Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/TblTGkOemwI i got sent videos about this article by so many people i decided to just share some thoughts in a video!! i think the article was great and is indicative of a shift in how people view and value relationship status as part of their identity and self-worth. read the article here: https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now book...

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/0u9iMbXQhV8 DO IT FIRST AND LAUGH IT OFF LATER :D 1:56 - internet illusions 3:33 - micro-dosing risk 4:14 - understanding your patterns 7:25 - breaking patterns 9:02 - its not hard its just new 10:41 - yolo 11:31 - do it ironically 14:19 - gaslight yourself 14:36 - work with your authentic voice 15:31 - focus on consistency 17:17 - appreciate contrast 17:57 - prot...

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAw we are constantly being sold the illusion that time which is paid for is the most 'valuable' time which can allow for anxiety and depression to build up. having awareness and intention in how we spend our time and ensuring that we are able to bring ourselves back to the present moment is one of the most radical things we can do in an attention economy....

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAw thank you so much for subscribing and supporting the channel angels!!! this is a long one so strap in. something i didn't mention was of course to also consult mental health professionals when you're going through it. sometimes its worth going even when things seem like they're fine just for a lil check up and deep dive. let me know in the comments wha...

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/mqu4RRzr2oo what is love.mp3 book mentioned: the road less travelled by m. scott peck (*) https://amzn.to/496J0SD other love related videos by meee: is love a neurochemical con job? (podcast) https://youtu.be/uXvumVQkeBE dating after a first love (podcast) https://youtu.be/igKB7V3pvcU girl boss vs lover girl wanting romance & commitment https://youtu.be/FwplRB...

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/UJOsMitowCI follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/am...

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/1mv6EZX003Y follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/am...

i got asked about imposter syndrome recently, there's definitely some overlap with comparing yourself to others (see previous video) but i made this video as an add on/extension. let me know your thoughts as always please!! my skin looks so bad here but i was too lazy to put a filter on so i'm keeping it 99 !!!xx 02:30 - everyone is a newbie at some point 03:28 - confidence revised 04:10 - life is...

talking through the mental blocks that can occur when we get stuck on comparing ourselves to others in a way that hinders our ability to be HOT and HAVE FUN !!! 03:33 - radical acceptance 05:11 - practicing gratitude 07:07 - set intentions 07:52 - lean into irony when being serious feels like a joke 08:37 - abundance vs delusion 09:45 - your mindset affects your decision making 11:00 - awareness +...

that overwhelming "wtf" feeling 01:54 - context can differ, dyanmic/feelings are usually consistent 02:45 - its better to do something, rather than nothing 03:12 - don’t let perfect be the enemy of good 04:06 - learn to be a beginner 05:23 - what i learnt during the panini (external changes) 06:43 - noticing the negative thought pattern: “when x happens, then i can be happy” 06:48 - lean into how...

a short video with a gentle reminder that your mental/spiritual/emotional growth doesn't have to look a certain way in order to be valid. maybe your physical and mental glow up happens at the same time and it will be more effective when you are intentional about integrating the range of skills and experiences required - many of which i discuss in previous video and podcast content. please share yo...

pairing an excerpt from my voice memo podcast series with this footage of me eating dim sum between a soundcheck and standby while i was on a job earlier this year in wuhan hehe ~ i mention fengshui changes, what one of my friend's recent dating situations prompted in reflecting on a woman's ego in dating and what stops me from entertaining low effort romantic opportunities #realizingthingsmy voic...

don't let the haters stop you from doing ur thang follow me on IG ☆  https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberak...

when being the bigger person is overrated if you wish me bad, i wish you _____ !!!! 01:53 - 04:25 - 1. define love, acknowledge your efforts 04:25 - 05:21 - 2. what fantasy or potential did you become attached to 05:22 - 05:52 - 3. withdraw your effort 05:53 - 09:07 - 4. redirect, transmute & alchemize your energy 09:08 - 11:30 - 5. neutrality over positivity (for now) 11:31 - 14:36 - 6. be prepar...

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watch this if you're looking to start or still skeptical about journalling !!! 4:36 the artist’s way, being consistent 5:45 free printables & habit trackers 5:54 the six pillars of self esteem 6:42 create a judgement free space for your thoughts 7:38 you don’t have to revisit or re-read 8:34 normalize crashing out in private 10:02 allow for new thoughts 11:25 positive scripting 12:05 re-affirm wha...

meditation re-wired my brain fr fr 01:31 -  sit with your thoughts 02:02 - its good for u 03:16 - why i started meditating (DEPRESSION) 05:17 - consistency is key 05:59 - finding stillness in chaos 07:07 - how my perspective shifted 08:45 - centering yourself vs being self-centered 09:25 - what you can’t outrun 10:18 - separating your thoughts from the thinker 10:43 - responding to triggers 12:36...

girl, you might be a VICTIM??!!! referenced video on female bullyinghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DL5qDFDttps 4:46 indirect, passive agression 5:45 group size 6:20 incompatibility  6:54 social isolation & the grey zone 7:12 jealousy & envy 7:32 aggression inhibitors 8:13 being hot is a threat 11:15 prevention 11:35 avoid emotional reactions 12:03 employ humour/wit 12:35 insecurity/second chances...

maybe your love is meant for you first and others next and yea then maybe some guy lollet me know ya thoughts and feelings my loves xxx 03:59 retraining and maturing the lover girl 05:49 love vs romance 08:22 relationships are transactional & exchanges 12:34 your life garden 17:55 success = preparation + opportunity 22:36 be so for real (& stop comparing) 25:09 leave it to fate subscribe for full...

hope this helps!!! let me know :P chronically online behviour nobody cares that much embrace the discomfort & cringe baby steps & experimental approach create your own metric system people that have reconciled with their cringe, won’t judge you what is your value add be real with yourself radical acceptance embrace evolution subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/am...

some additional thoughts on how to adjust your mindset to make new friends. share your thoughts and experiences with me in the comments!!! referenced videos: 30 & feeling lonely and disconnected: https://youtu.be/d31wkPGXUd0 do what you enjoy: https://youtu.be/M_7URMkKPR8 hot girl habits: https://youtu.be/DszRCbx0_AE subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakill...

i feel like i haven't done a proper podcast episode in ages but its also not the longest break i've taken... abridged life update incoming ..! i made it to naoshima island, visited perth for the longest period since moving back to shanghai in 2022 and been reflecting on my 20s now that i'm in my 30s. thank you so so much to anyone that has supported me through all the different content creation ph...

what does it really take to be a “baddie”? to me, being a baddie is more than just an aesthetic, its an attitude, and one that you have to define for yourself and EXECUTE!!!!!! baddie defined personalise your approach success is not the absence of failure example process your emotions two approaches sense of humour grey-rock baddie in training be prepared to walk away define your bottom line 10. a...

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let's start speaking to the manager within!!! self-confrontation self-responsibility meeting other people's needs at the expense of your own maybe YOU need to validate you they aint reading all that make note of your blind spots the urge to purge is the means, NOT sending the essay text is the end process your anger true compatibility feels like peace, not war subscribe for exclusive podcast episo...