. What if speed and hustle were not our natural state. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Have you noticed when you feel truly connected to someone. What needs to be in place for that to happen? It seems to me to happen when we have less on our mind. When we are in the space of pure presence. Then we loose track of time and the conversation flows. Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Low moods are vital if you want to live a guided life because they let you know about your low mood thinking! And low mood thinking is almost always not helpful. You are being guided all the time, you just don't know it yet! Join me as I explore this topic from a new perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe