FreedHearts

Today, we talk about envy and wrath. Yikes, scary! Breathe. We are all okay. That’s why we are deconstructing this -- to free our hearts from this fear. People in power often accuse and shame us in the very things they do! It’s all about projecting. They project onto us their sins, their crimes. That sleight of hand, that narrative keeps us focusing on our own hearts, and not on theirs. Our goal h...

We’ve been deconstructing the so-called "7 Deadly Sins" — and today we talk about LUST! The non-affirming church makes rules telling you that you’re lustful—your beautiful relationships are demeaned and reduced to being about lust—because there is no room in the church to affirm you. And we ask: Why the heck does it matter what religious leaders say? Why do people’s lives turn on the app...

Have you ever wondered why the conservative nonaffirming rules-based church is so upside-down? They focus downline, shaming and threatening regular people who are just trying to live. Meanwhile, these leaders are hiding rampant child sexual abuse and promoting teachings that are racist, misogynistic, queerphobic, especially transphobic. We’ve been talking about how the teachings of religion are Te...

June is Pride Month—a time dedicated not just to parades and rainbow flags but to profound affirmation and resistance against discrimination. The skewed Christian view of pride involves a self-centered attitude, placing oneself above others and, most critically, above God. But the LGBTQ+ community is not declaring themselves above anyone else. Pride Month was born from a necessity to stand against...

We have all heard it: "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand."   Actually, this is one of the worst translated passages in all the Bible – and one of the most harmful because of that. What if what Jesus REALLY said was, “Deconstruct, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.”  Would that change things?  Would it have eliminated a lot of the shame and guilt and harm?   In this powerful...

Today we deconstruct one of the most insane ideas in Christianity: The alleged fall of humanity, when one person ate forbidden fruit, and now, there is not one shred of goodness in us, not a spark, unless we have asked Jesus to be our Savior. That’s the story. The actual theory and false teaching is that because Eve and Adam sinned, the rest of us are born utterly depraved, beyond redemption. Wow....

Rules, laws, shoulds, shouldn’ts... the Bible is full of them. And the church has even added more to that list! The religious leaders approached Jesus and asked, “Hey Jesus, Uh, lot’s of rules here, lots of laws, what are the ones that are the most important?” And Jesus deconstructed ALL the law, ALL of those rules, ALL of the rules the church adds to it and answered… “Love. Love God, love others...

We’ve been wanting to talk for a while about how the conservative evangelical church traps people. It is deliberate. They draw you in, telling you: God loves you just as you are — yes you’re a sinner, we’re all sinners, duh. But God loves you — just some minor tweaking here and there, and you’ll be good as new. They dismantle you, making you an enemy of your own heart, mind, body, and spirit - mak...

Today, we talk about how the church teaches us to have contempt for our own free will.  And, in particular, how we have contempt for, interact with, and treat our children . This may sound harsh, but, based on their teachings and beliefs, it’s the truth : The religious, rules-based, behavior-focused, conservative church hates its children! One of the biggest brainwashing con jobs from the church i...

We have started to ask the question: Who is God? It’s certainly NOT the old white man in the sky, with all the feminine aspects ripped out. Something has been stolen from us. Our sacred interior has been ransacked and we have lost the understanding of God who loves us, delights in us. This is vital because when we know God feels this way about us — we are free to feel this way about ourselves — an...

Today, we talk all about an example of how gender plays out in real life. How masculinity and femininity are perceived and received, and the impact it has. When you reduce the feminine, you reduce all the feminine traits: of caring, healing, listening, loving—which are indispensable as a balance to the masculine. What happens when you do that is toxic masculinity—when masculinity is not balanced b...

What is masculine and what is feminine? What is our understanding of what they mean? Why does it matter? And why is the culture, and especially the church, holding so hard to traditional definitions? Gender has been turned into a false binary that has assigned roles based on gender with very little tolerance for crossover—even though all of us have masculine and feminine in us, and both are necess...

Here we go! We begin our deep-dive into deconstruction by talking about the core of the false teachings coming from the ultra-religious, non-affirming, conditional-love church. It is the root of our racism, queerphobia, xenophobia, misogyny—so much of our problems and issues today. What is it? It is the Teaching of Contempt. Us versus them. So, what is contempt? Contempt means to view someone, a p...

It’s important to deconstruct – especially when your faith has been rattled by religious abuse. You likely know exactly what I am talking about. If we do not deconstruct, we can be left with a lot of baggage. It’s vital to separate the God of Religion from the truth of God.  Today we have some fun – and we pose a pretty big question. Beloved, gather round for Bible Story Time ! We share with you t...

Sometimes, when people attack deconstruction, they talk about it like it’s an attack on Christianity. Actually, it’s just the opposite. Deconstruction is tearing down false religious teaching that goes against the message and life of Jesus. That message has been perverted by much of the Christian religion. Beloved, there is one thing that scares this non-affirming, fundamentalist, legalistic, rule...

Have you been called a Prodigal, and told that if you just repent all will be forgiven? Perhaps you’ve been told that, “Sure, you’re saying you’re gay or transgender—or that you are affirming your LGBTQ+ child--or whatever it is—but one day you’ll repent and then we will “graciously” let you back in the fold!” Uh yeah, no thank you.  Few stories are as misused and misunderstood as the Prodigal. Ou...

The story of the prodigal has been misunderstood and abused to harm and shame people. In this very special, powerful episode, we give you a profound, eye-opening retelling of this classic Biblical story about the prodigal – but this time as a transgender woman And she is certainly not the one who repents. This will forever change how you view this story! Send us a private message. *Note: INCLUDE Y...

When you begin to deconstruct everything you have believed, you begin to wonder who you are.   You’re left wondering: how do I view the world now?   It’s like someone healing from ongoing abuse, and they don’t really know who they are without it—if they’re not an abuse-survivor, who are they?   If you’re not a “Christian,” who are you?   It’s a big question for so many.  Send us a private message....

We hear from Christian parents every single day .  Many give reasons why they just will not support, accept, affirm their LGBTQ+ child. Usually because of their interpretation of the Bible and what their pastors have told them to do. Today we share an email and our answer to a Mom about why parents absolutely MUST support, accept and affirm their LGBTQ+ child.   It is indeed the Christian thing to...

We have an amazing capacity to normalize things that can be unbearably painful.   It’s a great survival skill. It really does help us survive unimaginable circumstances. But it’s NOT a great thriving skill. Once you’re past the danger, once you survive, you need a new pattern to thrive.   And you need to know that trauma, those unbearable, dysfunctional family issues – especially those surrounding...

We are not huge fans of New Year’s resolutions.  Kind of feels like setting yourself up to fail. I understand the power of motivation and commitment, setting a goal, pushing yourself – but somehow this feels different.   So, instead of New Year’s resolutions – we are doing New Year’s revolutions!    We give you 7 things to stop and 7 things to start that can be life-changing , revolutionary for yo...

The anti-gay church has done a lot of damage as it is a system that was built on exclusion. So, if we find ourselves excluded for whatever reason, we take a lot of baggage with us – false teachings, shame, guilt, cult-like programming. One huge piece of baggage is doubt – wondering if we really are right about all of this. About LGBTQ+. About deconstruction. This is an important episode for our he...

I have tiny babies in my life now – my grandchildren. I love them – as they are, for who they are. Unconditionally. They don’t have to do anything to earn that.  And they never, ever will. As we grow up, sometimes parents do and say hurtful things and withhold the love and acceptance you deserve. You don’t, and never did deserve that. So, today I want to give you a gift, just from me, and talk to...

After you have deconstructed, Christmas becomes an interesting season doesn’t it? Our view of God has expanded, our faith has expanded. In this beautiful, very special holiday episode, we share three stories - one from Alice Walker, author of The Color Purple; one from Sandra Cisneros; and a unique retelling of the Biblical story for us outliers, the rest of us. I hope these unwrap the way we see...

Have you been uninvited to a holiday or family gathering?  Yeah, us too. And honestly, is that kind of event the last place you would want to be because of things that are said or just because of how you are made to feel?  We are right in the middle of the holiday season, and all the family issues and triggers that can bring. So, let’s talk about how to navigate difficult family situations, and al...